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jb2008
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About to quit on the 25 of this Month april.

I always quit then go back out of either enjoying it being outside or because somthing has saddened me or im upset any ideas on how to convience my self to not go back when i quit for good this time?

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Hi Jb. If you like to be outside, instead of smoking, go for a walk, read a book outside, garden. Anything but smoking. We are always going to have sad moments in our life. You need to know smoking will not change anything. 

YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit smoking.  It is one you will never regret.  I am so glad you found us two weeks before your quit date so you will have ample to time to read, prepare and plan for your quit.  Doing so goes a long way to helping you be successful.  Life is always going to happen - it did to all of us who have been successful at some point in our quits.  If you prepare for those times, you can get through them without smoking.  We will give you tools to use to do so.

 

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. You can search for it online or at your local library.

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go to the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and livewell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand in a place different from when you smoked. Maybe switch to tea for a bit.  If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Keep a cold bottle of water with you from which to sip. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instea...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy

AnnetteMM
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Read everything!  Especially all the stuff Nancy said.

elvan
Member

Welcome to EX...remember that we always have good days and bad days...smoking stuffs our feelings and does not allow us to GROW as we experience those feelings...bad ones AND good ones.  I, too, associated the outdoors with smoking but I found that going outside and taking deep breaths was and IS wonderful, there does not have to be smoke in those breaths.  This is a journey, quitting is one step at a time and baby steps count.  Many of us quit more than once in the past, it's the present that will determine our futures.  Stay close to the site, read blogs, see how others are handling their quits and their challenges.  There is no reason why you cannot do this, as our beloved MarilynH‌ says all the time...this is very DOABLE!

Ellen

MarilynH
Member

Welcome to the community, congratulations on your upcoming quit on the 25th, it's the best decision that you'll ever make in your lifetime so please read the links suggested above me and keep reading everything you can about quitting smoking and remaining quit because there's a wealth of information here to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb and start living a life of Freedom, you can succeed believe it deep breaths and be willing determined and totally committed so when you get to Day ONE you'll be able to say in the evening YAY for Day WON with many more to come you can do it believe it....

avian3
Member

What helped me was planning a project and since I prefer to be outside, I did a large gardening project where I dug new flower beds and and replanted old ones. It seemed to help take my mind off smoking. Anything you enjoy doing, you can learn to enjoy even more without smoking.

Now I wish I hadn't dug up all those flower beds because I don't have the stamina to keep them up as well.

Giulia
Member

How're you doing jb?  You all set for your quit date in two days?  We're here to help, but it appears you haven't logged in since your last post.  Perhaps you've found another community to hang with?  That's fine.  Support can really make the difference between success and failure.  Wishing you freedom.

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elvan
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I hope you are preparing...getting together your quit kit.  Stay close to the site and remember that smoking never fixed anything, it never made anything better...your addiction played tricks on you.  Go outside and take deep...CLEAN breaths, blow bubbles, smell the flowers, go for walks.  No crave ever killed anyone but no one can say that about smoking.  

Remember that we are here and that we have ALL been where you are, we KNOW what it's like.

Ellen