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Commitment

Thomas3.20.2010
12 9 108

I doubt very many of us have found smoking cessation easy. We learned how to quit smoking by relying on each other and then as we got our confidence by paying it forward. 

Here's something to remember - more folks have quit smoking than those who are still fighting the addiction. There is absolutely nothing different about the quitters and the wannabes! What we have chosen is to stay committed to ourselves. How many times did I say "nobody will notice if I cheat?" I lost count!

What made this quit journey successful for me is the daily pledge:

"I Thomas pledge that I will not smoke today for any reason whatsoever!" I had to honor that pledge, yes, to the Community but most important of all - to myself. 

I had plenty of days of wanting to throw in the towel and go back to nicotine. It was especially tempting when vaping became popular. But I honored my pledge and found something else to do which gave me something else to think about. 

It's important to note that anybody who comes near third hand smoke really does notice so you aren't sneaking around after all! They notice! Even if you changed clothes afterward, took a shower, brushed your teeth, applied perfume and ate an altoid. It smells! Your hair smells, your hands smell, even after all that covering up you do smell. 

Another tell-tale sign is your attitude - there's a big difference between a quitter and somebody who relapsed - honesty! You can be as honest as you like but if you're lying about smoking to yourself it shows! 

Commitment isn't about going 10 years without smoking! Had I promised myself 10 years of smobriety I doubt that I could do that! It's about not smoking this minute...and this minute...and this minute so that minutes stack up to hours, hours to days and days to years! 

Make a commitment to yourself today - just for today. And repeat your pledge tomorrow. That's how you make this quit journey doable.

Use all that energy of sneaking around to be 100% accountable - to yourself and you will achieve Freedom from Nicotine Addiction. We're here to help but the commitment has to come from you. 

LLAP!

9 Comments
YoungAtHeart
Member

Sage advice from one of our most respected elders.

Good to see you, Thomas.

May you Live Long and Prosper!

Nancy

sweetplt
Member

Good to see you Thomas Thomas3.20.2010 ... Good post...Hope you have been safe and well...Colleen 542 DOF 

MarilynH
Member

I ditto what Nancy says above me Thomas actually I'm going to double ditto what she says let's triple ditto it, it's wonderful to see you my friend and fellow EXer and most definetly EXtended family it's hard to believe that I'm edging closer to 6 glorious years of FREEDOM and I did it one precious Smokefree Day at a time or hour minute or even a second at a time and with the help of this community I made it through and you were one of the people here that was a tremendous help to me.

forgivememyhrt

Beautifully written and very caring.  And kind of creepily mind-reading.  How did you know about "Nobody will notice if I cheat..."  and the whole being a constant liar thing.   Anyway, very inspiring. 

Strudel
Member

Wonderful Thomas....so happy to see you! 

Daniela2016
Member

Good to see you Thomas, I hope you've been doing well.  And great timing/lesson for me, as my resolve to stay quit find its self in danger a short while ago.  But I came here, and I blogged about it; and give our peers a chance to answer, and answered they did: they called, texted, blogged, yelled, checked on me, and I am still standing. What you are saying is so true: it is one day at the time.  Wouldn't you like for the smoking to be planned?  But it's not, we can't say "I'll smoke for a couple of years, then I'll quit again, after all we know how it's done".  Wrong!  We are addicts and that "plan" does not apply to us. We can never, ever go back hoping we'll quit again, soon...it never works that way. Thank you for the reminder, I needed it!

Barb102
Member

Thanks Thomas. You are so wise and loved

maryfreecig
Member

Thanks, Thomas. Words to live by through all storms--it really does take daily commitment to accept smobriety.

Christine13
Member

Thank you Thomas for this.  Hope you are well.

About the Author
63 years old. 20 year smoker. 11 Years FREE! Diagnosed with COPD. Choosing a Quality LIFE! It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. -Galatians 5:1