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Counting and Weaning VS Flowing and Learning

JonesCarpeDiem
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I hate weaning and counting. You know why?

because you are making a point of taking something away from yourself by so much everyday. That eventually makes smoking a prize you don't want to give up. Start taking the power away from smoking by not thinking about smoking or not smoking all the time.

I cut down, but I didn't count. Counting puts stress on you because if you go up instead of down, you now have a negative in your head like you didn't do something right.

Also, If you don't sit around counting how many cigarettes you have left, you aren't constantly thinking about smoking or not smoking all the time.

  You want to catch yourself just as you think of smoking and say "I'm going to wait awhile longer (and not watch the clock) and figure out something to get your mind busy so you aren't focused on smoking

because
That's what you're going to have to do when you quit.

In four weeks I was down from a pack a day to 5 a day without ever counting.

Counting stresses you out. Seeing yourself go 3 or 5 hours without a smoke is proving to your psyche that you have some control over smoking.

That's what empowers you to actually begin your quit, seeing yourself in charge.

That's when you know you're ready. It's not so overwhelming when you take control instead of letting it control you.

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About the Author
Hello, My name is Dale. I was quit 18 months before joining this site and had participated on another site during that time. I learned a lot there and brought it with me. I joined this site the first week of August 2008. I didn't pressure myself to quit. HOW I QUIT I didn't count, I didn't deny myself to get started. When I considered quitting (at a friends request to influence his brother to quit), I simply told myself to wait a little longer. No denial, nothing painful. After 4 weeks I was down to 5 cigarettes from a pack a day. The strength came from proving to myself, I didn't need to smoke because I normally would have smoked. Simple yes? I bought the patch. I forgot to put one on on the 4th day. I needed it the next day but the following week I forgot two days in a row I put one in my wallet with a promise to myself that I would slap it on and wait an hour rather than smoke. It rode in my wallet my first year.There's nothing keeping any of you from doing this. It doesn't cost a dime. This is about unlearning something you've done for a long time. The nicotine isn't the hard part. Disconnecting from the psychological pull, the memories and connected emotions is. :-) Time is the healer.