Friends,
I wanted to ask a question regarding my beloved sister. I just woke from a really bad dream about her. She smokes and over the holidays, I want to speak with her about it. It is difficult because I'm only off 64 days, so I'm still struggling, and I don't want to appear as if I'm lecturing her. I hated that myself. I had a friend who lived with me briefly, and at the time I smoked. I grew to dislike him because of his arrogant attitude about my smoking, especially since he was a former smoker and current drinker (and he could drink). I don't want her to feel this way about me.
My sister has the ability to ignore you well. She will say, "yes, you are right...I'm going to quit". But, I know she won't. She won't go to therapy either, and I know she needs this as well.
Do you suggest I speak to her about the smoking? If so, how do I broker the conversation? I want to introduce her to this site but I'm unclear how. She has two great kids, but she, as most of us, is lonely and stubborn to the core.
Lewis
I would simply share the beauty of your quit. When she asks you how you are, let her know how much quitting has changed your life and your outlook on the future. Tell her about how much confidence, in yourself, you have gained during the past 64 days and close with how this site has influenced and strengthened your resolve to achieve freedom.
That may or may not spark her interest, but in the end you are not smoking and that's what really matters
Stay Strong and Embrace the Journey
Darren