It didn’t stop the day I became one...I continue to learn from them not only how to stay quit but how to help others on this site.
When I started on this site I had so many.....SEVERAL failed quits, that I shamefully just threw in the towel and decided I could never do this.
I had had a few Elders who are still active in This site release some tuff love on me and I took that personally. I recall thinking, wow....they hate me. But the truth really was ...they cared. I hated me.
I didn't feel cared for and others were fighting in this site so I left. I can’t recall for how long , but I came back after I had substantial time actually successful, with my quit. During the time away, I did find that everything the Elders were trying desperately for me to understand was EXACTLY what I finally applied and worked...thus my final quit finally happened.
The same Elders were here and those who were truly causing trouble were gone so I stayed. I am so glad I did.
The only way I know how to help others is how I was helped. Folks who had made such an impression on me I still hold in high regards....Dale, Giulia,Ellen, Sootie, Nancy, Skygirl, Michwoman , Indingrl Stac2.....and JenniferQuit and Jackie.....there’s so many and some who are so close to my own year....I am here today because they cared enough to be here for me and not mince words but to be Rock solid examples....and in fact they still are and I STILL LEARN FROM THEM! One thing for sure, they will ALWAYS be ahead of me so I ALWAYS have an ear to learn from them.
Gosh I have loads of respect for them and so MANY others I didn’t even name. If Your an Elder here and I left your name out, please forgive me. You have ALL been my teachers and I admire and respect you all. I should also say, the New folks coming in I learn things from as well....but truth be told.......it really comes down to my choices. I cant rely on my feelings because they are forever changing...my choices are easier to understand and apply due to the knowledge I gained by listening to my Elders and putting it to action.
At times I am sure they scratch their heads and wonder where I come from but they know the direction I am going in and that’s to grow and they know this because they have been there before me.....they have gone through the same things already at one time or another.
I am babysitting these two sleeping twins sweethearts right now so I need to go but I want the new folks to know this.........Those Elders on here are not here to hurt anyone and sometimes they may come off sounding ‘uncaring ‘ but I can assure you we are not. We give out time here to help and had they not done that for me I am sure I would not be here for you. I may not have liked what they had to say but I needed to hear it and the seed was planted. I learned rather late to take what I need and leave the rest. I have found I usually come back for 'the rest' because although perhaps I didn't know it then...I am finding more and more that I need it now....all of it.
For those who are struggling please allow seeds to be sown and allow them to sprout. Beautiful gardens bloom with care so you have to do your part too. It was when I began to do my part....do what was suggested...I finally made it through.
xoxo my sweet babies are waking have a blessed day......
