Quit-relapse cycle.

[Nymous]

Fourth quit this year. Each quit has lasted from 1 month to 45 days. Time between quits has been two weeks. 

On the positive side - I think that I have not smoked much this year. 

On the downside, I am giving up easily every #$%ing time. This one has been so far 3 weeks, i think. but totally disappointed in me. I was embarrassed to come here and admit my weakness but I guess I did it today. 

Each time that  I slipped up, no one to blame except me...

[YoungAtHeart]

You need to read up on No Mans Land - because that seems to be your bad spot.https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2011/05/24/no-mans-land-days-30-to130-appr.... Pull out and use all the tools you found useful during the early days of your quit.  You need to start being busy and distracting yourself for a bit.  Remember - you made the decision already that you won't smoke - so don't argue with yourself about it.

Past failure does not guarantee future failure! Do it THIS time!

I know you can....just put a bit more effort into it!

Nancy

[JACKIE1-25-15]

Well quitting smoking can be one of the hardest things to do because it is an addiction.  Once you treat it as such your outcome may be better. Education is the key to a successful quit. Learn  about the nicotine addiction.  Read, Study Blog.  Find out more about why /when you smoke.  Go to My EX Plan | BecomeAnEX  watch the videos, read, learn your triggers.  Every day go to the pledge page and pledge not to smoke. Daily Pledge Come here for support  and to participate. It will make a difference not to do it alone.  Never give up, never give in.  Stay close

[Giulia]

Stop blaming yourself and get'er done once and for all.  Then you will have nothing to blame yourself about.  Well, at least in the smoking area of your life!  lol The question you need to ask yourself is WHY are giving up easily every time?  Surely you don't enjoy Day 1s.  Why are you giving up easily and what is it that is making you give up each time.  Is it the same thing each time?  The same thought?  The same feeling?  How can you change that thing, that thought, that feeling? - that's the kind of homework one needs to do to conquer this beast.  You have to change something if you want something to change.

/blogs/Giulia-blog/2017/03/25/for-the-serial-quitters-out-there 

[Bonnie]

the 3rd month has always been hard for me. Made it thru this time and plan to not ever go back there again. Stick with it this time! do the suggested reading, take a minute at a time if you have to, blog, take the daily pledge, YOU CAN DO THIS!

[elvan]

I had two quits that failed in the months before I started this one which has lasted over four years.  I spent and still spend a lot of time on this site because I learn from people at all stages of their quits and any support I can get comes back at me tenfold.  I agree that you need to read and refresh your knowledge of No Man's Land...I also suggest that you make a plan if you have not already...have a handy quit kit...a list of things you will do instead of smoking when triggers occur.  Triggers WILL occur...quitting is so worth it and losing a quit is painful, you don't have to do that again.  We have all been through the beginning of a quit, many of us have had to start over more than once...see Giulia‌'s link for serial quitters.  I was certainly one of them.

Welcome back.

Ellen

[SimplySheri]

Isn't it a shame what we put our bodies and brain through when we quit time and time again?  Been there.  I reached the point finally that I didn't want to have to start over any more.  I was tired of failure...until I understood that if I didn't smoke anymore, I wouldn't fail.  It was kinda an "ah-ha" moment.  I never looked back.  May you find your ah-ha moment so you can enjoy a smoke free life!!  You can.  It's a choice.  Believe in yourself!!

Sheri 

[freeneasy]

I would advise you to be proud of a nice 3  week quit you have going and protect it. The most important part of quitting is  confidence and desire to stay the course. Remember all the reasons you quit-they are all still valid. What good reason can you think of to start smoking again? 

Life After You Quit Smoking 

[Barbscloud]

Remember it's one day at a time.  Don't think about  it being forever.

122 DOF

[AnnetteMM]

Everyone's got their own perspectives, so take what makes sense to you and leave the rest!  Case in point:  My perspective is that you never actually quit.  You've grit your teeth for a month, then let yourself smoke again.  You haven't allowed yourself to believe, and FEEL, that smoking is forever gone from your life.  Think about this as you commit to this new phase of your life.