Hi Paula!
Look at the date of the discussion that you commented on - Oct 24. 2014/
You can write the same thing in your own Blog - you just need a simple title for a blog.
As for your Question - that would be too much for me to handle but only you know what you can do. If you said no to your step-mother she would have to find another solution. You have no obligation to your Dad unless you choose to. The fact that you'll be isolated with the man who abused you (even though he may not be capable of that behavior now) could be a major challenge to your Quit Journey.
Think carefully of how you will handle that challenge before you get there! What will you do to protect your Quit? Of course, you can always count on us to provide support as you need it but you may need more ideas of how to manage your time. I'm a Care Provider in an Assisted Living Facility so I understand how demanding geriatric care can be. Does your Father have a Social Services Provider? I would ask that person for resources that you can use to care for yourself while you care for your Dad. Your church may be able to provide support as well. Definitely let the local congregation know what you are doing and lean on them!
Learning Spanish and Bible Study are Great distractions! Buena Suerte!
