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Indecision Can Be A Costly Decision

NDC_Team
Mayo Clinic
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brett-jordan-YcE0feO4DLI-unsplash.jpgWhen thinking about making a health behavior change, the initial motivation may be health or family. However, to accomplish a health behavior change, becoming very intentional about it will be necessary to really achieve such a change. And becoming intentional about it requires making a decision.

Many who are smoking now are planning to quit at some point. In fact, they may be able to envision that time, and just how their life will be different when they quit smoking (i.e., family will no longer be bugging them to quit, they will have some extra money, they will no longer smell of smoke, etc.)

However, building motivation for any health behavior change is hard. After all, we are talking about changing the very way we go through our daily life. So, what will it take for us to get over that “hump” of indecision?

Throughout life, we are continually making decisions (i.e., choosing one path over another). For example, we may have made such choices as a certain career, getting married, starting a family, or moving to another state. And, in each case, we were not only deciding in favor of something, but we were also deciding against something else.

Consider the example of wanting to lose weight. The indecision, or even delay, of embarking on such a health behavior goal as this demands first, and foremost, that we choose a different path.  The impetus for this may be awareness of how those extra pounds are impacting our life. Perhaps, we are finding that our pants are too tight, or that we are getting more winded running to the bus stop. We may be beginning to see that the current path is not really serving our needs best. We know the health risks that being overweight can bring. And the risk of indecision about this issue could become quite costly physically for us in the future.

Similarly, what risks to our health we are taking if we continue to smoke?

The risk of future health issues is certainly always there. Although, for some of you those concerns may seem quite distant or far away.

However, indecision about quitting tobacco use is really a decision, isn’t it? As you continue to use tobacco, you are laying the foundation for multiple risks to your health in the future. Those “golden years” may not be quite so wonderful if you are struggling to breath while trying to have fun with your grandchildren. And that dream retirement trip to Europe you have been saving for may prove to be more physically demanding that you are able to do anymore.

So, indecision really is a decision. If you continue to smoke, you are choosing the cigarette over all the other plans you have for your future.

Your body is where you live. Everything you do is made possible by, and depends on, your physical body. And if you risk the health of your body, you are gambling with your future.

Indecision is a decision…make the decision to protect your future and make a plan to quit smoking today!

What is your tobacco use today deciding about your tomorrow?

Barb Dallavalle, MA, LP
NDC Counselor/CTTS

Sign Photo by Kyle Glenn
Letter Blocks Photo by Brett Jordan

39 Comments
Steelers4
Member

Surpose you don"t care b/c your life is on hold for taking care of your senior parents and you keep having intuisions that you will die early and you have to live in a state you hate b/c insurance benefits

breann1169
Member

Good read!  Thank you for sharing!

MikeBurke
Mayo Clinic

Dear @Steelers4 ,

It sounds like you have an awful lot on your shoulders.  We certainly apologize if our blog seemed inconsiderate of that.

 

Steelers4
Member

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Steelers4
Member

not at all.  Well today was better I still have not smoked!  Today my neighbor helped me unpack my mom's closet and put her clothes in trash bags.  We are sending yhr clothes to her son-in-law's family in Chilie.  One of his brothers is visiting so he will take a couple of extra suitcases with him.  My mom just recently died in August!  So this kept me busy today from smoking and that is the main key to smoking.

CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
Community Manager

@Steelers4 Sorry to hear of your loss. That is nice of a neighbor to come and help. Glad to know that her belongings will help others.  Did having someone with you and having a task to do help distract you from cravings at all? What other things do you have planned to help distract you since you said keeping busy helped keep you from smoking.

BarbDallavalle
Mayo Clinic

@Steelers44:

Despite everything you have going on - it sounds like you are finding ways to keep from smoking.  And you are right - that is key to this process!  I am so sorry to hear about your mother.  However, while you are caring for others - taking care of your mother's things, etc., you are also continuing to care for yourself by staying quit!  And that shows how much you are continuing to value yourself and your future even as you go through this stressful period in your life.

 

Steelers4
Member

The only reason I am quitting is I need a full hip replace ment b/c the Mayo climic in Minasota put me on a very high dose of oral steroids for 2oyears and these are the side effects of them.  Yhe dr's at the Cleveland Clinic in Ft. Lauderdale said I have to quit smoking for the surgery.  Evan though my chest x'ray was fine.  I personally think they are just being politicaly correct myself.  Last 2 years I have had surgeries there no prob.  Thank you for for your kind words though.  To stay busy I used to walk every time I had a craving.  Now I talk to some one go sit in the shade listen to music, clean get on the computer,  Talk to a relative in the U,K. run errands and help my dad!  Hope these sugestions help oh and drink water like crazy snd suck on a lot of mint or use biotine mint spray,

 

 

 

 

CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
Community Manager

@Steelers4 your doctors are wanting you to quit prior to surgery because it will help with healing. You will have a harder time healing if you are using tobacco. You'll find other members on the community who have reported they weren't allowed surgery or transplants until they quit using tobacco.   Glad to hear you had a good chest xray.  Have you ever done a LDCT scan? You can read more about them on the community LDCT: Shameless Plug , for example. 

Steelers4
Member

No Had a Life screen test done of the heart and thing around there and circulation,  Everyting was fine there though.  I will look it up b/c I have had so many scans before but now you have peeked my interest.

Jillfullerton
Member

I recently quit smoking for a surgery as well. Dec 15 was my quit date and surgery was dec 26 on my toe.  The fracture never healed originally a lot due to smoking and my age. Smoking does a lot more damage than just your heart and lungs. It’s bad on your bones and circulation. The recovery has been very painful. I wish I had quit long before.

Steelers4
Member

thank you very much  for sharing I guess I have been very fourtunate with my pervious sugeries. Sincerely though thank you for telling it really means a lot to me.

Steelers4
Member

Does  anyone have any advice on this one. Ok I take the nasal spray to help me quit smoking the patches never stay on!  My shrink tells me I can not take Chantix b/c I am on antidepressants and he said it would make my depression worse.  I don't know if I can take Wellbutrin b/c I have grand mal seziures but I am on 2 seisure meds when I only need to be on one. On the article with the intro life coach said you need to be on two things to  help you quitt what do I do.  Today I have been having a lot of desires to smoke again evan though I have been busy.  

YoungAtHeart
Member

@Steelers4 

I am sorry you have been lost over here in the site staff postings.  

To answer your question, just as each person is unique, so is every quit experience.  Just because Ex suggests two forms of NRT does not mean it is required for everyone.  More important, I believe, is education, planning, preparation, support and commitment to beat this addiction  We as members can help with all but the last.

Although I saw your response I fear most in the community may not.  To remedy that, I recommend you write a blog to introduce yourself to the community (Ex Community-top left; then center blue box-"Post a Journal/Blog").  You might include your nicotine use history, what delivery system you are using, why you want to quit, your quit date if you have set one, and anything else about yourself you care to share.  You will reach a wider audience this way.

I look forward to seeing you there!

Nancy

 

Breebuerkle421

My tobacco use today is saying tomorrow I won't get as much done and I'll wake up coughing. And I want to quit tomorrow morning. I'll have to be patient and work on triggers. How to change my thought to an action of something else to do than smoking.

rdsmith
Member

Good Read.

Tiggie
Member

I am getting older and need to focus on my future help.  I have tried so many times without meds and with the patch.  The patches worked for me great till I was at the end when you wean off.  At the time I was at a very stressful job and had 3 teens at home and was not diagnosed yet for my depression and anxiety.  So I failed. I am hoping now, with my depression and anxiety under control that the patch will help.  And I also have more of a desire to actually quit this time.  Getting old sucks LOL

Barbscloud
Member

@Tiggie Welcome to the Ex and congrats on your decision to quit. I totally agree about getting old sucks.  😊   Glad you found us.  Having support has not only been instrumental in our quits, but has helped many of us maintain them.  Aids have helped many of us quit, including me, but it's important to remember they are aids and we still have to do the work. 

In addition to a quit date, some aids, and smoking cessation class, I was lucky to find the Ex a week prior to my quit.  I leaned about nicotine addiction and that I need to a plan to cope with cravings, triggers, etc.   I skipped these steps in the past and was never successful.  And having the support of fellow quitters saved my quit several times early on.

With knowledge and support, you can do this too.   We're here to share you're journey.  We've been there, so we know what it takes to be successful.   Work and commitment will get you where you want to be - an ex-smoker .  Use this time to prepare for you quit on the 1st.  

This link is a great place to start:

https://www.becomeanex.org/guides/?cid=footer_community_linktobex

Also, consider taking the Daily Pledge to stay on track one day at a time.  I look forrward to celebrating with you on the 20th and your many milestones to come.

I saw on your other post you're getting you lung CT.  I do that annually , so I'm glad to see you have that scheduled.  It's so important for us smokers.  

Stay busy and stay close.

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Barb

CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
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@Breebuerkle421 How are you doing today? Have you been using the resources on EX to educate yourself and plan for your quit today? Did you end up quitting or are you still working on it?

@rdsmith I see your quit date is coming up the end of March.  Glad to have you here.

Un1qu3
Member

Good read!

ernestinefouts2

Thank yall for the stories and comments and advise all help is helpful. I have been diagnosed with copd and im only 47. I have to and want to quit so bad. Ive quit several times before but started back. This time is different. Once I stop its for good. 

Steelers4
Member

congratulations on the choice you made!  Just remember anything you want realy bad is always tough.  That is what I am telling myself.  

CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
Community Manager

@ernestinefouts2 Welcome. That is great positivity!  Keep reading, posting and absorbing as much as you can from EX. There is a lot of information to help you on your quit journey.  Use it to make this your forever quit.

SuzyQ411
Member

@NDC_Team 

Hi! I will admit that I have dismissed this article any number of times because I am always annoyed by "pop ups!" However, today I decided to set aside that annoyance and actually read the darned popup! 😊

And I am glad I did!

Just a few of the take-aways for me are:  

"indecision really is a decision"...

Your body is where you live"...

"make the decision to protect your future"

I last stopped smoking on June 1, 2022 after my 4th relapse of this quit which actually started in August 2019 prior to surgery to clean out a clogged carotid artery to my brain. I was at serious risk for a stroke.

As I re-read those words of mine, I shake my head in disbelief that I have actually lit up again and sucked away for four two-week periods (the time it took to finish the carton I'd buy with each relapse) before finally coming to my senses and quitting again.

FOR THE TRUTH IS~

I do want to live a healthier life.

And I do want to treat this body of mine in a respectful manner. 

As a woman of almost 80 years of age, I definitely want to make these end years of my life to be as healthy as possible.

Smoking is an addiction. And we need all the help we can get to rise above its hold on us. The Become An Ex program through the Mayo Clinic has helped me immeasurably in making the decision to not remain a smoker. Thank you for making this free service available to me and to others who also  seek a better life.

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SuzyQ411
Member

@Breebuerkle421 

@Tiggie 

@ernestinefouts2 

Hi Ladies~

I see from your entries above that you are giving some serious consideration to stop the madness of your smoking. I just want to share information on a great, inexpensive easy-to-read little book that gets down to the basics of breaking the nicotine addiction that many of us members on the EX have found most helpful. It's The Easy Way to Quit Smoking by Alan Carr and can be found for sale online. Also, many libraries carry it.. 

Stay in touch. 

Keep us updated. 

Reach out for help.

We are here for you.

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Wishing you well on your journeys

 

Steelers4
Member

thank you for the srrgestion

jsilsby38
Member

5 cigarettes today. That is good for me. Been busy with work do I really need them. Or it's just a habit. 

 

pauliebob
Member

The reference to "golden years", "retirement", and "grandchildren" caught my attention. I'm 43 years old and got chronic bronchitis at 40. I smoked a half a pack a day for 23 years. It has literally ruined my life. A lot of people(I sure didn't) don't know how young the effects of smoking can take hold. 

MollyLeis
Mayo Clinic

@pauliebob you are so right in that so many people don't know the effects of tobacco use and how addictive it really is.  Stats show that young people can get addicted from a few weeks of use and most are addicted within a year.   Thanks for posting. 

    

TonjaBassal
Member

As my quit date approaches I find myself smoking more!! I feel like I am trying to smoke all I can before I quit! I am very nervous! I have ordered some patches from my doctor to help. I can’t take Chantix. I quit once for 2 years but this time I want it to be forever!!

jsilsby38
Member
  • I have done the same thing. Don't make your quit date like oh I have to do this today, it stresses you out more and makes it harder to quit. And yes it makes you want to smoke more. Quiting is the hardest thing I have ever done. But, it was the best thing I have ever done. It's a mental thing. Or mine was. I don't need this. 
CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
Community Manager

@TonjaBassal You'll find that some people tapered down to their quit date and others who smoked even more and then quit. Each journey is unique here on EX. Glad to hear that you ordered patches.  Please note that they can be purchased over the counter as well. Have you checked out the All Quitting Medications | EX Community page? 

@jsilsby38 Yes, educating and planning are important. Great reminder.

DhivyaaManickam
Mayo Clinic

@SuzyQ411  It sounds like you are really committed to quitting smoking and have been persistent. This shows how important quitting is to you. Relapses can serve as an opportunity to learn from what led to them so that you can better be prepared for the next time you are experiencing a similar situation. I wish you all the best! 

DhivyaaManickam
Mayo Clinic

@Breebuerkle421 That is great that you recognize having to be patient with yourself while working through triggers. Quitting smoking can be a process and one that definitely requires patience as you work through changing a lot of those habits around smoking, which can take time to get accustomed to. 

SuzyQ411
Member

@DhivyaaManickam  Yes, you are right in that I learned quite  bit during the relapse I had in May 2022. In fact, enough to have helped me reach my current 258 days as a non-smoker. As I have posted, it has not been an easy return for me but I have made a sacred spiritual promise to never smoke another cigarette and that is moving me forward. 😊

DhivyaaManickam
Mayo Clinic

@SuzyQ411 Congratulations! Way to continue pushing through and working hard to keep your commitment of being a non-smoker 🙂 

jsilsby38
Member
  • Smoking costs a lot of money. In the 12 days I quit. I have saved so much money, time being that 7 minutes that it takes to smoke and energy. I bought a new TV. Just for me. 
DhivyaaManickam
Mayo Clinic

@jsilsby38  That's awesome! It sounds like you are finding it very motivating to continue to see how much money you are saving. Enjoy your new tv 🙂 

jsilsby38
Member

Thank You! But I like money and my health. My health is important to me and cigarettes were killing me.

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The Nicotine Dependence Center at Mayo Clinic has been home to physicians, nurse practitioners, Master’s / PhD level counselors, trained TTS’, and amazing office staff for a total of 30 years, all working together to treat individuals who struggle with tobacco use. Counselors meet with an individual to develop their own personalized plan, discuss coping strategies, and provide ongoing support along the journey towards a tobacco-free life. As part of the process, counselors work with physicians and nurse practitioners to provide nicotine replacements and other medications for smoking cessation as needed. We are happy to be involved with the EX Community and we hope our experiences and expertise can help in your journey towards a tobacco-free life. View the link in our signature to see our individual Biographies.