Anger Management

[Mandolinrain]

I suspect we have all been there, especially when we were fresh in our quits.

Anger.

So what's going on? 

From mu prespective , more than I can handle, thus the anger. 

When I was still smoking,  anger and a smoke went hand and hand...as did many many things, emotions, you name it, any flux of emotions required a smoke for me.

As a non-smoker I  deal differently with all of it. I learned, the smokes NEVER simplified or changed anything for those uncomfortable moments. They may have sedated the moment...but the problem was still there.

NOW I see the moment for what it is and deal with it appropriately .

Nicotine is a vicious drug. It screws your mind into believing it's lies. Please please please learn about this, read about this, understand this. I so promise you ...that once you do,.....you will beat the addition because it will truly anger you to see what the drug Nicotine has on you....it will truly make your QUIT so much more desirable.  Educating yourself on this addiction is SO KEY.

PLease read as many articles as you possibly can to inforce how Nicotine  effects your brain. Please blog OFTEN. Please ask for help 24/7 here as needed.

We care, we have your back.

[gregp136]

The anger has dissipated a bit, but still flairs up.  It is the nicotine leaving, but from inside me it feels like I am right, and no one is smart enough to see that I am right.  And the anger grows, explodes, at the inability of anyone to see that I am right and the world is wrong.  It is especially frustrating when it is a cup, or couch, or porch railing that is TOO STUPID to see that I am right and they are wrong!!!

For the record, the couch has always hated me!

[Mandolinrain]

You know what, from reading your posts, I sincerely think your gonna make it. You have a determination about you that so admirable. I really like your attitude, your 'get to the point' ability to muddle through the crappy times.. it's tuff Gregg, no doubt. I failed a lot before I finally did it. I will be praying you keep it up, your doing great my friend!

[katherineu]

Thank you for sharing your story, I know the anger is all to real.  I'm going on 10 weeks with out a puff, smoke free, praise GOD, but yes some days I am one angry woman and don't know how to deal with the anger, I just snap at family members but it doesn't help.  

When you first quit smoking cold turkey the anger and mood swings were really bad for me, I thought I was going to hurt someone (not really, you know what I mean) figure of speech people.  I had to learn how to stop fighting with my mind and start distracting my mind anytime a craving would hit.  I was going to justify any reason to smoke when I first quit, how desperate my body and mind was addicted to the nicotine, yikes.  

I still get a craving once in a while and I'm still dealing with mood swings but its not as bad, it does taper off, you have to make your mind up that you will not smoke no matter what, there will be no more excuses to ever smoke again, its not worth it.

My mom is 58 and was diagnosed this year with emphysema she has smoked all her life, she is now on an inhaler for her emphysema and she still smokes.  I have watched a handful of people in my family die due to smoking cigarettes and not one of them quit, they smoked until the day they died, they all died in their 50's.  Its a rude awakening but I don't want to die like that, I want to have an opportunity to live past the age of 60 and be in good health.

God Bless you on your journey, you can quit and break free of the addiction, stay positive and promise yourself everyday that you will not smoke for the next 24 hours!

[Mandolinrain]

Ditto, protect the quit... theres no  other option for me. I was recently told  have COPD, but that was before any actual testing. I recently had the testing and am waiting results. Getting scoped Wednesday. UGH! Love your attitude/quittatude:)

[elvan]

gregp136 and katherineu and Mandolinrain     I think we were all so used to stuffing our uncomfortable feelings like anger, grief, stress, fear...whatever it may be that we have to learn that it really is okay to be angry some times.  Clearly, it is not okay to hurt someone but if you snap at someone, an apology is usually pretty acceptable....I asked my family to try to understand, I am sure there were times when they wanted to punch ME.  I had the misfortune of going through a terrible loss at ten months when I lost my home and my beloved cats but I let the tears come when they needed to and I realized that it was OTHER PEOPLE who were uncomfortable with me tearing up or crying, there was absolutely nothing wrong with me expressing that grief.  I stuffed things for so long that I had forgotten how to let them out. Anger sometimes needs to come out, punch a pillow, go somewhere private and SCREAM, get in the water and punch like you are boxing under water, see your enemy as addiction and let it out when you need to.  Stuffing is for teddy bears.  My anger needs to come out and not get stuffed back in.

[katherineu]

Would you keep us posted on your test results, and let us know how the scope goes.  I'm praying for you!

[Mandolinrain]

Hi Katherine...yes I will keep everyone posted. Scope is being moved up a week because a friend of ours died and her funeral is Wednesday.  So they hope to just do it the following week. Thanks for the prayers !