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Avoiding the unnecessary haircut

NDC_Team
Mayo Clinic
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There is a quote that is sometimes heard in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous; “If you hang around the barber shop long enough you just might get a haircut.”   For a person in recovery, especially early recovery, that quote holds one of the basic principles of recovery:   Avoid the people, places, or things that might trigger one to go back to their drug of choice. This is also pertinent for someone who is working on quitting smoking. Relapse triggers are everywhere and you must be prepared. Of course you won’t be able to avoid going to the gas station forever, but you could find another one that does not evoke those triggering thoughts.  You might not be able to quit drinking coffee, but could you go to a different part of the house to drink it, maybe a room that you never smoked in. You might not be able to get out of that traffic jam every day on your way home from work, but you can alter your routine in the car by changing the radio station, or using your fingers to tap a song on the steering wheel!

 What are some of your triggers for smoking? Prevent an unnecessary haircut – think about the people, places, or things that might get you back to smoking and develop a plan to deal with them.

Heather Kraling-Coons

NDC Counselor/CTTS

7 Comments
indingrl
Member

AA- teaches Alcoholics - STEP one- NICOTINE anonymous - uses the SAME steps- ALanon for codependency SAME steps- Gamblers Anonymous  - 12 steps used in Bible recovery booklets too- AMAZING - used in becomeanEX- 12 STEPS or just using AA slogans - just asking- Heather- Mayo uses this slogan in NICOTINE counseling- its ALL good- just wondering- RECOVERY at all costs from NICOTINE IS GOOD - CONGRATS Heather teaching AA slogans- gentle hug.  

elvan
Member

Absolutely agree...you have to put your quit FIRST, addiction is addiction.  As the wife of a recovering alcoholic (34+ years of sobriety), I remember well the beginning of his journey and how it really did not HAVE to be a struggle...it HAD to be a journey.  Once he accepted that, it was much smoother.   He also did 90 meetings in 90 days.  I am SURE I came here at LEAST 90 times in 90 days.  Support HELPS.

virgomama
Member

Great common sense way to show nicotine addiction.  Great reminder to be diligent and great tip for newbies.

McCarron
Member

I always hear that quitting gets easier the longer you stay quit. I find it just the opposite. The longer i'm off of them, the more I want them. All of a sudden I miss them so bad that nothing will stop me from going and buying myself a pack. When I light up that first cigarette, It feels like I died and went to heaven, followed by the realization that I am hopeless addicted to these dirty things. I  have quit Soooo many times during 50+ years of a pack and a half a day. I have set a quit day for April 1st .I am happy to have found this group. I believe it will help a lot. any suggestions for me?

Nancy  

virgomama
Member

Hi McCarron you have definitely come to the right place.  Believe me this community is packed full of folks who felt just like you and are now free from that addiction.  You've made a great first step to realize this is an addiction and you need help.  Start reading all you can.  The Best of Ex is a good place to start.  YoungAtHeart has a great introduction for newcomers with all sorts of information.  Read them all.  Study up on addiction and what it does to your brain.  That was the turning point for me.  When I actually got  the addiction realization.  Hang in here and just start reading.  You'll get the support you need here.  I'm convinced this site and it's people made the difference for me. 

Cindy

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome to our community!

The reason you feel "like I died and went to heaven" is because of the hit of dopamine the nicotine delivers. Cigarettes were designed as an efficient method to create addicts.  Big Tobacco designed them this way ON PURPOSE!   If you understand the science behind the addiction, I think it will be easier to deal with being quit.  Everything you THINK a cigarette does for you is a lie. THAT made me really angry when I understood that they made addicts of us on purpose - to make $$$$$.   Read on to find out about it!

The important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library. Here's a link to a video here on the site which describes nicotine addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpWMgPHn0Lo&feature=youtu.be.
 
 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmoking.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises recommended here on the site.
 
 After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
 
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
 
You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
 https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...


The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
 
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!


 Nancy

Giulia
Member

On the other hand - if you hang around the barberquitshop of BecomeAnEX, you just might get a quit haircut.  And THAT would be good thing.

I'd rather think about the places, things, techniques and people who enable and promote and support my quit.  Many of which are right here!  Promote a necessary hair cut say I!

Many children cry when they first get their hair cut.  Same with smokers.  It's changing us.  It's scary.  We look different  to ourselves in the mirror.  The image that that we have always known is morphing.  

Thanks for the brain spur.  Took me in a totally different direction.

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The Nicotine Dependence Center at Mayo Clinic has been home to physicians, nurse practitioners, Master’s / PhD level counselors, trained TTS’, and amazing office staff for a total of 30 years, all working together to treat individuals who struggle with tobacco use. Counselors meet with an individual to develop their own personalized plan, discuss coping strategies, and provide ongoing support along the journey towards a tobacco-free life. As part of the process, counselors work with physicians and nurse practitioners to provide nicotine replacements and other medications for smoking cessation as needed. We are happy to be involved with the EX Community and we hope our experiences and expertise can help in your journey towards a tobacco-free life. View the link in our signature to see our individual Biographies.