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The tragedy smoke

JonesCarpeDiem
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‎01-09-2015 10:01 AM

A friend smoked on the anniversary of a tragedy.

The STRESSFUL>/>SAD>/>EMOTIONAL URGE TO SMOKE
The loss of a parent, child or pet? A house fire? Losing your job?

You KNOW it's going to come. Probably within the first year or two of your quit.
Life isn't the perfect dream where everything goes the way we think and things last forever.

The only thing certain in life is change.

How are you going to prepare for it? What is your escape plan?

  

If you think about what you are about to do BEFORE YOU DO IT,
Can you stop yourself? Will you stop yourself?

  

What will you accomplish if you smoke?

  

What is more important than keeping your quit and NOT smoking? Tears? Grief?

  

You can choose to  experience loss or stuff it down with nicotine and possibly repeat the cycle over and over.

  

Make your quit important. It is probably the first time you've thought differently since you became an addict however many years ago.

  

 

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Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.