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A Very Bad Day

troy11
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Well I believe honesty is the best policy. I will not go into details but there was a lot of stress and unwanted tension going on where I live. Today I felt like I could not handle the stress and tension anymore. I was getting to the point to where I was having the shakes. Today I relapsed and smoked a few cigarettes and I feel very bad for allowing things to get the best of me. I feel really bad that I almost made it 60 days and I gave into my addiction to nicotine. I understand that what I have said so far is not an excuse for going back to smoking but the good news is that I am more than willing to try and quit smoking. This relapse is going to be weighing on my mind for a long time. I am asking for everybody's help again. I need to know the names of three books that I was reading to help me quit. I lost that information when I had my laptop worked on. The links that was recently sent to me was a big help and the only book that I was able to recover was "Never Take Another Puff." I can't remember the name of the two other books but I remember Allen Carr and it is his book that I need to read again. I hope that people here will not hate me for having a relapse and I hope that I don't lose any of the friends that I have made here. I am very sorry.

15 Comments
Strudel
Member

Troy - First - no one hates you! Second - you came back here right away and 'fessed up and asked for help.....that is a good thing. (Next time - promise yourself to ask for the help before you smoke!) Anyway - here are the links

A great free course is found at:   http://quitsmokingonline.com/ (includes 10 short courses to read through) and Allen Carr's book - "The Easy Way To Stop Smoking" - free download is found at -   http://joga.365.lt/Allen-Carr_Easy-Way-To-Stop-Smoking_Download-free-PDF-EBook
   
Troy - let's get back to this!! You know you can do it.......because you were doing it! You just need to figure out that smoking does not help that stress and tension! Not at all! I bet you feel worse now!
   
  Let's go!!
MarcieWhosoever

grrrrrr............ thats me mad!

Damn! ok I am better now. So lets get you back where you need to be. If you are still smoking throw them out now! wet them down and throw them out troy. If your not smoking, good. you relapsed. get over it and get back into this. You already proved that you CAN do it.

You already know but I will say it anyways, Smoking those cigs did NOT make everything all better in your home right? they didnt make anything better. Actually worse because look how you feel now. It sucks to feel angry and its worse to feel that way towards yourself. NOBODY will hate you or defriend you. We love you Troy 🙂

Now people might get down hard on you. You should expect that and listen to what they are saying.

I guess those links on your last blog didnt help. I will send you the link to allen carrs book right now and I will help you figure out what other book you need. I will go back to your first 1-2 blogs and see what people sent you. We can figure this out. hang in there and DO NOT SMOKE anymore!!

http://digg.com/news/lifestyle/Allen_Carr_s_Easy_Way_To_Stop_Smoking_Download_free_PDF

your friend always! Marcie

imadeer
Member

As painful as it seems,  I'd rather see you keep trying than give up Troy.

this is your life and somehow you thought smoking was more important.

Lets get you through this so you can get your shoulder worked on

MarcieWhosoever

well i went back and the only things i am seeing is :

http://digg.com/news/lifestyle/Allen_Carr_s_Easy_Way_To_Stop_Smoking_Download_free_PDF

and this..

http://quitsmokingonline.com/

and this but i think you have this one...

http://whyquit.com/joel/ntap.pdf

check this one out and see if this is it....

http://www.smokefree.gov/pubs/FF1.pdf

vickys79
Member

One thing I know about this site, no one will give up on you unless you give up on yourself. I am sure that nobody here is more disappointed than you are that you relapsed after almost 60 days. One time I nearly relapsed but I came here and cried out for help instead.  I got such quick and wholehearted support, by the time I finished posting and reading my replies, the terrible urge had passed and I felt strong enough to get on with my quit. This is a SUPPORT group. Please use it when you need it.

We are here to tell you that it really does get better.  The problem with quitting smoking is that it takes so long to get better.  We are here to help you get through that long long difficult time.  I am glad you came back. I hope you can make it this time.

newlife5
Member

troy   we are human.... and i have relapsed more than once so i can not judge.... what i can do is encourage you not to give up... you will find that you dont like smoking anymore... its just not the same after having quit for 60 days....

we are addicts and the way you quit is to stick with it... the clock thing is not that important what is important is that you quit smoking... your life depends on it...

so what you need to do now is review your quit plan .. develope it so that you can quit forever...

one step at a time... there must have been a loop hole in your plan  find it and close it... we are still here for you.. dont be afraid to come to us for help

maggie_8-1-2010

The thing is.... if there is going to be a close to next time don't let that happen. Come here and blog first. Do it 3 times and wait 10 minutes in between blogs to wait for reponses. Promise yourself to do that.

Breakinchains
Member

Yes, post before you smoke. Ask yourself one question. Did smoking make you feel better? Did it make anything better? No, so why do it?

jeannie2
Member
Yes bad choice, so that's 60 days that you lived free...life goes on....you just can't allow it yourself that choice....quit..zero...one is not an option and never enough...no excuses...and you will succeed. We all could throw in the towel right now and smoke a few...hell with it right? Well I said no to myself forever.....dude freakin love not smokin and get over it....you must choose
jeannie2
Member
Yes bad choice, so that's 60 days that you lived free...life goes on....you just can't allow it yourself that choice....quit..zero...one is not an option and never enough...no excuses...and you will succeed. We all could throw in the towel right now and smoke a few...hell with it right? Well I said no to myself forever.....dude freakin love not smokin and get over it....you must choose
EllenMT
Member

Be honest in your quit..honor your decision every single day to not smoke...that simple..NO EXCUSES NO SMOKING!

mojo8
Member

Sorry to hear that do not punish yourself but realize how esty it is to slip and go back to not smoking.  Just say no, nope or I am not a smoker anymore.  In the long run you are better off not smoking and you already know that, time to pull up the boot straps, or continue to make excuses for killing yourself.

breathe-free
Member

Well , get back on the horse again...as my Dad use to say to us as kids when we fell off or were bucked off!!   You probably already got that smoking didn't solve anything or make you feel better...we don't have to say much except NOPE and keep coming back!  breathe free

jawidge
Member

I wish everyone would read this post.

_1_
Member

Hi Troy, I'm new here (been lurking for over a week) and haven't officially introduced myself yet. However, I will tomorrow.  In the interim I could not help but respond to your blog.  I really feel for you and your situation.  I cannot stress enough how important it is to educate yourself before you re-commit to your quit.  Please, please read http://quitsmokingonline.com/  and Allen Carr's book at http://digg.com/news/lifestyle/Allen_Carr_s_Easy_Way_To_Stop_Smoking_Download_free_PDF.  Yes, you read right.  Do not try to use the willpower method or the wing and a prayer method as I call it.  I am 15 days into my quit and was doing the willpower/wing 'n a prayer and it was miserable. I have not smoked, but I have dedicated myself to reading the above cited works and the blogs on this site.

Please take the time to read first, think it over, plan and then quit.  It will fall into place better, and the struggle won't be so bad.  You will have "urges," but they are more like delusions: fixed, false beliefs.  You do not need nicotine in any form to get through life, and you certainly do not need to inhale toxins in your lungs to acheive an inner sense of peace and calm.  Simple deep breathing works wonders.

Again, I truly feel for you and wish you well.  Take the excellent advice the Elders have offered: they would not steer you (or anyone else) wrong.

Karen