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“I’m terrified the cravings will never go away.”

Dr_Hays
Mayo Clinic
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Many smokers fear that when they quit, withdrawal will never end. They’ll say, “What if I’m always miserable?”

 

That’s a natural concern. After all, nicotine cravings are real, and they’re not fun! But this doesn’t mean you’ll be plagued by cravings — or that they’ll be strong enough to drive you back to smoking.

 

Here are 3 ways to minimize how hard cravings hit and how long they last.

 

  • Use nicotine replacement therapy (NRT) with a strong enough nicotine dose. When smokers say, “The patch didn’t work” or “the gum didn’t help,” it’s often because they chose a patch with an inadequate nicotine dose or didn’t chew their gum on schedule. A trained tobacco specialist can help you use NRT correctly.
  • Don’t quit medication prematurely. Some newly quit smokers, emboldened by their success, ditch their medication when they’re still highly vulnerable to relapse. Remember: It’s smoking, not medication, that poses a danger!
  • Don’t expect medication to eliminate cravings. Even after nicotine has cleared your body, you can be tripped up by habit or emotional triggers. Be prepared! Learn alternative ways to occupy your hands, mouth, and mind, and work on replacing old routines with new ones.

 

You might hear former smokers say they still “crave” cigarettes years after quitting, but they’re not talking about “my chest is going to explode” feeling common in the first few weeks. They may occasionally think, “A cigarette would be nice right now,” but they quickly move on.

 

As one former smoker put it, “My fear of suffering was far greater than my actual suffering.”

 

Let us know: If you’ve relapsed recently, ? Next time around, what will you do differently to ease withdrawal?

 

If you’ve quit for good, how long did it take for your regular cravings to stop?

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120 Comments
janineperez
Member

Hi support fam... Just quit today! Wish me luck. CT! I have a migraine but I am doing good. I am going to use all the tools you have shared and the ones from the Ways to Quit page.  

Giulia
Member

Hi there Janine, Welcome our quit family.  Knowledge will set you free.  You cannot read too much on here.  If and when you feel like it, put up a blog and let people know a little about you.  I don't think many members will see your response on this blog and you'll get more feedback by putting up your own blog.  Just click on the pencil icon (upper right) and select blog or Discussion, give it a title, type the body and click on Publish at the bottom.  Cheers and chin up!  janineperez

Anite
Member

Hi janineperez  Good luck on your first day of cold turkey quit.  I quit ct on 24 July 2018.  I must say I battle some days, but is is getting better by the day.  I feel wonderful. 

Keep going, just say no!!!

Anite

maryfreecig
Member

One day at a time, keep working your quit.

twherley
Member

I can do this

karenjones
Member

Of course you can do this, any thought otherwise is the addict talking and, DONT LISTEN.  Will the cravings go away...??? Yes they will, they die a slow  death though.  But they do go away. We are here for you.  You don't have to do this alone, it takes a community to quit smoking!

laqbana55
Member

So today is day 8 of hopefully my last quit. This quit has been the most difficult by far! Although cravings have weakened somewhat, after meals they're still pretty strong. So although I know I won't smoke today no matter what, I'm going to find other things to do which is why I'm posting right now! NOPE is my new mantra!

anaussiemom
Member

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JonesCarpeDiem

When you wish upon a star...

Nothing can make you smoke except you. Smoking is a choice.

If you can go 8 days nothing is standing in your way.

Another reminder/reenforcement when you think  of smoking is 

"I don't do that anymore."

kkeating
Member

Great idea!  They are available in various flavors on Amazon.com!

JonesCarpeDiem

You can make your own with cinnamon oil and plain toothpicks and a small jar or pill bottle

JonesCarpeDiem

Leave them in the oil for a couple days. Pull them out with tweezers and spread them out on some wax paper or tin foil to dry.

elvan
Member

laqbana55‌ NOPE was my favorite word for a very long time and I told my oldest daughter about it...she never came here to EX but she LOVED the simplicity of NOPE...she has been quit for over 3 years now.  I am really proud of her...AND of you!

Ellen

Cameree
Member

What are NRT's and where do you get them

Giulia
Member

Cameree  NRT stands for Nicotine Replacement Therapy.  They replace a portion of the nicotine in your body that a cigarette would normally provide.  They are used for the purpose of cutting back on withdrawal/craving symptoms when you quit smoking.  Some examples are inhalers, patches, gum and lozenges.  You can buy them at Walmart or any drug store.  Or you can call your state's quit line (if it has one) to find out if they offer free or reduced cost NRTs.  Speak to an Expert | Smokefree.gov    There are also other drugs which are not NRTs, such as Buprion  (aka Wellbutrin, Zyban) which act in a different way to help lessen cravings.  It's also an antidepressant.  You would need a prescription for that from your doctor.  As with all medications it's best to ask your doctor before taking any of them as side effects can vary.

anaussiemom
Member

Cameree  Patches, lozenges, gum.  Your Doctor, Links Guila gave you.

Also over the counter!!

Best wishes.

Cameree
Member

Thanks I've tried Wellbutrin but my body has gotten use to that. But I'll have to try something else 

JonesCarpeDiem

Just remember, nothing is going to quit for you and no NRT is going to make you think of smoking any less.

anaussiemom
Member

Being an NRT user,   I believe they do help, with the addiction  of not so intense, craves. As well as Nicotine withdrawal, and all the emotions that come with it.  
It does give many of us,  a chance to relearn,  and change our behaviors, at a more peaceful and mindful way, by not going cold turkey....And such.



"No one has to be a Saint to quit!"
  Object is to quit.   To stop the addiction!   Anyway that works to  STOP!

JonesCarpeDiem

I was an NRT user too. They may satisfy the physical addiction but they don't make you think of smoking any less. It's what you do when you think of smoking that counts. You can say "I don't do that anymore" or you can pop an NRT. 

Cameree
Member

I had a graving today but I got up and put a lozenge in my mouth too take

the edge away. So far it helps but I think of smoking often so I suck on a

lot of these now that I have them

On Mon, Jan 21, 2019 at 12:16 PM Giulia <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>

JonesCarpeDiem

Don't get in the place where your whole quit becomes popping a lozenge.

You are likely getting more nicotine than you were before you quit.

Don't replace the thought of smoking with a lozenge.

Start talking to yourself whenever you think of smoking.

Say "I don't do that anymore." Say it every time.

Make that your lozenge.

Giulia
Member

I agree with Dale.  And if you're using Nicorette don't use more than 5 in six hours.

JonesCarpeDiem

We don't even know which strengths she is using.

This is why I recommend the patch.

You have to trust it's working and accept that and then, keep busy the first couple of weeks.

you must replace the dopamine some way so you don't give up. The patch can help with that. 

Cameree
Member

I thank you all for helping me I won't use the lozengers no more than one a

day. I know I need to tell myself I don't want that smoke anymore. I will

keep you informed of my results everyday. If I need to talk I know where to

come. Again thanks I'm trying very hard.

On Tue, Jan 22, 2019 at 5:04 PM jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 <

JonesCarpeDiem

You can use the lozenges but use them for the physical addiction. 

You are dealing with two addictions.

The physical---Nicotine

and

The Psychological---Habit/Ritual/Ingrained In Your Routine

You can choose to give up the physical addiction at any time

but

you must unlearn the Psychological addiction by making memories while not smoking.

This takes time.

For that reason it's best to try to keep them separate so as to not become both physically and psychologically dependent on the NRT because it can make it difficult for you to believe you can ever be safely quit without nicotine. 

They aren't cheap when you're on them for years.

Cameree
Member

Thanks for the information.

On Tue, Jan 22, 2019 at 7:39 PM jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 <

JonesCarpeDiem

You're welcome. We're here for you.

Giulia
Member

Listen to the man - he knows whereof he speaks.  Again I am in total agreement.

anaussiemom
Member

Cameree    Oh my!   Just one moment at a time.   Please don't worry about NRTS, read the instructions do accordingly, or less.   Meantime get your groove on.   Helps so much, in so many ways to not smoke.   

Music, jumping, breathe, lots of water, Just get your groove goin"!!

You got this!

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Cameree
Member

I'll do just that getting it on lol

On Tue, Jan 22, 2019 at 8:47 PM anaussiemom <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>

anaussiemom
Member

Marvelous!  Cameree

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Cameree
Member

Thank you I tried Wellbutrin but my body got immune to it and no longer work

elvan
Member

Cameree  You can do this...seriously, we are not all super heroes and there are a LOT of us who quit with this site and the support and education we got from here.  I did not use any NRT's, I think that you are getting really good advice from JonesCarpeDiem‌  He KNOWS what he is talking about.  DO stay close to the site, we are your new best friends.

Ellen

Ballgame89
Member

This is exactly one of my concerns...being super sick right now makes me want to quit more than usual. I know as soon as I can breathe again, I am instantly going to want to go back to vaping and/or smoking. I just hate that I feel like I need nicotine so bad that I use chewing tobacco when I'm sick and can't inhale stuff, yet I think it's disgusting. My addiction is what is really disgusting I suppose...

elvan
Member

Ballgame89‌ It does get easier but you have to stop feeding the monster...the monster is the addiction.  I got so sick that I could not smoke because I could not breathe, I did not even have the strength to cough.  Three inhalers, two antibiotics, gallons of orange juice, a warm steam vaporizer, postural drainage, and cupping got me through and I have not smoked since.  That was over five years ago and I have never regretted quitting for even a moment.  I regret STARTING every single day of my life.  I have COPD and it is not something I would wish on ANYONE.  Aside from the shortness of breath, there is the overwhelming fatigue.  This journey to freedom is the best journey you will ever be on.  BREATHE....take a deep breath in through your nose and hold it, then exhale SLOWLY through pursed lips much like you did when you smoked.  It helps to keep your oxygen level up and helps with the disorientation that often comes with an early quit.

You CAN do this.

Ellen

DonnaMarie
Member

I'm such a cold turkey advocate (for myself mostly), but NRT saved my husband during his quit 10 years ago. He says he rarely, if ever, has a craving of any kind. I'm 76 days in and have an odd urge now and then. 

Donna

Day 76

Cameree
Member

I know how you feel it has being over a month now for me and it's still

hard I don't think if I hadn't gotten approved for this lung transplant I

would still be smoking. I should have never started back knowing I have

COPD it doesn't get any better with smoking. But if you try to do other

things when you want to smoke it will help some. I wake up every morning

when my daughter smoke In my kitchen and it comes all the way back to my

bedroom and the smoke smell so good to me but I tell myself if you can do

it with a smoker in the house smoking around you and you don't grab at

least one then you're doing fine. I put up with my daughter smoking

everyday of thinking about how it feels to me to see her smoke and she has

socadosis so she really need to quit also I tried to get her to stop but

she tells me treat she didn't force me so don't force her. She is sick now

from her sockadosis she has lost down from 170 to 113 but she still won't

stop all I can do is pray.

On Sat, Mar 2, 2019 at 4:54 PM Ballgame89 <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>

Giulia
Member

Yes, dear Lord, all you can do is pray, Cameree  As you yourself know, we have to come to this quitting place of our own free will for it to work.  You have.  We can't force this on anyone.  You've got over a month under your belt.  You are setting a fine example for your daughter.  I'm just sorry it took getting to a point where you need a lung transplant to push you to that place.  But now you're there.  You're doing it!  And your body is reaping the rewards.  May not seem like it at times, bur believe that this is so.  Prayers for you and your daughter.  Have you considered asking her to smoke outside to make it easier on you?  

Cameree
Member

I've have asked her to smoke outside because you are not allowed to smoke

in my apartment but she goes half way outside with the door open but I can

still smell it. But that will soon be over also because if not she's going

to have to move out so I won't get put out

Giulia
Member

Good for you!    And it will be good for her too, even if she doesn't think so.  May get her annoyed enough to quit!  lol

elvan
Member

She HAS to smoke outside and she cannot come up with excuses, you cannot allow them.  I did not smoke inside an I really think that it helped me to quit.  Does she have sarcoidosis?  If so, you are right, she DOES have to quit but if she won't she cannot smoke in your apartment.   You cannot be around second hand smoke, it will continue to damage your lungs and make your COPD progress.  If she has to smoke outside, it will likely be helpful to her quitting.  DO pray...

I am so afraid of getting to the point of being told that I need a lung transplant...I am doing everything within my power to keep that from happening.  My heart goes out to you.  

Sending you hugs and strength,

Ellen

Cameree
Member

Thank you and yes she has sockadosis she just won't listen to me but she is

sick now. I'm glad that I'm able to get a lung transplant so I won't have

to use oxygen again but yes I'm scared but I'll leave it in the lords

hands. So wish me luck lol

elvan
Member

I will be saying prayers for you and look forward to following your progress.  Stay as close to the site as you can Cameree‌.

Hugs,

Ellen

Cameree
Member

I will and thank you

Giulia
Member

We are all here on your team Cameree.   Keep reaching out to us.  

Cameree
Member

I thought about what was said about my daughters smoking getting into my

lungs and decided to by me a mask so when I ride in her car I won't have to

smell it or worry about it affecting me. Thanks for the information I

needed that

On Mon, Mar 4, 2019 at 12:03 AM Giulia <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>

elvan
Member

Cameree‌  You HAVE to protect your lungs, no matter what.  Seriously, you have to put that first.  Clearly, you can't quit FOR your daughter, I really hope that someone can reach her.  What kind of a mask are you planning to buy for the car?  I cannot stand to have my face covered...I am seriously claustrophobic and my COPD has made it MUCH worse.  PLEASE take care of yourself.

Ellen

Cameree
Member

I'm planning on buying the mask that cover your face when you are sanding

or trying to stay away from dust I'm clostaphobic also and I hope I can

wear one

On Mon, Mar 4, 2019 at 8:19 PM anaussiemom <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>

Cameree
Member

They will go away don’t give up nor don’t give in

On Thu, Mar 28, 2019 at 6:33 PM knimcheski <communityadmin@becomeanex.org>

About the Author
An expert in tobacco use and dependence, Dr. Hays has authored and co-authored over 70 peer-reviewed scholarly articles and book chapters on various aspects tobacco dependence and its treatment. Since joining the Nicotine Dependence Center in 1992, he and its staff have treated more than 50,000 patients for tobacco dependence.