Addict hubby due back in 3 days

[trac33]

I have yet to conquer my craving for a cig when I am very stressed. I am going on about 6 weeks (its best for me not to realize the time). My hubby has been goine for job related training for this whole time and is due back Thurs. He was suppossed to have quit too, but has not. Now he claims he will not smoke or chew (he did both) when he gets back. I can't help but think there is NO WAY he will do that. The problem is that I DO still want to smoke. When I am stressed I still want that high, and the 10 minutes break to get away from the spouse and the kids/dogs. I am quitting for my health and the kids, but if my hubby doesn't quit too I don't know if I am strong enough. You are supposed to stay away from smokers.....I can't really stay away from my spouse. And of course many smokes were cut after arguments with him. How do I get around that one?!  Maybe with him back I will have more time to get away and not eat, or smoke. I may have to avoid contact....I doubt that'll go over well.  hmmmmmm

[sfaoro]

Unfortunately it sounds like you've already decided your fate.  It is ultimately your decision, nobody is going to take that smoke and put it in your mouth.  Think long and hard before you do it.

[trac33]

 I have decided he is not going to quit and wondered if anyone else had experience trying to quit and having someone in the house smoking "around' you. How do you deal with that!

[lebeau]

that's gotta be incredibly hard but i think sfaoro is right - regardless of what your husband does you need to make the decision for yourself and find a way to stick with it...he may never change but you sound like you want to so i think you can...

[mamadeb]

I must tell you that my husband smokes. I just quit 16 days ago, and I have not had even one puff. I am not going to lie and tell you it is easy---it is NOT---but I am doing it.

When there have been stressful times, I have literally left to take a walk around the block or a drive for 20 minutes or so. I just need to get to the other side of the crave. I always get there.

I just tell myself that I do not smoke anymore. One puff, and I am doomed! But I am making it through, day by day---everyday. Now, all of a sudden, I am finishing 16 days and looking forward to 17.

Listen, if I can do this , then so can you!!! There is always stress, and you KNOW that a smoke won't really take any stress away.

Keep coming to this site, keep talking, keep reading. YOU CAN DO THIS!!! You already have 6 weeks, keep it going--just one day at a time.

We will be thinking about you.

[anacondahead]

Take a stand and do it for yourself and no one else. You make a choice for your life and for those who love you. If you 'think' it to death or proclaim that you are not strong enough to do it, you have already shot yourself in the foot.

You are much more prepared for this than you give yourself credit for. Don't cave in to tall of the excuses.

You smoke or you don't smoke. Choose.

[daisy6]

When I quit 99 days ago, my Husband was a smoker. I had to make the choice every day not to smoke. If you decide that your Husbands smoking is going to ruin your quit it will. If you decide that your husbands smoking will NOT ruin your quit it will NOT. This is your quit, you make the decissions!

Tomorrow I will be 100 days smoke free.  And guess what? My Husband is 30 days smoke free.

See what you can do!