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Zanrunais
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What do I do if my biggest trigger is boredom, but my life is boring?

Smoking is how I deal with having twenty-thirty minute blocks of nothing to do. Boredom is physically painful (hi there, adhd) so not having ANYTHING to do is... moderately scary. What are some small things I can do to fill time that I otherwise would have spent smoking?

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

You are right!  Boredom IS one of the main triggers to smoking. You will need to develop a plan of things you can do when a crave hits so you AREN'T bored.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game, count the red/blue/white things in the room, think of girls'/boys' names or cities for each letter of the alphabet, get an adult coloring or crossword puzzle book.    Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. If you do nothing else to get ready for your quit, please do give this a read.


 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. Here is a video to inform you further about nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort after you have tried to delay and distract.   I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  You need to start out with a plan to reduce use of them over time - which the patch does by decreasing the dose contained in them..  For the gum, you can start by cutting each piece in half, then in quarters, then sub regular gum of the same flavor in between, adding more and more regular gum.  For the lozenge, you need to start subbing a mint in between to begin, increasing the number of them over time.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for four reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion,  3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire and 4) you can become addicted to that and it has not yet been proven safe .
 

It will be informative if you do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site. As you track each cigarette smoked, note its importance, and what you might do instead. Put each one off just a little to prove that you don't NEED a cigarette just because you think you do.
 

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Alicatsam
Member

Things I have tried or seriously considered, or wanted to try but couldn't afford:

meetup.com

cratejoy.com (hobby kits)

Browsing the bookstore to find something I enjoy that is not written by Stephen King- somewhat helpful.

Adopting a dog- total success! Leads to hours of dog park entertainment every day in addition to dog-mom duties.

Birdwatching

Higher education of any kind for certificates/degrees in a career i might enjoy- unsuccessful but might try again, I really need some kind of purpose in life.

Trying different colors of nail polish on all 20 nails- fun for 10 seconds then I couldn't take the smell.

All kinds of arts and crafts, 2D and 3D

Painting classes- kinda successful, I still have zero talent but a smidge more skill.

Volunteering at a charity serving meals- very successful and fulfilling.

Volunteering at the SPCA walking dogs- very successful and fulfilling and they expedited my own dog adoption process. Yay!!

Texting- usually good for a few minutes, sometimes more if I'm feeling witty and someone has time to appreciate it.

Exploring all my emoji options on phone and tablet - good for up to 30 minutes.

Organizing photos on phone and tablet - good for up to 2 hours, longer at work with occasional work-related distractions. Thank goodness I found a better job and will be less bored at work in 2-3 weeks.

JACKIE1-25-15
Member

Hi.  We can give you a list of things to do but I want to ask; do you have a hobby?  Is there a project you have been procrastinating about? Is there something you thought about doing but have never tried?  Quitting smoking gives us an opportunity to explore new things.  The adventure that we can uncover is so EXciting.  especially if we discovered it ourselves.  Under the mask of smoking lies a talent, gift, craft or activity that has been waiting just for this moment. Make quitting an adventure because it truly is. For me, I started out organizing my home. Endless busy there.  Let me know what you come up with.  If you have any more questions, please feel free to ask. BTW  Welcome to EX you have made the right decision to come here.  Congratulations on quitting smoking. 

Suggestions, Adult coloring books, jewelry making, sports, exercise, playing with kids, volunteering where needed.  Gardening, Cooking,. Baking, Crafting, Sewing, Reorganize, closets, drawers, cabinets.  One day at a time. 

Zanrunais
Member

There is one thing I've been thinking about. I write for fun--with loose dreams of eventually publishing-- and there's this one story that I've never gotten around to actually writing. I've written about it plenty of times (I've got a 43k word file to show for it) but I've always wanted to get back to it and write it for real. And, I guess, if I'm typing, I can't be smoking.

YoungAtHeart
Member

THAT sounds like a good plan.

Go for it!

Andstillirise
Member

For me , too much time isn’t good . Now that I’m not smoking I have a lot more time ! 

Ive always exercised but now when I’m “ bored “ I grab my running shoes and beats headphones and take off ....

i also grow veggies in a large garden that takes up time and especially this time of year . Be glad we didn’t quit in winter ! Haha 

youll get used to the extra time and boredom so if you have no interests or hobbies , find one you think you will enjoy ! 

Im only 28 days out so I’m no expert at any of this 

indingrl
Member

WELCOME - word sesrch puzzles- sudku number puzzles- jigsaw puzzles- dance class- jogging in place- dance class- singing your favorite songs out loud- hot bath- just sharing- CONGRATS ON NICOTINE FREE DAY!

elvan
Member

There are SO MANY choices but I must admit that I think the idea of writing is a wonderful idea for you.  I also suggest sitting outside and blowing bubbles...watch them float away,  watch funny videos on youtube, talk to yourself about what you are doing and how proud you are that you ARE doing it.  Listen to music...REALLY LOUDLY and dance if it reaches you.  Boredom is easily curable.

Welcome to EX,

Ellen

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