Give and get support around quitting
I have quit twice before for 5 years each. This time I've quit, so far little over a year and 4 months. There don't seem to be any significant triggers for me. My husband still smokes but very little and not in the house. The smell on other people, all though I smell it, it doesn't bother me. I don't even mind if others smoke around me. Doesn't tempt me in the least bit. There are cigarettes stored in our house and I never touch them. I even empty ash trays. BUT! I suffer from anxiety and depression terribly. Somedays the smallest thing can set me off. This is what I find to be the worst thing of all. I don't want a cigarette but I wonder if having one would make this feeling go away. It makes me wonder if my smoking, although not entirely, also became a habit to relieve stress and to relax.
Congrats on your quit! What was your quit date?
I'm sure others have wondered the same but definitely don't act on that wonder and take a single puff. You've WON day One and you don't want to start over! Thanks for sharing your experience with us!
Mark
EX Community Manager
Rena0714 Please don't credit smoking with anything...it actually increases stress and anxiety and it also contributes to depression. I think you are amazing having cigarettes around the house and emptying ashtrays, I am glad your husband does not smoke inside. I know you are seeing more than one doctor, I am very hopeful that you will get answers for some of the symptoms you are experiencing, smoking does not do anything FOR us but it does a lot TO us. Hold onto your quit with both hands and remember that it is dependent upon you...addiction is a horrible thing and you have such a beautiful recovery going on. Stick with it, stay close to the site.
Ellen
Hi and Welcome to the Quit Journey. I hope you worked the Ex help site. It has lots of good information and asks you many questions. I don’t know how it feels to quit with a spouse, my hubs never smoked, However, my husband hated smoking hated smoking and some of our fights were due to the addiction. For me it not only had to be my decision to quit, but much in my life had to change. We both had to accept these things together. Perhaps if you and he can sit down and make new plans together that don’t include smoking. Ie., after work take a walk in stead of smoking , etc.,
The biggest thing I have found is doing new things but finding happiness in doing them. Keep close to here & know that together you can do this Quit. Gotcha in my thoughts ... Colleen aka sweetp