In the second scenario In the first scenario
Let's compare the two
First Comes Fear
Then Comes Dishonesty
Then Comes Smoking
First Comes Calm
Then Comes Steadfastness
Then Comes Freedom
The quitter believes all the lies about how hard it is to quit and feeds their fear right up to their quit day.
The quitter, still projecting the worst, begins talking to themselves. They tell themselves they can't do it. They tell themselves they must smoke
The quitter smokes
The quitter learns about quitting from those who have done it. They learn what they are up against and diffuse what they had previously feared. They learn about the process and what to expect when. They learn that we've all gone through what they are going to experience and survived and are happy to be free.
The quitter changes their smokers routine to learn a new way of living.
After a time, they are free.
No one makes you frantic but you. No one makes you smoke but you.