I see you have tried a few times. Have you tried any of the aids? I'm on the patch and would not be smoke free without it. True, I am not nicotine free, but I'm not taking in all the other chemicals and I'm not forcing 2nd hand smoke on everyone around me.
If you're having health issues due to smoking, it is so much better to use just nicotine rather than smoke cigarettes, which have so many other bad chemicals.
What are your reasons for wanting to quit? Mine is my dog, my only family. Knowing it's bad for him is great motivation not to smoke.
Regardless of how many times you don't make it past that 3rd day, it's awesome that you have kept getting back on the horse and continued seeking support on Ex. Give yourself a little pack on the back for each time you make it through one day smoke free. Or one hour, even. Reward yourself for every success rather than beat yourself up for every failure. I think it's harder to quit if you feel bad about yourself.
Positive reinforcement is absolutely key for me to hang on to my quit. I let myself bask in my pride each morning and evening, and I also enjoy all the congrats and encouragement i get from Ex and acquaintances from work and the dog parks. My nonsmoker friend was just telling me today how amazing i am for not smoking for 5 days. She is awesome for asking what it's like and never judging me when I was smoking. Many of my smoker friends at work are in awe, and one is about ready to join me on the journey.
If you have tried several times and keep running into the same wall, I say it is perfectly ok to weaken that wall with a patch or any kind of medication that can help so you can crash through and finally join the party on the other side.
