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Discuss different approaches to quitting, including medication

kpfister8788
Member

Challenging Times

So I'm on my week two with Chantix, but whenever I'm really stressed out with something (mostly crazy work related things or my marriage), I have a strong craving, and sometimes simply give in; I don't really feel like a failure, but am jsut sad and very disappointed about my weakness .... even when I don's smoke, I still feel without (non-nicotin) vaping I couldn't handle it.

Any advice, similar experience and support would be wonderful.

Thanks so much!

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit!  It's one you will never regret.  You need to make a decision that you won't smoke NO MATTER WHAT.  Take it off the table!  Ain't happening!  SO - what ELSE can you do when stress hits?  You can take slow/deep breaths, you can count backwards from 1,000, you can take a quick walk - getting away from the stress for a bit, march in place, call a friend.     At home, you can punch a pillow or shout obscenities into it.

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library.

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance.

Try to wean off of the vaping.  Those vapors are not good for you.  Try sugarfree gum or mints, flavored toothpicks, or cut straws into lengths and chew on one; you want to get out of the hand to mouth and inhaling habits.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

kpfister8788
Member

thanks, Nancy ... appreciate your advice and guidance; I need to spend some time this weekend and reflect; my life is kind of a whirlwind right now with lots of business related travel etc.; not really helpful at all; next week will be calmer, so the perfect time to step back and take more ME TIME.

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Mandolinrain
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Have you read Allen Carrs book? If not ,read it.

The times will get better, I promise. This quitting is hard and your not very far yet. Are you still smoking?

Understanding the addiction will be a great help. Read that book, over and over and over. It is a fast read.

I a so glad you came here. Keep doing that, blog it out. We have all gone through what your experiencing.

Buy some Vicks Vapor Rub. I had that stuff everywhere ..little blue bottles in my car,house.

A little under the nose will drive a crave away pretty fast. I don't know why nit works but it was a HUGE help. I even bought the inhaler and uses it from time to time if I didn't want to smell like Vicks

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kpfister8788
Member

Hi Mandolinrain, I listened to it on Audible some weeks back, but I might need to do it again, since for sure it's a GREAT book; thanks for bringing this back to mind ..... BREATH ....

Barbscloud
Member

Hi kipfister8788.  Welcome to the Ex.  There are lots of newbies here - I'm one myself at 44 days.  It's safe to say we all do or have felt the same way.  Stress is a certainly a big trigger, but so is the cigarette you miss as a reward.  I'm using aids to quit also, but the biggest difference for me this time was finding this website. The first few weeks I cried HELP a couple of times and there was always someone there to get me through that craving.  The best advice I can give you is stay close to this site - get involved by reading and writing about what your're feeling.  No one is here to judge you; just to support you.  If you not already doing so, taking the daily pledge each day to not smoke.  I really helps me to focus on one day at a time.

You can do this.

kpfister8788
Member

that is so comforting, Barbscloud .... great advice and I for sure will do that!!!

Thanks so much for that.

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moose1
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been smoking 40 some years. go to try chantix . coming up on my quit date. getting nervous. I am glad EX is here makes me feel a little bit more un nervous.  

elvan
Member

You can do this...it is one day at a time and there are always going to be uncomfortable emotions whether you smoke or not.  This is a journey and it is so worth all of the ups and downs.  Welcome to EX...stay close to the site, you will find lots of support here and likely read something very similar to your own story.

Ellen

Roller831
Member

I quit with Chantix.  I was on it for 9 days and had my last cigarette at 10PM.  I took Chantix for another week and decided to stop since the side effects were horrible for me.  It was my third time using Chantix to quit.  We are so used to dealing with emotions by smoking.  Now you will have to learn to deal with those emotions using something else.  It isn't easy, but it can be done!  

There is a great blog out there for our new quitters.  For Our New Years' Quitters (and community members, too) You may also want to check out posts in Best of EX‌.  We are here to help you on this journey to freedom!  

 

I know when I first found this site, many Elders told me to read read read….and I did.  Elders are those with one or more years of being quit.  If you like what someone has to say, then you may want to read their blogs.  I have some listed below.

 

A list of our Elders  Elders List

 

So here's the thing.....and you may not like what I am about to say....and that's ok.  I get it.  You need to accept that this is an addiction.  Before you do that, it will be much more difficult to quit and stay quit. 

 

Read read read.  Do the steps to PREPARE yourself to quit.  Do the steps so you are PREPARED on quit day and for the days AFTER quit day.  

 

Some of the things I read in my first few days that helped me:

Dale’s Welcome to New Members My Welcome To New Members (10 Years Of Watching)

 

YoungAtHeart Nancy’s Blog /blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smoke?sr=search&searchId=856d...101 Things to Do Instead of Smoke 

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/people/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 Dale’s Blog https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-...

 

Visit Best of EX

And read what has been posted there.

 

JACKIE1-25-15 told me about Alan Carr’s book, “Easy Way to Quit Smoking”.  I actually didn’t read the online PDF, but purchased a book on CD from Amazon and listened to it in my car over and over again for the first two weeks of my quit. 

 

Keep this site close and keep posting and asking for help.  You will get it.  You will get things you like and things you don't like, but don't give up!!!  We have been through similar experiences and can share our strength and hope.  We are here to support you!