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Allen Carr's "Easyway" to Quit

Jono28
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First off, I am amazed that as painful as this has been I refuse to even for a second  allow smoking to be an option for me. Over 16 days and over 400 cigarettes not smoked. 

But I am still in the angry phase of my quit. I am most angry with myself for allowing this addiction to hold me as long as it did, but there's definitely plenty of misdirected anger for those foolish enough to push my buttons right now. 

One such button is when well-intentioned friends or family tell me it'll get better. I of course THINK and HOPE they're right but at the moment I'm so busy just trying to get a decent breath in that there's very little trust in anything but eternal torture being the punishment I face for having smoked. 

One such friend recommended I read Allen Carr's book the "Easyway to Quit Smoking." Carr claims that 95% of those reading it quit without a single pang of withdrawal or discomfort and actually ENJOY quitting. 

Is it wrong to admit that had he not died in 2006 I'd like to find him and punch him in the throat?

According to this guy (who admittedly seems to have helped many quit, although I don't see how.) all you have to do is:

1 Make the decision that you are never going to smoke again.

2 Don't mope about it. Rejoice

Rejoice, really? Sheesh!

Later he expands upon it:

You can now enjoy the rest of your life as a happy non-smoker. In order to make sure that you do, you need to follow these simple instructions:
1 Keep this book safely in a place where you can easily refer to it. Do not lose it, lend it out or give it away.
2 If you ever start to envy another smoker, realize that they will be envious of you. You are not being deprived. They are.
3 Remember you did not enjoy being a smoker. That's why you stopped. You do enjoy being a non- smoker.
4 Remember, there is no such thing as just one cigarette.
5 Never doubt your decision never to smoke again. You know it's the correct decision,

Although I agree with all of the above - except #3 but that's just the anger talking - none of it makes quitting "easy," or "enjoyable." Seriously, enjoyable?? 

For me, this smoking cessation giru's entire "method" boils down to "Quit smoking and be happy about it," and by doing so you'll have quit smoking and been happy about it.

I quit and am committed to not smoking ever. It is not an option. I re-affirm that daily, and often hourly or by the minute as anxiety and withdrawal hammer at me.

It'll be worth it, I have no doubt. 

But I can't believe I read 111 pages of that idiot dishing out what I already knew, and which in no way impacts my misery at the moment. Seriously, over 100 pages of buildup only to have the method be, quit and be happy about it. And that will guarantee you have no withdrawal pain, nor ever feel the pull of a cigarette again. And to add insult to injury, remember,  he claims you'll actually enjoy the quit!

You know what would be I would enjoy? Punching him in the throat. But again, he died 14 years ago.

My apologies to any that were in fact helped by his book. I don't see how, but I'm envious and am happy for you.

Well, not really at the moment, but remember, I'm still in my angry stage. 🙂

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PastTense
Member

Heck yeah, Jono28‌!!!  Rant noted.

I am on record with my distaste of Allan Carr.  I found his book to be arrogant and self-serving.  Many, many people say they have quit with his help.  I dunno how.

You go right ahead with your fabulous quit and know that your way is the right way. 

PT

Barbscloud
Member

Congrats on your 16 days.   I  am also on record about Allan Carr's book.  The title alone is absurd to me - I still don't believe it's easy.  He has a whole series of books on how  easy it is lose weight, quit drinking, quitting sugar, etc.   If any of these things were easy to stop, we wouldn't have needed him to tell us about it.  I read the book after I had quit because it was recommended.  There is one thing I did learn when I read it, was how the nicotine in cigarettes were designed to only last a short time, so each time we smoked a cigarette we started to go into withdrawal about every 1/2 hour, so we need another one.  That was helpful to me.  Other than that....

You're early in your quit, so what you're feeling now is normal.  That doesn't make it easy, but it helped me to know what I was experiencing at different stages of this journey was to be expected.   

You've made the commitment and you will see the rewards.  Keep moving forward.

Barb

Jono28
Member

Thank you both for your comments. Somehow looking at reviews we are in the minority by far, but I just don't get how.

Came across so condescending to me and for the culmination after all the build up to be, quit smoking in order to quit smoking? Absolutely true, but not something anyone needs to pay for and definitely not worth the hype.

maryfreecig
Member

I saw a bit of Carr's material (an interview I believe) when I was preparing to quit. I had a strong negative reaction--but it was mostly about this--in quitting, he immediately turned to advise others--and it was all about just changing one's mind. Yeah,right, my mind is going to flip just like that? Not. I disregarded his work but did feel some resentment for a little while--like, who are you to tell me to smile and measure up to easy, peasy?

I knew that my quit was not going to come from playing the hero--I'd smoked a long time and had kinda given up on the idea of quitting. I found comfort in people telling their own quit story--on youtube. It worked for me. They weren't telling me how to quit, they were talking about what they went through--and since they were recovered--that helped me feel better.

Strudel
Member

I actually did find the book helpful.....and that was after 40 years of smoking. I quit almost 10 years ago. The Carr book, in conjunction with support here, made a difference for me. After reading it I felt I recognized the brainwashing I was suffering under in terms of nicotine. The “easy” or “happy” part was a matter of mind set. I actually used the idea of “faking it” until “making it” - it took a while - but, for me, it worked! There was a quitter here at the time I came on the site. He was about 6 months ahead of me....he called himself “James the Happy Quitter”. I thought that was ridiculous! Happy - ha! But, he convinced me! I am going to pull up the link to his page....in case you are interested in checking it out! Be right back with that link....

Most importantly- congrats on your quit! Happy or not you are doing this! I guess that was kind of my thought at the time I quit - the choice of being happy or not was up to me. 

Strudel
Member

Here is the link to James’ blogs - james41 

If you go back to his early days - 2010 - you will see the kinds of help he gave me to “get happy”!! 
Again - congrats! 

Jono28
Member

So well said. You articulated my thoughts perfectly. 🙂

Jono28
Member

Thank you! At this point the choice of whether to be happy or not is beyond my control. That said, happy or not, I choose not to smoke. 🙂

elvan
Member

It really WILL get easier, I wish I could tell you when but there is no exact time for any of us.  I believed it because it came from the people on this site.  I did not find Allen Carr to be my saving grace, I read it after I had been quit for a while.  There were some things that struck a chord with me later on.  Hang in there and you know what, it's okay to be angry, it's okay to be sad, it's okay to FEEL, we didn't do that when we were smoking, we stuffed everything down.  When our feelings surface, they are so much more intense than we remember...you can do this.  Stay close to the site.

Ellen

Kdot1st
Member

Yeah, I didn't even try to read it. The title itself was enough to make my decision for me. 

Now reading this blog is confirmation my 1st instinct was correct... for me. 

It's very irritating to me for anyone to tell me how I should feel. 

I once joined Overeaters Anonymous. It was suggested that I go ahead & read the AA Blue book. Now, I've never had a problem with alcohol. I might have an alcoholic drink 5 times a year, but reading that book made me want to have an adult beverage.

I guess I'm backwards. 

Karen

Jono28
Member

We are all alike and different at the same time. What helps one person often helps many others while at the same time, seems completely useless to others. 

The Carr book is one of many examples I guess. 

2 months quit and it still irks me though...lol

CoraLynnWhite
Member

i have to agree, when I first read the book I thought you pompous **bleep** what a loaf of bull crap. I did just read the new U.s. version and it is expanded and it changed my outlook and my life. I have been smoke free for 2 months and happily nicotine free for over 12 hours without a craving. I do understand why you are mad though. Lol and about the AA thing it is interesting when I joined Narcotics Anonymous because of drug addiction I realized I couldn't smoke and work my program because the drug is just so insidious. Most people in NA/AA do smoke however and don't see the hipocrasy. It takes all kinds