Give and get support around quitting
No, seriously, can’t you? I do. I feel it on this site every time I’m here. I’ve been thinking about that lately. Everyone (myself included) bashes the Millennials for their lack of social skills. There have been all kinds of studies* and commentary about how easy it is to be mean to someone online, and how we would never be that way face-to face. Same with texting vs talking on the phone.
Yet, here we are, an online virtual community, and this is way more loving, non-judgmental, and caring than most in-person groups I know. Why is it that we are the exception to the rule? Is it our common addiction (misery loves company)? I don’t know about that. I’ve had political arguments with roommates in the hospital. Their pain didn’t stop me from explaining why their view was wrong and mine was right
What is it about us that works so well?
* I'd be happy to head a new study to research why our group works so well. I figure $1-2 million should cover it. Please write your Senators and Congressional Representative today to suggest this. PM me for wire instructions to my Swiss account.
TW517 JACKIE1-25-15 is a very talented writer, she has written many poem since she started here. Your blog is GREAT, really encouraging.
Ellen
There are some thoughts, feelings, attitudes that you folks know about me and my Wife doesn't. Not that she wouldn't if she could but she doesn't "get it" - what it is like to be a Nicotine Addict, to Quit, to Recover, to grow in this context. She can read it and even agree with it but she can't relate to it! I often ask people in my 3D world about their Quit Journeys and there is an immediate bond of familiarity! That's what this site captures.
Hi Thomas! Just weighing in on your thoughts here. I couldn't agree more! Interesting to me on top of what you said is that I've found people that quit many, many years ago just flick off my progress. I have learned no to bring the subject up in the community in which I live. Sad really BUT I recently talked with a very dear friend that quit drinking now 21 years ago. He said that while he personally acknowledges his success he does not advertise it unless contacted by someone needing help. Interesting. Peace and light to you Thomas!
I find the same kind of love and compassion in AA. No one understands an addict like another addict therefore no one can help an addict like another addict.
Connie