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SimplySheri
Member

Your Quit Is Not Here

~~You will see me struggle but you will never see me quit.~~  Unknown

You aren't going to find your quit here.  You will find suggestions, advice, encouragement, tips, hints, and information.  But you won't find your quit here.

You aren't going to find your quit in an NRT.  No patch has the answer for you.  No gum takes the challenge from you.

Your quit is within you.  Seriously.  Take time away from the internet, away from well-intentioned friends, away from all the information on why quitting is necessary and good and do-able.

Take time to look within.  Are you willing to stop believing you will fail?  Do you know that quitting is entirely possible AND that you can do it?  Can you acknowledge that it is time to stop setting yourself up to fail and just do it, come hell or high water?  Most importantly, are you willing to undergo anything....absolutely anything....rather than pick up another cigarette?

Because those who are serious about quitting no matter what, will quit.  Those who give themselves an out by doubting themselves, by being worried about failing, by wondering if they are ready, usually don't.

You see, the quit isn't in the NRTs, although they can certainly help the craves.  The quit isn't in the support, although support while quitting can inspire and motivate.  The quit isn't even in this site, although this site is the absolute BEST for information, knowledge, support, and wisdom.

The quit, my friend, is in you.  Only you.  And if you succeed, it's because you wanted to.  And if you return to smoking, it's because you wanted to.  Not something you want to hear, I know.  It's not the stress and it's not the pain and it's not the loss you suffered that returns you to cigarettes, it's you.

So take smoking off the table.  Once you quit, KNOW in your heart that you will never....no matter what....ever pick up another one.  It's there in you where you'll find your quit.  It's through your strength, your commitment, your courage that you will keep your quit.

The NRTs, the EX site, the friendships.....are all for maintaining what you already have inside you.  You are the foundation of your quit.  Know that.  Because once you do, you will find your quit and you will delight in it.  I'm sure of it 🙂 

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2-3 weeks for most people to get through the initial worst.

a month

4 months-During the first 4 months is when most give in.

Stay the course.

Bnoq
Member

One of the best things I've read on the site.

SimplySheri
Member

Thank you so much, Bnoq‌.  That's very kind   

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Wow. Powerful. Finally coming to realize this.

YoungAtHeart
Member

Welcome!

Glad you found us!  When you are ready,  I suggest you write a blog to introduce yourself to the community ("Home" - under the Ex banner left top, then center blue box "Post to My Blog").  Getting involved is an important step here.  You might include your nicotine use history, your reasons for wanting to quit (I assume that's why you're here), your quit date (if you have set one) and anything else about yourself you care to share. 

Look forward to reading it!

Nancy.

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indingrl
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Jackie

YES - willingness and acceptance GOOD personal QUIT TOOLS

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dsprague
Member

So honest and true and to the HEART of it all.

Thank you very much.

Rachy2283
Member

This is really great!! Thank you so much for writing it

dsprague
Member

What you have written is totally true, the answers are with you, yes we do need help, but you have to want it from the heart.

Karejoy1
Member

I love this read! Very inspiring! Tomorrow will be day 1 for me!! Yay