I just have to chime in on this conversation because it just so happens that it came to a "head" yesterday in my world. So, I'm 94 days quit today and I'm good! During my quit, I would text my three sisters once a week to announce my week of success, maybe mention how many cigarettes I didn't smoke or how much money I was saving. They would all reply with cheers and atta-girls and I'm so proud of you isms. This was nice. They were my cheerleaders on the sideline but I knew I was doing it for me and that I had to find my strength and resolve from within and I did and I continue to. So, I am married and my husband is a smoker, though he smokes far less than I did. As with most things in our life, I didn't really bother him with my quit. I guess maybe once a month I would copy him the text I was sending to my sisters, so maybe 3 times I reached out looking for some applause from him. Forget it. Wasn't happening. Okay, I told myself, no biggie. Well, yesterday during an argument about something else he says to me that he's been having to hear about my quitting smoking every single day. I thought my head was going to explode. Not only have I made a very mindful effort of not talking to him about my quit, I've not made any reference either overt nor passive aggressive to his smoking. The only reference to that I made in the very beginning when I asked him if he wanted to try and quit with me. He said no and I left him alone. You be you and I'll be me... So, nope, no support whatsoever from my supposedly significant other. And while that's really not okay in the relationship department, it has to be okay for my quit. It has no bearing on it. I'm not going back and while kudos are nice, they don't pay the bills so to speak.
Thanks for listening and I wish you the very best with your quit!
