reading your posts has been a quiet therapy for me. i'm sitting in a cafe writing for the first time after reading for several weeks thinking i was strong enough to do this on my own. WRONG!
I am embarrassed and ashamed that I do not possess the mental will power to tackle this. I have been a closet smoker off and on since I was 14. I have had no issues in wanting to smoke since 1999 until about a year ago and since then smoking has crept in to my life at an ever pervasive rate, but fully in the closet.
I was in Europe with my partner several weeks ago and was having a great, smoke-free time. We were staying with friends of his in Belgium who like to smoke after dinner (my partner doesn't smoke). Since he didn't "know" that I smoked (yeah right!) I was shocked when he said he didn't care if I had a cigarette. Because I hadn't told him about my struggles, it was too easy to resist the offer and I smoked off an on after meals and drinks for the rest of our trip.
When we got back I went through the usual mental hoops about not doing it again, wanting to feel healthy and take care of myself and thinking more that I could control this behavior.
I went two days this weekend, one day at a time, with great success. I'm a teacher on summer vacation and when my partner left for work this morning, it was like someone else took control of my body and drove me to the gas station to buy a pack as I anxiously and quickly smoked one in my car.
Arriving at the cafe as I type this, I just threw the pack out. Like many of you here, my big trigger is boredom (time for a better hobby!). I'm writing here today as my first public step to say that I need your help and support as I have read many of you asking for the same.
Thanks for listening, replying and giving me a place to feel like I can share when I am too ashamed to share with anyone else.
I need the push to "come out of the closet" to my partner about the smoking. Perhaps my biggest fear is succeeding, not failing...
Anyhow, thanks again everyone for this forum.