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The Emotional Setup

JonesCarpeDiem
6 10 164

      I just spoke with someone on the phone who quit on this site and will be two years quit on Christmas.

What she told me was sort of re-enlightening.

      She said the biggest little thing I said that had influenced the beginning of

her quit was saving a cigarette for the morning of her quit.

      I did this when I quit and I'm going to hypothesize why I believe this works.

Many here speak of smoking extra the night before they quit.

To me that indicates a sort of desperation and denial.

Why would you want to wake up the next day and feel lost without your smoke?
This would instill a fear of failure right off the bat.

      By having your last cigarette in the morning, you have the rest of the day to work out the emotional changes and "missingness" by not starting out your quit "dwelling on cigarettes you can't have."  

      A day is made up of 24 hours. I start a new years quit every January 2 at 7:15am. 

File this under: "Tricks are for quits."  

      It's a blessing to me to know I'm able to help people change course in such a powerful way as finding their freedom from smoking. We don't get a chance like this often.

Happy Holidays!

We'll have a brand new crop of quitters Jan 1. How do I know this???

I'm clairvoyant. 

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.