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3rd Time’s a Charm?!

I’m new to this site.  I have read so many wonderful support discussions.  I’m excited to be here.

ive tried to quit 2 times in the past 2 years.   I’m hoping 3rd time is a success.   I’ve just started, day 2.   I feel more determination than the other 2 times.  I’m turning 50 in April.  Maybe it’s that, maybe it’s my beautiful 11 year old son who tells me to stop all the time, maybe it’s just time.   I’m going to get on here everyday.  Everyone seems so nice and supportive.  This is an element I didn’t try in the past.  Good Luck to everyone and hope to talk to you soon!  Melissa 

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YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit smoking.  "I wish I had quit later," said nobody, ever!!!  I'm glad you are here.  The reading materials and support here have been credited with a lot of successful quits over the years.  I know they made mine a success!

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site.
 
 After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:


 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

elvan
Member

Welcome to EX, please pay attention to everything that YoungAtHeart‌ has recommended and please know that quitting is not an event...it is a one day at a time journey.  I will not tell you that it is easy because that was not my experience.  Education about nicotine addiction, support from others who have been where you are, and your own commitment will really help you.  Staying close to the site is the best gift you can give yourself and your quit.  Your son will be so proud but you will be even MORE proud.  I used the mantra NOPE Not One Puff Ever when I started my quit over five years ago.  I had more than one failed quit in the past, the biggest difference was EX.  I came here every morning and every evening and I am still here as often as possible.

So happy that you have made this decision and congratulations on your first two days of freedom.

Ellen

Thank you Ellen!

im just overwhelmed with the care and support of you and so many.  I feel empowered.   I know I have a tough road, right around the corner.  I’ve tried this before but I tried alone.    I’ve been reading the information and watching videos everyone is forwarding.  I’m not going to do this alone this time.  I’m going to do it with everyone here.  Thank you again

elvan
Member

You are SO welcome...this is a journey that we will be more than happy to help you on.  I lost quits in the past...BEFORE I had EX. You have a wonderful attitude and that will take you far.

Ellen

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Giulia
Member

What's Up Toucan.jpg       How are you doing?  Let us know.  We're here for you.

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Mandolinrain
Member

Welcome Melissa from another Melissa, lol. I had many failures until I came here and got busy reading all the suggested materials, became knowledgeable about the addiction and started to WORK at putting all this new knowledge into business. 

This site is full of info and you won't find a nicer group of people to support you on the way.

This is an amazing journey your beginning and some days will be difficult....we ALL went through those days with and or without the aide of a NRT, so you can to an finally be free from nicotine!

So anyway, welcome, looking forward to watching your quit grow on you

Bree19
Member

Hi Melissa.

Just checking in to see how you're coping so far.  

Blessings

Bree

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