Does anyone have any experience in quitting when their spouse is also quitting, but doesn't seem fully aware of how addicted they are to cigarettes and how difficult it is to quit? I'm on Day 2 of my quit and my spouse is also not smoking, for now...I've quit a few times in the past (most recently when I was training for a 1/2 marathon) and my spouse goes for a few days and then will buy a couple and is outside smoking and I feel like I just don't see her and ultimately I've ended up giving in and starting to smoke again. I really, really, really don't want this to happen again. Does anyone have any advice or experience in dealing with a situation like this? I know that everyone's quit is their own and I can't control hers, but just considering triggers etc...I want to be prepared for this.
I'm doing my best to stay busy during the day and to plan things for us to do in the evenings to keep us busy (bike rides, movies, etc...) Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!
Hubby was not a smoker. However I have a dear friend who went through what your going through. She sat Mark down and said she needed his support and if he must smoke, to please respect her and not smoke in the house or in her car. He was great about it and followed through. She just kept a healthy attitude and stayed active and she is still quit,,2 years later Mark has since quit as well.
One thing that she said was she could smell the stale smoke on him everyday and taste it on his breath when they kissed...on dos cloths as she washed them.....She gradually brought this to his attention and deliberately put his cloths for a few days, into a closed basket and had his smell them and told him THAT is how he smelled. She then let it drop.
After seeing Melinda's success and determination, he decided to also put...about 10 months later...he did.
Now they BOTH enjoy a smoke free lifestyle and are doing amazing. They both used Chantx and did well with it.
Good luck, I hope this may help