Day 12. Depressed. Stuffy nose, yuch throat. UGH

Discussion created by Linn2331 on Jan 13, 2021
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I have to say to start off i could not finish answering yesterdays because i am so damn depressed today. Let me also explain that tomorrow is 13 years since my daughter (oldest) was killed in a wreck with three of her friends and 13 days since I quit. But I WOKE with this depression. I feel like crying. I have CONSTANT heartburn it seems no matter what i eat and it hurts. SOMEBODY PLEASE tell me this is okay or at least SOMEONE has gone through it. I know partial of the depression is my daughter but this is the worst since she passed. HELP please. I am in tearsQ

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Hannahkim12345 Jan 13, 2021 3:48 PM
I am so sorry for your pain. I know somewhat what you’re going through. It’s nothing compared to losing your child but I lost my sister to breast cancer when she was 51. I see what it does to my mom so I know what it must be like for you. My mom told me that there’s an old Korean saying: when a parent dies, you bury them in the mountain but when your child dies you bury them in your heart.
I’m day 70 today and I’m here to say it does get better. I was a hot mess the first week. I had all the symptoms of a cold or allergy. Lost taste and smell. But not sure what that was due to since I also had Covid. I have heard some people here say they’ve experienced sinus issues and such. Please read articles here about nicotine withdrawal symptoms. It helped me a lot. I hope that you will stay smoke free. In that respect I can say, more days you have better you will feel.
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- Linn2331 @ Hannahkim12345 on Jan 13, 2021 4:24 PM
  Hannahkim12345. Thank you! Yes, she and her baby brother are in my heart. He was 2 days old. I am glad to hear it isn’t just me. Ugh. I really do not even have the withdrawal so much as the constant blah feeling, lack of sleep and heart burn. I am so grateful for all of you here. Again, thank you so much! I read the withdrawals and symptoms. Maybe I missed some. I am still learning to navigate around.
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dsprague Jan 13, 2021 4:01 PM
I am very sorry for what you are going through, I have not gone through what you are, but I can say if you want to talk we are here. I can say that I am in my 18th day and I have gotten some of those symptoms, they will pass. I think with everything you are going through it’s making it worse. Only time and patience will help. Breath, read and pray as we will for you.
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- Linn2331 @ dsprague on Jan 13, 2021 4:28 PM
  dsprague Thank you. I did not want to even mention it but wondered if that was why. I am glad to know it is not just me. Thank you so much and I appreciate you and all of you who help. I am trying to help others like myself but I had to step back because I think maybe I need to be further along so i do not scare them into going back. It does get better as far as the Physical really fast. I will accept all the prayer offered! I am praying for all of us too!
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  - dsprague @ Linn2331 on Jan 13, 2021 4:39 PM
    Sorry did forget 1 thing, you need time for yourself
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maryfreecig Jan 13, 2021 4:53 PM
Big hug Linn2331. I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. Your march forward in smobriety is prayer in action--even when things seem darkest. One day at a time, yes you can.
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- Linn2331 @ maryfreecig on Jan 14, 2021 10:07 PM
  maryfreecig, thank you very much! I did not smoke today. I made it through yes I did. Thank you. It was a tough one!
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  - maryfreecig @ Linn2331 on Jan 15, 2021 11:10 AM
    I'm so glad you made it through, Linn2331.
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indingrl.01.06.2011 Jan 13, 2021 5:10 PM
Awe I am SOOOOO sorry about YOUR daughter - please I am just sharing to be HELPFUL
Understanding the emotional stages of loss when quitting smoking

and GOOD JOB staying quit NO matter what life on lifes terms throws at YOU - WAY TO GO

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- Linn2331 @ indingrl.01.06.2011 on Jan 14, 2021 10:09 PM
  indingrl.01.06.2011 thank you so much. I made it through. No smoking. It was tough but I did it. Thanks so much for the above card.
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  - indingrl.01.06.2011 @ Linn2331 on Jan 15, 2021 6:56 PM
    Awe you are SOOOOO welcome Linn
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sweetplt Jan 14, 2021 11:06 AM
So sorry about your loss Linn2331 ... losing a child has to be so tough...I can’t even imagine...unfortunately, depression can/is a part of this journey. Just like the steps you went through when your child died...you will go through with quitting...until you accept you no longer smoke...sometimes depression has been hidden behind the smokes and we need to speak to our Doctor...I found getting outside and taking a walk in the fresh air helped me...and praying...
In time, this may be a step you go through and/or need help from a professional...I am wondering how you are doing today? Gotcha in my Heart ... Colleen 773 DOF
Each stage can apply to quitting smoking...we feel like we lost a best friend...sometimes it is good to educate ourselves on what we are going through...we are here for you hon....
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- Linn2331 @ sweetplt on Jan 14, 2021 10:13 PM
  @sweetpit, thank you so much and I see a Counselor. I am glad to know though that depression is a part of this. It just helps to know when these emotions and pains come up. Thank you so much concerning my daughter. It is tough. I got through. No smoking. Tough but did it.
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elvan Jan 15, 2021 11:50 AM
Linn2331 l am proud of you for making it through that painful anniversary without smoking. Thinking of you and sending as much comfort as l can from a distance. You are not alone. Please remember that.
Ellen
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- Linn2331 @ elvan on Jan 17, 2021 10:20 AM
  elvan, thank you so much no. I didn’t smoke. Thank you so much for the support. I mean that!
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  - elvan @ Linn2331 on Jan 17, 2021 7:34 PM
    Linn2331 Do you see how strong you are? Remember that & remember that no crave ever killed anyone but no one can say that about smoking. Remember too that craves will pass whether or not you smoke. That was hard for me to get my mind around but it is the absolute truth.
    Ellen
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JACKIE1-25-15 Jan 15, 2021 12:14 PM
I am very sorry for the loss of your daughter and her friends. Ican not image how devastating that can be. I have a friend who loss a daughter the same way and I recognize the pain that she had to go through. Therefore I do understand to some degree not fully but some. It is different this time because you are not covering your emotions with the nicotine. This time you will be facing your raw emotions without the cloud of smoke. It is a learning EXperience that if you do not smoke through it you will become wiser and be able to handle more crisis in life without smoking. Yes it is hard. BUT know that all of this will pass. We are "hear" for you. I will be praying that you will not smoke no matter what. It is all what you choice to do but I suggest that you celebrate your daughters life by not smoking. Come here anytime. As far as the indigestion goes many have complained. If you have the time use the search engine. (magnifying glass) and type in a keyword to see what others have done. Never give up Never give in Hang tough the best is yet to come by not smoking. BTW crying is okay.
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- Linn2331 @ JACKIE1-25-15 on Jan 17, 2021 10:18 AM
  JACKIE1-25-15, thank you. I did not smoke. I needed this and your words. Thank you so much. I am hanging in. I faced it but the past two days were tough. Thank you so much again.
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anaussiemom Jan 15, 2021 6:53 PM
Linn2331 Many prayers lifted for you. Reach out to a doctor if you feel you " need it. No one has to be a Saint. One moment at a time

Blessings.
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- Linn2331 @ anaussiemom on Jan 17, 2021 10:19 AM
  anaussiemom, thank you so much!
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Day 12. Depressed. Stuffy nose, yuch throat. UGH

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