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Countdown to ONE YEAR for my BFF Teddy/Joy!

SkyGirl
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Tomorrow, on November 5, Joyeuxencore, hits her ONE YEAR mark! 

I know her as Teddy (because she is my friend in real life and because her real name is Theda), but I know many of you think of her as "Joy"  And what a PERFECT way to think of her.

It's hard to believe she's only been here on EX for one year, because of all the encouragement, wisdom and love (yes, definitely LOVE) that she brings here to all of us! 

What an incredible positive atmosphere Teddy creates here on EX just by being herself.  She makes sure to pass on the practical stuff (like links to Allen Carr), but she also makes sure to be the emotional rock that everyone knows they can lean on when they need an extra loving dose of "You CAN do this"!

I was reading some of Teddy's first blogs this afternoon because I wanted to find some quotes to compare the way Teddy felt when she first got here to EX to how she is such a strong Quitter today.  I couldn't have found a greater way to demonstrate to all of our new EXers how much can change in just one year!!

Here are some quotes from Teddy's earliest blogs:

"I feel absolutely terrified to be without cigarettes.Terrified. Like I am going crazy already".

"I would rather smoke than anything else. It's good to actually type that so I can witness the insanity going on between my ears."

"So incredible to have this support. I would not have made it 4 days otherwise.  Of that I am sure".

"I'm unbearably excited to be in my 9th smokefree day, however, the truth is I feel horrible physically...STILL: my joints ache, my legs have shooting pains at night my heart races when I can't sleep...I get extremely uncomfortable when the cravings hit like I'm going to scale skyscrapers like spiderman with my bare hands!".

THIS IS OUR JOYEUXENCORE????  Yes, it is.  Or rather, it WAS. 

I posted these quotes from her old blogs because I know that the most important thing in the world to her is to have a postive impact on people...to make a DIFFERENCE in someone's life.

Teddy, you have NO idea how much of a difference you have made here on EX in just one year.  Yes, there are the folks that have quit for several years and they have invaluable advice for all of us.  You and I both respect and admire those EXers.  We are so grateful to know them and to benefit from their wisdom.

But...there are Newbies here every single day who look for someone who will "get" them.  Someone who has been where they are and has made it to where they want to be. Someone who is still close enough to where they are right now to still understand the fear and the uncertainty.  That's YOU, Teddy.

Yes, indeed, you may sound like someone who has never had a moment's doubt about quitting.The confidence and wisdom and caring you exude in your comments is incredibly solid!  Yet, I often tease you about being all flowers,crystals,rainbows and cute puppies.  (yeah, sorry, the whole yin/yang thing we laugh about, kiddo!)

So I think your greatest gift here on your ONE YEAR anniversary is to allow folks to know that even someone as wonderful as you started out (just like the rest of us) at a place of fear and uncertainty. 

And that YOU are a shining example of how someone can be unsure, be scared, be anxious, be angry, be scared...and still beat their nicotine addiction.

The best part is how you give back, Teddy.  When I grow up, I want to be just like you!  Happy ONE YEAR anniversary and welcome to the 6% Club.  I love the heck out of you.

xxxxxxxxxxoooooooo to my BFF,     Sky

33 Comments
phyllis-12-7-15

A SUPER tribute to one SUPER lady. Great job Sky.

Joy was one of the 1st to welcome me here and offer help and encouragement.

So proud and happy for you......you DID it. WOO HOO 

 MEMBER of the 6% CLUB

HUGS

Strudel
Member

Sky - I join you in honoring our dear Teddy! What a great tribute you have written here! Thank you - and thank you to Teddy for her dedicated support to others here at EX! I sure hope to see you BOTH in Orlando in Florida! 

ret
Member

Awesome and truthfull blog.  Congrads Joy.

RET 5*12*13

whognu_1-2007
Member

a wonderful testimony to the journey of a wonderful giving heart

nikki77
Member

Love to you teddy!!! You are amazing:)

Danno_11-10-12

She is the heart and soul of this place. Joy is amazing. Well said Sky.

freeneasy
Member

Teddy /Joy is a wonderful,giving, gifted person and this place is so much better because of her.

pir8fan
Member

Thank you Sky, for this tribute to Teddy! All that you say is true! And more! I am a facts and figures kind of guy, so, please allow me to toss out a few numbers!

In one short year, Teddy has become the 13th most popular member in the entire history of this site!

Two of those ahead of her are no longer members here!

Two more no longer contribute here!

One, Ray (ManOfSteele) Steele, has gone too his reward, after blazing a clear trail for so many who came behind him! We salute you Ray!

One more, is Dr. Hurt, and I honestly believe that his possition is more honorary than earned!

So if you subtract the six above, our Teddy is the 8th most popular active member of this site! In one short year, she has reached out to so many, and done so much that it is hard to imagine!

@ Teddy, You are awesome!! Continue to do what you do! You are changing outcomes, and saving lives! I am proud that you allow me to call you my Friend! ConGrats on the first full year of Your New and Improved Smoke free Life!! XOXOX

Tommy

rosemary12
Member

Joy has always been there in my 22 days, her words gave me comfort to know I'm not alone. So appreciative of her support. 

Rosemary

newlife5
Member

congrats teddy, i am so proud of you... you have encouraged me 100 %  of the way

love yoy,

izzy

Patty-cake
Member

Yes, the tribute here to Teddy is totally accurate. Loving, Caring, Always there for you...

The descriptions are endless. 

Teddy.....

Congratulations on joining the 6% club. You are an incredible woman! 🙂

newlife5
Member

almost forgot the one thing that always makes me think of you...xoxo

Jordan-11-1-12

Can't stop smiling for you, my dear friend.....  freedom could not have happened to a nicer person!!!   We love and need you so much!!!!  There really isn't anything left to say so I'll just give you a virtual hug now!!   Can you feel it????

(great tribute, Nancy!!)

ljguptill
Member

Awesome tribute for a real lifesaver! Thanks for being here Joy! 

Thomas3.20.2010
When Teddy joined BecomeanEX she transformed the entire Community! We didn't know it then and we could never doubt it now! Welcome, Young Lady, to the 6% Club!!!
debra
Member

Wow! Reading all this here makes me feel even more fortunate to have you as my friend 🙂 Vous etes tres jolie---meaning beautiful. Your spirit, kindness, friendship, caring; you are definately a "joy". Thank you and congrats!

candylance
Member

Thank you, Joyeux,  for all that you do, the many people that you've helped (including me) and just for being you. You so deserve to be a part of the 6% club. Thanks for all that you do.

smorgy8513
Member

Sky,  What a great tribute to a wonderful lady!     I love Teddy (Joy) as she has been so supportive and giving to me and everyone else here.           I'm going to leave the rest until the party today!!!!!

Let's get this thing going!

ShawnP
Member

Awwwwww what a fabulous wonderful tribute. I have seen the change and am so happy to be celebrating with you Teddy today. Thanks for everything that you do here!

Brenda_M
Member

She is a super-special lady. This is such a lovely tribute to her. I feel honored to know her, be her friend, and be on this journey with her. Congratulations, Teddy!!!

kshields59
Member

She is one special person, who has been with me thru day 1, even though we are 1 day apart from each other, I honor her in all she has done and shown on this site for everyone. Congratulations on your 1 yr, and manymore to come. Teddy!!!!!!!!!!.

YoungAtHeart
Member

I can't add a thing. except  my thank you for all you do.

Congratulations!

 Nancy

JRC
Member

I don't think words can describe someone so special. Just thank you, thank you, thank you Joy(Teddy)!!

Mike.n.Atlanta

A proper tribute to a great lady Sky. We love you "Joy".

Keep on keepin on,

M n @

Stac2
Member

Thank you so much Teddy for all you do.  You are an incredible inspiration, support, and friend to all of us.  You always bring cheer and happiness and we are so lucky to have you as our friend.

CONGRATULATIONS ON ONE YEAR!!!!!!! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU AND PROUD OF YOU AND IT IS TIME TO CELEBRATE BIG TIME! I WISH I COULD BE WITH YOU AT THE POOL TODAY TO CELEBRATE IN PERSON, BUT PLEASE KNOW YOU ARE IN MY HEART. I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!

BALLOONS!!!!!!!!!!!

GAZOOS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CAKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FLOWERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HORNS BLOWING!!!!!!!!!

BANNERS FLYING!!!!!!!!!!!

CONFETTI FLYING!!!!!!!!!!!

AND ...

BIG HUGS ((((TEDDY))))

LOVE, STAC

Giulia
Member

You said it all, Sky, and in such a beautiful way.  We sure are proud of you, Teddy.  Thanks for alll the grace and love you exude every day on here.  Happy One Year!

joyeuxencore
Member

Wow...I am absolutely overwhelmed with gorgeous emotions right now...One of the greatest things by far about being free of nicotine addiction is to 'feel' everything authentically...That and the friends I have made here on EX...

I was on the phone with Nancy/Skygirl for well over an hour last night just catching up...Thank you my dearest friend for this wonderful tribute...You are such a blesing in my life!

I love 'being a part' of people finding freedom from nicotine addiction...It is my 'dopamine delivery' of choice these days...There is nothing like it...

There is a spiritual discipline that says "We are generous out of self-interest, when we are healed we are not healed alone"

I am never alone anymore because of this community...Thanks friends! xo

jojo_2-24-11
Member

Simply Beautiful! : )

froguelady
Member

Congratulations to a wonderful lady and super supporter of EX.

freedom-38
Member

Joy to the world!! Congrats on your wonderful one year!! 

Kari xoxoxoxo

Nyima_1.6.13
Member

Thanks for the wonderful words sky! Teddy you are fabulous!

stonecipher
Member

A beautiful tribute to a beautiful person.

Congratulations on one year, Joyeaux!  You have gottten here with such grace and meekness.  Bless you.

moody_9-18-13
Member

There are some people who are just lovely in every way....

Congratulations, Joy!

Thank you for teaching me to make my quit into something beautiful, for without you leading me in that direction, I'm not sure I could have done this. Tonight at 10pm, 7 weeks ago, I smoked my last cigarette. I had smoked a pack a day for 40 years.

You gave me information I needed to be prepared to quit. You gave me strength, tons of encouragement and it is obvious how much you care about people.

We EXers love you and wish you all of God's blessings that you so richly deserve.

Moody

About the Author
I'm a 64 year-old flight attendant for a major US airline. Prior to that, I owned an ice cream store and six hot dog carts and put my five kids thru college on hot dog earnings! Prior to THAT, I was Director of International Administration for Domino's Pizza, Inc. I was married to my H.S. sweetheart (dad of my 5 kids) for 17 years. I've been with Jeff for 23 years, but we just finally got married in 2016! Jeff & I live in Cape Meares, OR right on the beach. I'm from Ann Arbor, MI, where many of my kids/relatives still live. My flying base is Washington, DC, where I have a condo that I stay in when I'm between flying trips. My dream is to retire and stay home with Jeff and my two cats, Kenneth & Barbara...not happening soon, though. So I go home whenever I can get a week or more off. I LOVE to meet up with other EXers in the cities where I lay over. I usually blog about what cities I'm laying over in, so let me know if I'm staying near you! I'll buy dinner!! Xxxooo, Sky