Many Thanks

[Silverstar]

Good morning, everyone, it’s a great day to be smoke-free!

This will be my last message to this community, and I want to say how much I appreciate you and the role you played in my 115 days of not smoking.  I am not “going away mad” nor have I been defeated by technology; I simply don’t care for the new tone and the way some have responded to it.  There is negativity, yes, but also criticism, subtext, impatience, condescension and shaming over inconsequential things, and I don’t want to be a part of that.  I don’t want to defend against these things.  It is difficult enough to Quit and Stay Quit, and navigating snarky waters isn’t how I want to spend my personal Quit time.

I will miss the really wonderful, selfless people who made me feel the most welcome, you know who you are.  I will hold you in my thoughts and prayers.  You have helped a lot of people, and will no doubt usher many more through their journey of Becoming an EX.  I wish you and them safe travels.

Sincerely,

Jacqueline

[JACKIE1-25-15]

You have to follow your heart.  If your heart says go then you have to do just that.  You will be missed also the great funny inspiring interesting post you write  We care about you no matter what you choose.  Sorry you are uncomfortable and feel the need togo. Life is full of choices.  You have to do it for you.  Not smoking is just one of them.  Maybe when the new paint dries and the dust is cleaned up you will feel better and return.  We are all a work in progress until the day we die. I am staying around to help as much or as little as I can. 

[TerrieQuit]

Love your comment Jackie!

[elvan]

Jacqueline,

PLEASE reconsider, we are all a little crabby (or at least I was) with the new format but we are still the same people.  I cannot begin to tell you how much I looked forward to your blogs, your humor, your outlook on life.  I have no way to reach you unless we are able to PM each other and exchange emails.  I really do not want to lose track of you.  115 days is wonderful but please don't walk away from us.  I feel so saddened.  Perhaps she will reconsider, I really did look forward to her blogs, this is a time of adjustment and it is apparently not going to be easy for some of us but, like I said, we are the SAME people, we have not changed, if some responses seem condescending, I don't think it is intentional, please come back our Silverstar!

Hugs,

Ellen

[c2q]

I will miss you. I don't want you to go. The negativity always dies down in the end, but sometimes not before those that contribute the most selflessly take flight. People are struggling to learn. Some people are struggling to not loose their "standing" and it may distort their comments until they find there feet here.

It all comes out in the wash, eventually. Please turn that beautiful voice and sense of humor back around and point it at the things we need to get right here.

I believe it will happen. I hope you find a way to check back in here. Fare well.

[susan_m]

Lady J,

If only you knew how many of us are reaching out and connecting with each other since you published this. 

There have been real and personal connections made out of fear of losing contact with another community member the way we've lost you.

If you ever re-activate your account, you'll be welcomed. 

You'll be missed. 

Love,

Susan

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[Strudel]

I really hate to hear this....you have had a very special touch here! I will carry on - and, I will hope you return one day. No matter what, continue to protect that precious quit! 

[NewMe]

It looks like Jacqueline will not see this, but I will add my sorrow at seeing her leave. She has a great sense of humor, and always contributed some great stories that I am sure helped others along the path to freedom. So sad to hear of this departure.

[Daniela2016]

I am also sad to see Jacqueline go, but we need to consider we all have different levels of tolerance, and maybe she does it to protect herself and her quit.  Will she find a better place to help with the quit, sorry, I don't think so.  Not for a minute did I think when Ellen was so upset that she will go anywhere, or Thomas will.  Nor do I think Jacqueline is already strong enough in her quit to be on her own.  Yet, I might be wrong and she might just be.

In any case I wish her the best, I admired the way she evolved in her quit, she was a great person to be followed by newbies and she could have grown in a very solid elder. Maybe one day she will be back.

[CommunityAdmin]

Yes if she chooses to come back we'll gladly welcome her.  She asked for her account to be disabled.  I have honored her wishes and have done so. She's not getting any notifications for this so unless she purposely comes back to read this discussion, she will not see the comments.

Mark
EX Community Manager

[bacardigirl]

So sad to see you go-I hope you reconsider because you are/were such a HUGE part of this community!

Not everyone can handle change in a positive way, but it will pass. You didn't quit this site because of the change, you quit because if negativity. I work in IT and I know changes are not always accepted right away-I do hope you reconsider in a couple weeks after things die down-you will be missed so much!