Got to 12:00 noon not smoking, bought a pack at the grocery store. Have to start all over DAMMIT!
I was so proud and I texted my husband and got NO response, told my son and got "sure mom"...support is not something you get around my space for anything "feely". And then my 16 yr old dog peed in my kitchen (she's gonna be Alien bate for that!!!) and picked a fine time to do so. So I am already as pishy as I can be anyway and I knew I had to do a store run before the snow! So I get my shopping done and I had no intention of buying smokes BUT there I was and outside before I could get my head extracted from the Nether-parts not to light one...and now I've had FOUR!
I am so angry and disappointed with myself. I smoked at them and at my own expectations of failing! I fell for the old expectations trap B.S.! AND it was so nasty to light up!! Yeuch! I didn't cough all morning!
Now Recovery is NOT new to me, after the 30 yrs of sobriety...IT loses it's glow, gang! Yes , I am a grateful sober person and that I won't die of Alcoholism (Praise God) But smoking is part of the "ism" and is an addiction unto itself. It's a double whammy-o! Smoking is as much a Spiritual struggle for me as it is physical. Addition is a disease, yes but my God, it is an affliction, as well.
So now I dread the Alanon looks on the faces of my husband and son...the ones that say "I told you so" and go with the finger pointing. But these guys have no other expectations of me than failure and that hurts!
I keep telling myself that even though I relapsed...Hell, I didn't even start did I...that God is still on the throne and NO weapon formed against me will prosper and that I just start over. BUT I don't want to do that, I want to do it right the first time, unrealistic I know, I want a perfect quit! Once and for all...I WANT WHAT I WANT AND I WANT IT NOW! Not unreasonable for a Recovering Alcoholic Adult Child of Alcoholic/Dysfunctional Parents, is it! lol...Yes, I know it is! Patience with myself is not my best attribute.
Your support is GREATLY appreciated.
Thanks,
Lyn