What I will miss ~ Why quitting is so hard

Blog Post created by Mandolinrain on Jan 7, 2018

Looking back those were some of my first thoughts when I was struggling with my quit. What I would miss , in my mind, was what was making it so hard for me to quit.


I remember clearly. I was going to miss those evening smokes out on the deck or by the fire pit as my day melted into night.


It would be hard...hard because I would turn to a smoke to help me relax after a difficult decision or chore or...well just about anything.....I smoked after completing most projects. It was like my intermission. I would surely miss that.


I would never be able to enjoy a cold beer or a glass of wine again...therefore rendering me unsociable at gatherings because how could I ever enjoy a drink without a cigarette?


Do you follow? It was hard. I put so much emphasis on what I would miss and why it would be so hard that I ignored where my focus should be...what would I gain? Easy?, it was not. 


I learned from this site to focus on the gains rather than the losses. I honestly worried and feared for nothing back then but I didn't know it then. I had to go through to get the breakthrough. All of you led the way. 


So I miss nothing about smoking, ends up. I do just fine at social gatherings and still enjoy a cold one once in awhile. I actually have adjusted fine to dealing with difficult times without thinking I need to 'light up' first to meet a demand. 


I am focused more on taking better care of myself now. Making healthier decisions on food and activity that my husband and I do bonus-bonus.


Quitting is hard. If it was easy, this site wouldn't be needed. You'll mean the world to me and I am ever so grateful for EX and all of you. If your on this site, its no accident. Your where you need to be. Its where I need to be to maintain as well. Have a good night everyone!