I had my head handed to me today by someone in a direct message. I was accused of showing a lack of understanding and caring and of telling someone that I hate slips or something to that effect. That is not something I say. I could not go back and read what I had written because the blog(s) had been deleted. I NEVER attack anyone, not in my real life or my virtual one. If you look at my profile and see that it says I smoked 9 cigarettes a day…that was the truth for the last few months I smoked. Prior to that, I smoked a pack to a pack and a half a day…not that it matters because addiction is addiction and nine cigarettes a day would have maintained a “healthy” and thriving addiction. They DID. Those of you who know me know that I did not have an easy first couple of years as an ex. Things happened, things happen to everyone…the difference was that I wasn’t smoking, I was growing. I was feeling things for the first time in a very long time. I guess I didn’t give a whole lot of thought to how I would feel if I was attacked for something I did not do or I don’t THINK I did. Falsely accused…that’s what it feels like, felt like. The person said she is leaving the site, I guess, in part, because of whatever “tough love” I am supposed to have used. It doesn’t matter because I will absolutely avoid any further contact the same way I would and DO avoid cigarettes. Just felt a weird need to vent…maybe to warn others that THEY may be attacked. It is why I responded “Thank you, Dale” to your blog on respect.
I apologized profusely for something I do not think I did and I also encouraged the person to remain on EX, promising that I will no longer comment on her blogs, no matter what they are.