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“I’m terrified the cravings will never go away.”

Dr_Hays
Mayo Clinic
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Many smokers fear that when they quit, withdrawal will never end. They’ll say, “What if I’m always miserable?”

 

That’s a natural concern. After all, nicotine cravings are real, and they’re not fun! But this doesn’t mean you’ll be plagued by cravings — or that they’ll be strong enough to drive you back to smoking.

 

Here are 3 ways to minimize how hard cravings hit and how long they last.

 

  • Use nicotine replacement therapy (NRT) with a strong enough nicotine dose. When smokers say, “The patch didn’t work” or “the gum didn’t help,” it’s often because they chose a patch with an inadequate nicotine dose or didn’t chew their gum on schedule. A trained tobacco specialist can help you use NRT correctly.
  • Don’t quit medication prematurely. Some newly quit smokers, emboldened by their success, ditch their medication when they’re still highly vulnerable to relapse. Remember: It’s smoking, not medication, that poses a danger!
  • Don’t expect medication to eliminate cravings. Even after nicotine has cleared your body, you can be tripped up by habit or emotional triggers. Be prepared! Learn alternative ways to occupy your hands, mouth, and mind, and work on replacing old routines with new ones.

 

You might hear former smokers say they still “crave” cigarettes years after quitting, but they’re not talking about “my chest is going to explode” feeling common in the first few weeks. They may occasionally think, “A cigarette would be nice right now,” but they quickly move on.

 

As one former smoker put it, “My fear of suffering was far greater than my actual suffering.”

 

Let us know: If you’ve relapsed recently, ? Next time around, what will you do differently to ease withdrawal?

 

If you’ve quit for good, how long did it take for your regular cravings to stop?

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120 Comments
Knimcheski
Member

Last time for me It was used as a replacement for nicotine the patch gum etc. I was never worried about getting addicted to the gum.for me gum is thousand times better. No smoke. What was fantastic the first time I realised wow I am free I had gone all day not using the gum. I 2 as free!

Giulia
Member

As with anything in life - we can become accustomed to anything.  (We did with cigarettes!)  We're human's well, even animals have that ability - to be come accustomed to things unnatural to them.  So if you have to wear a mask....  My question is - why is your daughter still smoking in the car when you are in it?  Can she not step out to smoke?  Can she not just NOT smoke while you're in the car?  Can she NOT do that for you, her mother?  Can you not insist that she does?  I know, lots of questions and I don't know your relationship, so I'm just sitting here in Tennessee frustrated as all get out.  And wishing for a change for you.  And still sending prayers up.

Cameree
Member

Well now she doesn’t smoke in her car when I’m in there and instead of

smoking in my kitchen she now smokes outside. I thank you for your concerns

but my daughter and I have a very close relationship and she’s afraid of me

having the surgery but I told her it’s my life and she has to deal with

what ever I say

On Thu, Mar 28, 2019 at 7:23 PM Giulia <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>

Cameree
Member

That’s great wow

On Fri, Mar 29, 2019 at 11:01 AM knimcheski <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>

Altalee
Member

I've quit a thousand times but I'm never gonna give up on quiting

Giulia
Member

You just keep at it Altalee‌  Perseverance will eventually pay off.  When you've finally had enough of Day One's, you'll never have to go through it again.  When you close the door on the option to smoke, you discover your freedom.  Keep at it.

Sammy838
Member

I've tried to quit many different times I've tried the patches and it seemed like after I was done with the patches I went through withdrawal once again and that didn't last very long I went back to smoking shortly after I was off the taxes I was miserable then I decided to stop once again and I went cold turkey which really wasn't that bad until I started having problems with my work and which I got laid off after that point then I started smoking again from that point which was approximately 2 years ago now 2 days ago I began quitting once again cold turkey I'm getting through it and I believe this will be the last time

Giulia
Member

Hope it is your last time to go through it, Sammy.  Stand tall, stay tough, keep reading!  Cheers.

EleJ
Member

Thank you for encouraging words !

hollygillespie0

What if you don't want to trade a form of nicotine  for more nicotine?? What then?? What if you want to become  nicotine  free, period. 

hollygillespie0

Had chlorine poisoning  a few months ago, and my lungs are going  through  enough!!! They don't  need cigarettes on top of everything else!! Been a smoker for 30 plus years. Really tired of the old ball and chain!!! It is truly a habit with me!!! Gotta break the habit!!!

JonesCarpeDiem

@hollygillespie0 

 

Nicotine is the physical addiction

the habit part is the smoking ritual that's connected to your routine, memories and emotions.

Go to the conversations tab near the top left of the page and choose blogs then look over to the right and read "What to expect in the first four months."

If you're still smoking start saying "I'm going to wait a little longer" EVERY TIME YOU THINK OF SMOKING. This will get you off autopilot.

hollygillespie0

Hi guys!! I feel  like I have friends  now!!! I need you guys!!! I only smoke a half a cigarette  at a time, now. I have cut way, way down, but not enough!! My son and I have no family  or friends, but I do feel like I have support  on this side, and support  with him too!!! I may stand a chance now. 

NDC_Team
Mayo Clinic

Yes you do Holly!  You are in good company with this wonderful community,  Sounds like it is so important for you to become tobacco free to let your lungs heal and breathe better.  The amount and manner of nicotine delivered in the cigarette, even half cigarette, is very addicting and habit forming which is why some people decide to use a safe nicotine replacement which is much less reinforcing.  That said, even though a person is more likely to stop smoking completely if they use nicotine replacement, more people have quit without it.  You know yourself best.  Do what fits for you.  As I said, you’re in good company with this group here, and best of wishes in beating this thing for good - one day at a time.

 

JonesCarpeDiem

@hollygillespie0 

I only smoked my cigarettes half way down but I did it to keep the heat of that cherry away because I felt if you were getting that extra heat it was likely more damaging.

how many half cigarettes a day are you smoking?

Each cigarette delivers approximately one milligram of nicotine so depending on how many you are smoking, it's my guess you are smoking more out of the ritual.

 

MHebert21
Member

Take deep breath calm down 

Rprice
Member

That is so true, I have a friend who quit smoking for almost 10 years and said he still gets the craving, he said that the craving never goes away, he just put a tooth pick in his mouth 

CommunityAdmin
Community Manager
Community Manager

@Rprice How frequently though? A periodic craving shouldn't be a barrier to quitting. Don't let the idea of some people having cravings years later prevent you from going on a quit journey. I believe @Giulia mentioned she had craving recently and maybe @indingrl too. Both have long quits and could give you a sense on how frequent they have a craving and also some ideas on how to manage it in the moment.

Giulia
Member

@Rprice   I was looking back at your posts and can't figure out if you've quit or not.  But if I may (since @CommunityAdmin  called me out), I'll add my experience on the day of my 17th year anniversary of quitting.

In the beginning of my quit I thought I would never get over cravings.  The beginning is kind rough - for all of us.  But what I've learned during this journey is that - first of all it changes.  Thank God!  And it continues to change throughout the journey.  

I had a craving the other day, for example.  Yup, after this 17 year quit.  But what makes it easier now, is that I employ the techniques I learned in week one.  Those same techniques - especially the re-focusing one, work just as well now.  And because I've used them many a time - the re-focusing takes place within about 60 seconds.  And then I'm past the craving and on to the next thought.  The more you practice the shuffling off a craving the easier it gets.

But as with all techniques, "practices," disciplines - it takes work - and practice.  It takes stamina, continued desire, focus and perseverance.  Quitting an addiction is very much possible but you can't do it without - first having some understanding of it, second - the  understanding of what you can do to Best it, and third - putting that understanding into practice.  And when you've applied all THAT, you have a mindset that will enable you to have a long-term quit.  MOO (my opinion only).

Your friend deals with a craving by putting a toothpick in his mouth.  I would venture to guess that that was a technique he employed early on and it still works for him and the craving goes away.  I also suspect that he doesn't crave every minute of every hour of every day like we all do in the beginning.  That cravings revisit now and again with long-term quitters - that's just part of this addiction.  I have them now and again.   I shrug them off like slapping a mosquito on my shoulder and move on to my next thought.

As Dr. Hays says in his blog:  "You might hear former smokers say they still “crave” cigarettes years after quitting, but they’re not talking about “my chest is going to explode” feeling common in the first few weeks. They may occasionally think, “A cigarette would be nice right now,” but they quickly move on."  He said it all in two sentences.  I took five paragraphs of words to say the same thing.  Whatever we say, if it speaks to you - USE it!  lol

 

 

About the Author
An expert in tobacco use and dependence, Dr. Hays has authored and co-authored over 70 peer-reviewed scholarly articles and book chapters on various aspects tobacco dependence and its treatment. Since joining the Nicotine Dependence Center in 1992, he and its staff have treated more than 50,000 patients for tobacco dependence.