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Poly
Member

First day in Ex

Because I'm sure you can all relate please tell me how to beat the following:

almost every day I wake up and say, no more....and everyday I end up at the store almost in desperation and buy a pack.

i stopped for three weeks 2 mths ago using Nicolette gum and it was great. The freedom was such a gift! Then I started feeling like something was missing and I had one.  That one turned into a pack a day! I'm sickened by my lack of self control when it comes to this addiction which I stopped enjoying a long time ago! I am a determined confident woman that has allowed this to dictate where I go etc for far too many years!  I know you're not suppose to say this but truly believe I am incapable of quitting! 

Magic bullets? 

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MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the site, be sure to read the links above me because the more you read the more educated you'll get about the addiction of smoking and you'll strengthen your resolve to quit and remain quit, with the right mindset we can do just about anything we put our minds to and quitting smoking should be at the top of the list, believe in yourself because you can and will be successful one precious smoke free day at a time. Poly 

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Poly
Member

I thank each of you for your words of encouragement! I will read all available information over the next couple days.

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elvan
Member

Education is a HUGE key to success and so is the support you are going to receive here.  There is nothing that can make this completely simple, it just doesn't happen.  It is one day at a time, like any other addiction.  I quit many times before this quit over three years ago, I am so glad to have found EX, to have met these amazing people and to have stayed committed to my quit...to myself.  Every time you have a cigarette, please ask yourself what it is doing for you, ask yourself if it is making anything easier and then answer HONESTLY...don't listen to the addiction.  Smoking does not take away pain or stress or depression, or anything else...it does take away your lung capacity, open you up to all kinds of diseases, and it takes away your self esteem.  You are better than this.  Track your cigarettes, figure out your triggers and plan for what to do instead of smoking when they occur and they WILL occur.  If you are ready...you are that much further ahead of the game.  You CAN do this.  I never thought I would be able to quit and stay quit and it has been over three years now after 47 years of smoking with breaks for pregnancies and some short term quits that failed.  The difference is this site, the support and love I have gotten here, the things I have learned here.  I am happy every day that I am an EX.  I have learned to deal with all of the emotions I squashed down by smoking them away, I am more confident and have more self esteem than I ever thought possible.

Welcome to EX Poly

Ellen

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freeneasy
Member

Build on that quit. Learn from it. You did it before and you can do it again. You know that you can't have just one, It won't work for a nicotine addict. I think we all have that feeling that "something is missing" when we stop. That's the addict in you Junkie thinking. You can get past that and have your freedom back. When you get your freedom you will not miss smoking, You are not giving up anything when you quit except for a deadly costly addiction.handcuffed to smokes.jpg

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Giulia
Member

What's doing, Polly?  Been a week since we heard a peep out of you.  Support is a two-way street.  You talk to us, we talk to you.  We can't help if we don' know where you're at on your journey.  How's it going?  Or not going?

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Daniela2016
Member

You had so much advice Poly, how did the last week go?  Don't go hiding in the shadows, even if you did not make it happen last week.  It takes time, it takes a lot of education and work on yourself.  But the more you speak with us, the more you learn and the stronger you become every single day. 

I credit my first weeks to my determination: I had it with it. Then I was hanging onto what I considered a NRT, an e-cigarette, then I came here, read everything that was recommended to me, so Allan Carr's book put an end to any time of "puffing".  I stopped using anything Nicotine related. And came here, once, twice, sometimes many times/day, I read everything written by my peers (about the same time in their own quit) and the answers given by the elders.  They did not always apply to me, but they were teaching me the right ways anyways. 

You can do it on your own, but why?  Why have to make it hard on you, when you can fly through your days once you learn what works.  And you can learn it here!

Welcome, there is a group of real people, real EX-smokers here wanting nothing else but help another one of us gain the freedom from addiction, step on the path to health and a much happier life!

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JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Hello, scroll up they are in my comments.  Posted 2 weeks ago. 

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Giulia
Member

There are several links to helpful material above in the comments (not only Jackie's, but Jonescarp and some others gave you links).  Active links usually appear in red or in blue on here.  You might also check out the material in https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/content?filterID=all~tag%5Bbest_of_ex%5D   You can also get there from the HOME page by clicking on the "See the Best of EX" square.

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