Crying And Craving Help !!

[nanawendy]

I am 56 days smoke free today. I thought I was doing alright until my Husband asked me if I wanted to go out for breakfast this morning. Suddenly out of nowhere the tears started , and then the craving for a cigarette. Not jut a little craving, but a knock you to your knees crave. Is this normal or have I finally gone over the edge ? I will not lose my quit over this. I WILL NOT !!

[Danno_11-10-12]

You are indeed in No Man's Land.  It's like a punch in the gut...and then another. 

First, just breathe.  Slow, deep cleansing breaths.  The urge will pass.  Focus on how far you have come and how successful you are with 56 great days free from this trash.  You will look back on this in a little while with a big exhale.  You are doing this and it gets better.  I'm day 107 (or 108) and know what you are speaking of. 

[diane3]

Just take a deep breath, chew some gum, walk around for a little while,but DO NOT  SMOKE.  Its not worth it you have 56 days just keep thinking about that, you don't want to start all over, go have breakfast relax and enjoy

good luck!!!!

[YoungAtHeart]

PERFECTLY normal.  The same thing happened to me - and it almost caused me to lose my quit.  You are in No Man's Land  (2-4 months after your quit date) - a time when you have kinda let your guard down, your friends and family think you should be "over it already," and out of the clear blue sky, a crave will ambush you that brings you to your knees  It seems to last longer and be more intense than those in the beginning of your quit.  

Use the same methods you did early in your quit to distract yoursellf.  Go for a brisk walk, march in place, bit into a lemon (yup - rind and all), stick your head in a freezer and take a deep breath, take slower and slower deep breaths.  The NML craziness can last 1-2 weeks, but when it's over, it will be the last of the intense cravings and when you think of smoking a cigarette, it will become more like a smoking "memory."

Think of this as the nicodemon's final push to get you back.  Kick him to the curb.  Remember, sometimes it's one minute at a time - but you CAN do this!

Nancy

Quit 7/4/12

[owlfeather]

Yes it is normal, and you are right.  YOU WILL NOT lose your quit over this, because it will pass.  We are so proud of you to come here FIRST .....Some call that the sucker punch.  Like someone hit you with a sock filled with a roll of quarters.  Knock you to your knees.  Out of nowhere.  But it will pass, and you will be stronger.  What can you do to change it up?  Crying is o.k. BTW. What else can you do?  Go for a walk/run?  Hang out on whyquit.com for a while?  Take a shower?  Bite a lemon?  Comment on others Blogs here?  Scream into a pillow?  Bake?  Ask Hubby for a hug?  Breathe.......deep.......in....out........ahhhhhhhh........Stretch.........You are going to be just fine......Do a Pledge....Keep Calm and Carry On......

Wow.  56 days!  YaaaaaayyyyyyHoooooooooooooooooooooottttttttttttt!  That is awesome.  This will pass and you will be stronger for it.  It will pass, we can allpromise you that.  So proud you came here first.  Good Job!  Breathe.....................

[cyn9]

Its normal. Go ahead and cry. Then look in the mirror and be proud of how wonderful your doing! You smell great! Your skin looks better! You have clean air in your lungs! Your doing something AWESOME!!!! Go have a wonderful breakfast, smile and be PROUD at what you have accomplished.  HUGS!

[SarahP]

keep calm and carry on is exactly right -- this kind of sucker punch will come now and then, thankfully not often, and you can get past it! Your inner addict is really, really mad at you for going 56 days without him, he thought he had you under his thumb. You've proven him wrong, haven't you? Well prove him wrong again -- tell him to take a hike, you've got more important things to do with your life now than smoke! 

You're doing great!  Please check in, let us know what you're feeling! 

[cyn9]

[Brenda_M]

Nap! A nap is the cure. Good on you for coming here FIRST. You got this...you can do it!

[Yaya2.6.10]

You are doing great!  The smartest thing you did was come here and yell for hellp and you got it!  We've all been there and the first time it happens is scary and frustrating.  You are in No Man's Land and you think you are over the worst and a crave comes out of the blue.  These will subside so stay strong and determined.

[Buddy12]

Yep......same thing happened to me....I'm on day 148 now, though, and that doesn't occur as intensly as before....I do like someone suggested before....look in the mirror and think of what I've accomplished, knowing that it could be so easily destroyed with one puff.....but NOPE.......I'm never going back to that miserable life of smoking.....I'm too proud of and happy with the new non smoking me! If I have to suffer though an intense craving now and then....to get to  this new non smoking life.....so be it....it's worth it. Good luck to you and let us know how you' re doing.

[Nyima_1.6.13]

It has happened to me on several occassions! It is so scarey and I can't say that I think seriously about having a cigarette but I worry about where all this emotion has been and where it is coming from. I don't think of myself as sad or depressed but I imagine I have blunted lots of emotional reactions in the past by grabbing the smoke. Now I spend my time trying to figure out "where the h@*L did that come from" and sometimes it's even laughable!! Good for you, protect your quit no matter what you have to do!

[jojo_2-24-11]

nanawendy, You are right on target with what you are experiencing! So happy you came here, you really did listen when people told you to come and blog, Help! Nice going! I agree with all the advice everyone gave you. I especially like the nap but not before the good cry! Congrats on your 56 days and for working the plan. xxxx

[lstamus]

Dear Nan, I know what you r talking about, this afternoon has seemed rough andmaybe the nicodemon is fighting me and Iam fighting back. I too have cried and tears poor out of me whenI least expect,don't know where there coming from. I am protectingmy quit,eventook the dog for a walk and have to do some cooking after while.  I will have to try lemon juice to get this craving knocked down. and keep themicodemon at bay. He needs to be destroyed forever. I really canfeel for you this has been a tougher day than I expected,so will really have tokeep my guard u p. Love you Lstamus

[Jordan-11-1-12]

I hope you're feeling better. I, too, are in No Mans Land, and lots of time its no fun.  The same thing has happened to me a few times. I go for days without thinking of smoking, and then suddenly i'm tackled by a crave!  These sneak attacks won't last forever!!  Remember that you're not alone... and be proud that you came here and blogged instead ofdoing something that you'd regret!  That's a great job protecting your quit!!