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This has been one hell of a rollercoaster week. I have been in PAIN! And yes, I gave into this addiction of smoking 2 times. I have not yet learned how to deal with the reasl painful stuff without smoking. Today when I lost my job, I was flooded with emotions. I was angry, sad, fearful, in denial, and majorly overwhelemed. I also felt not worthy and l just felt like a piece of shit that got thrown away. IN reality.....I lost a job. Period. But at the time I really felt like my life was over and I have the F its. I did not care about myself because I had so self esteem. And anger is so new to me so I do not know how to deal with that emotion. I have always taken it out on myself my entire life. I do NOT express it correctly. Hell, I do not even know HOW you are supposed to express it.
I was never allowed to be angry. I always turned it inward. So being angry is so foreign to me. My natural reaction is to hurt myself in some way. I did this thru my addictions. I found food first. I almost died at age 24 when I weighed 84 pounds. Thank God I am fully recovered. I found booze at a 12 and I was an ugly drunk. I was a sappy, crying, pathetic drunk. Thank God I am sober and clean from other things. The last and hardest drug for me to stop is cigarettes.
I know I CAN do this. It is my anger getting in the way. When I get angry or someone else hurts me, then it is so automatic to do harm to myself for relief. Looking at that senstence I can see how insane that is. But that is how this addict has always operated. And the only way it will change is for me to recognize the pattern. Real young I use to self injure myself before the terms cutter and things like that ever came out. So I can see now, I have always harmed myself for relief of my inside pain which was really anger that I did not know how to deal with.
I do not engage in any of those behaviors today......EXCEPT I still am hurting myself every time I pick up a smoke!!!! I need to see this in writing for myself so I can see that this is real. I need to hear myself saying that I am harming myself when I am picking up a smoke. I may get that little relief but all my problems are still there and now I am smoking too. How intelligent is that? I am way too smart for this idiotic, insane pattern!!!!!! Being smart is not an assett at all!!! I analyze the crap out of analyzing. I need to keep things real simple for this comlex, chaotic brain of mine. The committee in my head is always talking.
So I need to get a grip here on my anger. I need to know how to deal with it. If I do not learn how to deal with myself and what comes up for me, I will continue a downward path. THAT IS NOT WHAT I WANT OR I WOULD NOT BE HERE! Take away the smokes and I am angry. Then add a situation to fuel the fire and I lose it. So I need to learn healthy tools because I am not going to keep hurting myself. I want to live and be FREE! I want to be healthy. I want my cats to be healthy! I do not want anything having a grip on me. I want my life back. I want to be in control of my emotions. This is why I quit so this is why I am not going to keep hurting ME! I just need help with dealing with my anger and learn how to refocus it and channnel it into a healthy venue.