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Tmac1971
Member

Day #1

I am 46 years old and have been smoking for 30 years. I just need to do this and quit !!! I am afraid of failing and giving in and I just can't (I don't want to). I want my 25 year old daughter to be proud of me and hopefully one day it will encourage her to stop to. I don't know what else to say, I just really want to get through today!!!

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Roller831
Member

Hi!  The below was given to me on my first day of my quit.  I still hold onto it and it has helped tremendously!  Many told me to read read read.  Search the website.  Some helpful things I found are:

My Welcome To New Members (10 Years Of Watching) and /blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-in-the-first-four-months 

Welcome to EX.  Quitting can be a rollercoaster ride.  You have come to the right place to scream.Congratulations on day one to quit smoking.. This is all about you and what you are willing to do to be smoke free. Quitting smoking requires hard work.  It can be challenging at times but you will learn that it is doable if you adhere to NOPE not one puff ever no matter what. 

Start first, by educating yourself about nicotine addiction.  

Education is the key to a successful quit.

Read: Freedom from Nicotine My Journey Home and Nicotine Addiction 101         

Here are the links: http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html   and http://whyquit.com/ffn/

I also encourage you to read. Allen Carr’s book, “Easy Easier Way to Quit Smoking”.       

The link is here:  http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf

 Go to http://www.becomeanex.org/how-to-quit-smoking.php#thl and get started. 

We will support you. You are on your journey to freedom.

Tmac1971
Member

I was talking to an employee today and she recommended the book from Alan Carr. So tiday after work I am going to get it. Thank you for your support. 

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YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit and your first day!

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I also recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read.  It makes a great crave buster!

You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the site, read the recommended links above me and everything you can about quitting smoking and Remaining Quit because there's a wealth of information here to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb and start living a life of Freedom, you can do this quit one precious smoke free day at a time or one hr, minute or even one second at a time but as long as you keep moving then each evening you can say YAY for Days WON and on this particular evening it's can and will be Day WON! 

prjimm01
Member

you are in the right place!  We are all proof that YOU can do this and WE are 100% with you.  Welcome my new friend.

maryfreecig
Member

Welcome! Getting through day one may feel weird but day by day as you don't smoke, you'll find the quit you are looking for. Keep coming back, read, blog and keep working your quit. Yes you can.

Links to possibly useful stuff:

Quit Smoking Success Stories - YouTube 

Quitting Cigarettes Journal 

indingrl
Member

Welcome please keep blogging before you take that first puff over you it was suggested to me to read and educate myself about my nicotine addiction. I stay on this site everyday for 90 days just sharing and reading and doing what was suggested to ME.... it is still what I do today... one day at a time.

elvan
Member

Welcome to EX, you have come to the best site I know of to stop smoking.  Please read everything you can about nicotine addiction because this IS an addiction and not just a habit.  Stay as close to the site as you possibly can and read blogs, comment, blog, let us know if there is anything we can do for you.  I am going to put in links to two of JonesCarpeDiem‌'s blogs that I believe you will find very helpful /blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-in-the-first-four-months  and https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/thread/6040-my-welcome-to-new-members-10-years-of-wisdom-  there are also blogs from others you would definitely find helpful...YoungAtHeart‌ and JACKIE1-25-15‌ have beautiful welcomes that they post.  

I am so happy for you that you are taking this journey with us, you will never regret quitting and every bit of discomfort that you may go through will be well worth it.  

Ellen

bonniebee
Member

You have so much helpful info here so i just want to say Hello and welcome you to the group I have about 946 days of freedom (DOF ) after smoking 52 years of my life. I give so much credit to the Ex-Community for my successful quit and I still think... One day at a time ! Please take all you need and leave the rest ,blog often in the early days and months so that we all get to know you and help you succeed ! Have a plan and stay committed to it ! think positive thoughts when a negative one pops into your head you have the power to change that thought !sayings welcome we are glad you are here.jpg

Bonnie