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Today has been a train wreck here at work, BUT I have not gave into my addiction. Yay me!! I am struggling, but drinking my water and I splurged on a not so healthy drink, but it taste wonderful and made me smile. After a bad issue at work that should have been a learning experience, instead I was belittled, I went to the bathroom and just cried it out. I wanted to smoke so bad, but I stayed strong! NOPE!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks!
My thoughts exactly!!!
When we smoked, we hid from our emotions (especially from the difficult ones) behind a cloud of smoke. You not only got through a difficult moment today, but you learned a new coping skill. Getting the hurt out with tears is perfectly acceptable.
Growing pains, for sure - but growing!!!
Yahoooooooooo and WAY TO GO! GOOD JOB!!!
Good job!!!! I work customer service and believe people can be beyond mean. A cigarette was always a way for me to calm down after an ugly confrontation. I honestly didn’t know what I would do now that I didn’t smoke. But guess what here it is 6 months later and people are still hateful but I’m okay. Crying in the bathroom is a healthy way of dealing with sorrow. You done good!!!! Lighting up a cigarette would not have helped the situation in anyway. Life can be hard. People can be hateful. Smoking will change neither one of these facts. Don’t let this sabotage your quit. Cigarettes are not magic wands.
You should be so proud of yourself. You are amazing and can so do this!
Beck
Thank you! You are right that a cigarette wouldn't really help, but it sure sounded in my head like it would. The tears felt good, very good. I think I will pig out on pizza tonight haha! Thanks for the support!
Pizza is a good idea. Pampering yourself is important during your quit. It’s a reward for all the smart choices you are making in lieu of smoking!!!!
Keep up all your good work!
Beck
Good for you, I remember trying to smoke away my hurt feelings for years...now, I just feel them and you know what? They really aren't that bad and I have to feel sorry for the person who feels that belittling another is acceptable, it's NOT, EVER. Remember that we had good days and bad days when we smoked too...smoking really didn't make the bad days better.
You did a GREAT job, congratulations. Sorry about the tears but they can be a great release.
Hugs,
Ellen
Keep ranting bout those craves, it helps, all us are in the trenches with you. Even those that have long quit's see those sneaky addiction devils creep in on occasion, it scares us too. Congrats on the drop in blood pressure, ( my personal assumption ) even though your not able to tell, those of us whom have problems with that noticed it, especially after 3 days. So now your heart isn't working as hard, yeaaaa ! Keep us in the loop on your well being please.
Ah bathroom crying, been there, done that! You got through it WITHOUT a cigarette. Ya done GOOD! You just keep hanging in. Ya hear?!
I want a tee shirt that says that:: "TODAY HAS BEEN ?#$%" preferably a very feminine tee shirt in a flattering color! I would love to watch the confusion on the faces of people looking at me.
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Hahaha!
? Make what Mark?
It worked! Congratulations on not killing anyone! When I get a bad one on the phone or onscreen I always envision them as Jabba-the-Hut! Makes me smile! Stress ball works well too!
Could see how a stress ball would work if I could actually throw it at the customer? Just sayin.....
Beck
Haha:)
Good idea! Thank you!
So glad you didn’t smoke jenking ... and sorry that someone belittled you at work...that is awful...hoping today is a better one for you...Gotcha in my Thoughts .. let us know how you are doing ~ Colleen 200 DOF
It feels awful to be belittled. I am glad you went and cried it out instead of smoking over it!
Today is a new day!
I am a day behind here.
Never take it personally when someone belittles you. It is because they do not have communication skills.
Took me along time to figure that out. Now I find it rather funny to watch them. And as a result they stop as they are not seeing the reaction they want from me.
jenking and jonimarie I have always told my kids that when someone is unkind or particularly critical to "KILL THEM WITH KINDNESS"...it completely disarms them and they usually look very confused. My oldest daughter is a general manager for an Irish Pub and she says she uses that all the time and is always amused at the looks on the faces of the people who were being rude.
Oh, Mark, I really could have used that shirt on Friday. It might have had to be printed on both sides and down the sleeves as well.
Ellen
Good Job. There will be good days and bad days. There will be good moments and bad moments. It is a rollercoaster we ride when we start the quitting process. It will smooth out as long as you stay close and NOPE no matter, I use to ask myself what would a nonsmoker do?. You did GOOD Whoo HOO!