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Share your quitting journey

You don't have to say you love smoking out loud to cling to that hope.

JonesCarpeDiem
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We used smoking to deal with emotions and reward for tasks.

Many new quitters will say they love smoking but most will realize they don't after some education and the understanding that nicotine creates the stress we are trying to relieve because of the need for more nicotine.

But can you let go of the thought of loving smoking?

I have. I don't hate smoking. I never hated smoking. Hating smoking is not required to quit smoking. It's just neutralized. It's unconsiderable because of what I know about it.You don't have to get run over a bus twice to know it hurts. You don't have to get COPD or have a heart attack and treat them both as unheeded clues that smoking just may have played a role, do you?

What about you? Is some inner part of your thought process clinging to the idea of loving smoking? Or to the one cigarette that is only a mirage?

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.