cathnolan1 I don't know you or anything about you so this comment although directed to you is more than that directed to anybody who reads this. That's true of all that is written here whether we know it or not BTW. Folks who have consistently been here Year after Year after Year are absolutely not gloating! Nor do we know-it-all.
We are still here day after day after day primarily for our own sakes and secondly, for the Community as a whole. We have heard it all, been through it all so you're attempt to insult just doesn't work. Kimberley, Sharon, and the other (EX) serial relapsers know that because they too have been here sharing their ordeals and absorbing whatever collective wisdom we as a whole Community can muster!
Now how could participation in BecomeanEX possibly help myself, for EXample, who has 7 + Years without a single puff? Because there are 2 Quit Killers that I'm aware of at this stage, alcohol and complacency! Folks remind me that I don't want or need either in my Life! I might add that being here has also taught me that Quitting like staying here is not for wimps! We do have a heart and we do get hurt - smoking is not required in that!
Now for the second part, we have discovered a repertoire of ideas that certainly have helped people find their way out of the gerbel wheel A bit of cheerleading, some tough love, some honest shining light on the Lies of Addiction, a variety of tools to replace what addictively was always a Sickerette, actually there's more but we can only bring it - folks who need that bit of info and support still are 100% responsible for using it. The most frustrating part for me, Thomas, is seeing folks relapse again and again and again. I understand - I was that person! But it's still frustrating! And this place is a safe place to feel our feelings without Addiction! All of them! We laugh, cry, hug, love, get angry, yes, get into a ruckus now and then, but we persevere Smoke FREE! Because that is LIFE! Nobody's Life is perfect and it's full of emotions that we used to smoke away so we didn't have to feel - now, here we do get to feel! We have become the people that Our Creator intends for us to be - Addiction FREE!
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink! I for one will be here today, tomorrow, in the future.... I invite you to be here, too! Read, share,maybe learn, maybe teach a thing or two about LIFE! Everybody is Welcome - most of all the Serial Quitter who hasn't given up!
