Angry at myself!

[jezzlynsmommy]

I know I just started this whole quitting thing. I just signed up and I am now tracking my cigarettes. I've actually been trying to quit for a while, since I found out I was pregnant, and I find it even harder to put them down now! I want to stop for my daughter, I am 6 months pregnant, and everytime I smoke I feel like I am harming her, and it drives me insane! I know that alone should be enough to stop, but it's not! I'm just sick of everyone I know judging me for smoking while pregnant! It's not something I want to do, you know harm my child. I started smoking when I was 16, that means I've only been doing it for 3 1/2 years, but it is a terrible habit to break! Non-Smokers don't seem to understand, and that's understandable, but why judge? I know it is aweful what  I am doing, but I try to look at it this way: I could be putting way worse things in my body for her to be getting..right? I mean, I judge myself enough over this, it's my child and I am doing it to her, I don't need other people to feed me negative comments all the time! What I need is support and help! I just really hope this works and helps me stop! 

[TheNewMe_Jo]

Unfortunately, I agree with the people who are feeding you negative comments. Your unborn child is like an animal, it can not defend itself from someone who is abusing it. You are setting your child up for a lifetime of health issues, not to mention yourself. You will get support here but you have to do this yourself and quit smoking. Your babies lungs have already partially developed. He is breathing in all the harmful chemicals and toxins that you inhale with every puff of smoke. Its going right into your blood stream and then into your babies.

Smoking is NOT a habit it's an addiction. Cigarettes contain ver 4000 chemicals, including arsenic - every time you inhale one puff of smoke you are becoming more and more addicted. Your baby is going to be born an addict. Ypou have to quit. The best way to do it is to just lay them down. Take it one day at a time and know you are being responsible for someone else's life.

Would you blow a big ball of smoke right into your babies face? Would you smoke a whole pack and exhale every bit of that smoke into your babies face? Thats exactly what you are doing... think about it. 6 months into your pregnancy, you are more than half way through, you don't have much longer til your baby is born, when do you plan on quitting?

I am NOT judging you, I am giving you FACTS.

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[beth84]

I understand, however, smoking does harm the unborn child, I know it is tough and you already are judging yourself.  However, you will feel terrible for the rest of your life if you've caused your child to have health issues such as asthma, add/adhd, diagnosis of unknown causes, autism/ asthbergers, there are so many things smoking does to the unborn child.  Think of it this way, you would not put a cigarrette in a newborns mouth let alone a child after it is born.  Your baby can also be born with addiction and brain chemical issues due to the toxins from smoking cigarrettes.  Your baby can also be born with things that when any child should be grown and on it's own, your baby may grow up and still need you dependently because it has so many issues it cannot make it on his/her own.  PLEASE what ever you do, DO NOT SMOKE anymore through the rest of this pregnancy.  I have 3 children, although I quit when pregnant mine all have issues and I could not imagine if I had smoked, too.  A dear friend of mine also smoked with her baby and he is delayed in many ways due to her smoking, she didn't smoke heavily.  Remember one thing, it is your choice to have your habit, but it is not the choice of the unborn child or those around you that have to breath your smoke.  Others are going to judge you because it is not an acceptable practice, you can quit, you are choosing not to, know one ever said it is easy, we are all here in the fight together.  Please protect your baby, if you are not your own child's advocate you can't expect others to be either.  People are not judging you, they are concerned for your unborn child, smoking effects everyone in some form or another.  The people you feel are judging you are speaking to you to get it through to you that this is not good.  Sometimes constructive critisizm hurts and our egos get in the way.  They are not worried about whether you are being hard on yourself, because your actions speak louder than them worrying about how you feel, they are concerned for how the baby feels.  It is a beautiful thing to see a healthy woman pregnant and it destroys the hope of another wonderful human being brought into this world contaminated and harmed by smoking.  You need to do the right thing and stop now, let your baby have the oxygen and nutrients it needs to live a healthy life.  For the baby to be born with issues due to smoking is preventable.  I'm sorry if I look to be judgmental, but it is hard to expect too much from this one, you know what the right thing to do is, it is hard and people here will support you, you have to do your part.  My prayers are with you to ease up the stress and for a healthy baby, it's not too late.  When you hold that precious new life in your hands in 3 months it will be worth it to you to know you quit for your child.

Blessings,

Beth

[TheNewMe_Jo]

http://www.medicinenet.com/fetal_development_pictures_slideshow/article.htm

This is a slideshow of the baby's developement inside your body, starting at conception... 

[Thomas3.20.2010]

Is it so impossible for you to get them away from you? Why do you find it so difficult to keep them away from your face? If you don't go near them they sure aren't going to come to you! Find out about Nicotine Addiction but don't expect anybody to think that what you're doing is O.K. because it isn't. Actually, NO, there is nothing worse you can put in your body!

[beth84]

I agree with you Jo.  This deeply saddens me, I have three children all with issues and did not smoke, smoking brings on much more than people realize.  The therapies my children had to go to were also with others with children and some of the children I met with the parents stated, they smoked while pregnant.  Smoking and pregnancy are not an option.

Blessings,

Beth

[JonesCarpeDiem]

I'm just here to push your butt.

when you decide?

you let me know

[star17]

You said you're not smoking because of what it's doing to the baby. Yes, the chemicals that go in your blood go right into the baby's blood too, so use that as a motivator to quit. Use everyone's feedback here as a motivator to quit. There's nothing stronger than a mother protecting her child- she'll fight to the death!- use that motivation to your advantage.

It could be useful to you to look at the reasons why you do smoke. If you work on those reasons until you don't believe them anymore then quitting will be much easier. Download and read this book. It's free and it is really helpful to break down all the reasons why we smoke. 

http://joga.365.lt/Allen-Carr_Easy-Way-To-Stop-Smoking_Download-free-PDF-EBook

He says we smoke because of stress, relaxation, concentration, and boredom. One by one he shows how cigarettes make those things worse, not better. I totally agree- this book helped make my quit so easy compared to other times I tried to stop. My sis is pregnant and trying to quit and I just sent her the same book. For your sake and the baby's, give the book and give quitting a try. Best of luck!

[TheNewMe_Jo]

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