New beginnings Day 1

Blog Post created by Verghese on Feb 2, 2018

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I have been a smoker now for 22 years. I also a very heavy smoker during this time. Recently there have been a major life events that has made me more motivated to quit then ever. I am about to become a father for the first time at 40. Yay!

Although this is a great motivator in the last 2 months I have quit cold turkey 3 times. Each time I get to Day 4 and then collapse. I registered on this site and already I have been so inspired by reading everyones posts. I can really relate to everyones experiences and advice.

I find it hard to share as a guy and just shy I guess but I have decided that this attempt I am going to participate in this program. Thanks for all your posts and to my fellow new quitters, I would like to send out encouragement and hope.

Thanks

Verghese

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maryfreecig Feb 2, 2018 3:57 PM
Welcome to Ex. You have a mighty big motivation to quit so stick with it. Caving at day 4 is a classic addiction fold if you ask me. Understandable, but now that you are a part of this support community, you've got tools to get past the addiction trap.
Keep learning about the addiction. Keep building your smobriety stronger and stronger. Yes you can one day at a time.
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tw5152017 Feb 2, 2018 4:02 PM
I felt the same way about sharing. But I had previously found great benefit to journaling, so that's how I saw what I was doing here. I was writing more for my benefit, to get it off my chest, than to "share" something. Of course, others will comment, which makes you feel good, and releases dopamine, etc. So it's all good! Welcome to Ex!
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MichelleDiane Feb 2, 2018 4:41 PM
Congratulations Verghese on your news of becoming a Dad. Quitting is the most amazing gift you can give to your soon to be little one. It isn't easy to quit, but very doable. Come to this site often. Read, read, read, and then write, write, and write. Take it one day at a time, an hour at a time, a minute at a time, or even a second at a time. I didn't think I could do this, but now I have a month under my belt and look forward to living day smoke free. Welcome, again, and I hope to see you around the community.
-Michelle
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Daniela-3-11-2016 Feb 2, 2018 4:43 PM
Hi Verghese, and first, big congrats on becoming a dad! And congratulations on your past attempts, and we would love to be able to help you make this one your last quit. Education about the addiction to cigarettes is a big factor in making the quit successful. So, to start I'd recommend to read a lot and select things you find can work for you better than others. I will recommend you read Allan Carr's book "The easy way to quit smoking", only about $7.00 on Amazon/Kindle version. Also here are some links, to help you navigate this site, and to help understand what to expect.
They have been put together by some of our elders (quit at least for 1 year), who are graciously giving their time and knowledge to this site to help anyone who decided to quit.
Please let us know how you would like to be helped, and we'll be more than happy to do it!
https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/community/community-help/blog/2017/02/14/ex-to-ex-instructions
https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-in-the-first-four-months
https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smoke

Welcome!
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- Verghese @ Daniela-3-11-2016 on Feb 4, 2018 5:35 PM
  Thank you for those links they are so helpful. I keeping reading them every time i get a craving and they really help.
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AnnetteMM Feb 2, 2018 4:44 PM
Alright! Welcome to you!
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JACKIE1-25-15 Feb 2, 2018 5:32 PM
Welcome to EX.
Congratulations on making the decision to quit smoking. You have come to the right place for a new day and a new beginning.. This is all about you and what you are willing to do to be smoke free. Quitting smoking requires hard work. It can be challenging at times but you will learn that it is doable if you adhere to NOPE not one puff ever no matter what.
Start first, by educating yourself about nicotine addiction.
Education is the key to a successful quit.
Read: Freedom from Nicotine My Journey Home and Nicotine Addiction 101
Here are the links: http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html   and http://whyquit.com/ffn/
I also encourage you to read. Allen Carr’s book, “Easy Easier Way to Quit Smoking”.
Go to http://www.becomeanex.org/how-to-quit-smoking.php#thl and get started.
We will support you. You are on your journey to freedom
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- Verghese @ JACKIE1-25-15 on Feb 4, 2018 5:37 PM
  Thank you for the info and links. The allen carr book is awesome. Thw little monster description has turned a light on for me.
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shashort Feb 2, 2018 5:44 PM
Hi Verghese welcome to EX. Congratulations on becoming a new dad and making the best decision to quit. Just think your baby will not know dad as a smoker how cool is that!! Stay close read and blog your successes and your troubles with craving if you need to. Write a blog and title it help and see how fast people come running to your rescue. Looking forward to watching through this journey. We are here to help where ever we can.
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- Verghese @ shashort on Feb 4, 2018 5:44 PM
  Thanks for your reply. This baby not knowing a smoking father is worth it. Also fatherhood is expensive so 5000 a year in savings will really help!
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elvan Feb 3, 2018 6:05 PM
Verghese Congratulations on your impending fatherhood AND on your decision to quit. You have gotten a fine welcome already, please read everything you can about this addiction, you CAN do this. We all have good days and bad days, we all have stressful times...smoking REALLY does not help anything. It does not relieve stress or pain or depression, it does not make it easier to concentrate, it does not do ANYTHING for you, take it from someone who knows...it will do LOTS TO YOU. Silently, in the sneakiest ways while you are becoming more and more addicted, you think you are going forward when, in fact, you are staying stuck in the same place. This is an incredibly exciting time for you and you should enjoy it and FEEL it to its fullest extent. You cannot do that while you are smoking. Quitting is not an event, it is a journey. It is one day at a time and when that fourth day comes...take it one hour or one minute at a time. Just take a little bit of time and get through that without smoking. ONE DAY AT A TIME. Please read a blog written by Youngatheart.7.4.12 that has lots and lots of comments along with the original blog...For Our New Years' Quitters (and community members, too)

Remember that we have all been where you are, you cannot get to where WE are unless you keep on going...smoke free. I smoked for 47 years and with this amazing site and the support from all of these amazing people, I recently celebrated my four year anniversary smoke free! It is well worth the journey, the ups and the downs, we stuffed our feelings when we smoked, we need to FEEL our feelings and not stuff them. The good, the bad, and the ugly. You will be able to welcome your child and enjoy every single moment!

Welcome to EX and again, congratulations.
Ellen
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- Verghese @ elvan on Feb 4, 2018 5:47 PM
  Ellen thanks for your reply. If you can quit after 47 years that inspires me to do so to.
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Marilyn.H.July.14.14. Feb 4, 2018 5:53 PM
Welcome to the community, congratulations on becoming a Father soon that's awesome and your decision to quit smoking is the best gift that you'll ever give yourself which is the gift of LIFE! Stay close because we're all here to help you through any rough patches that you may come upon, each day you get through is another Day WON.....
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