Help!

[jojojojo4444]

I am at day 91 and I am a mess. I need support. My family is failing me now. They probably aren't, but I am super emotional. More so than the first few days of quitting. I want this hurt to be over. Please help me! I don't want to smoke, but it may make me tolerable to be around. Really lost right now. 

[Giulia]

Don't you dare give up your quit.  Not after 91 beautiful, hard-fought-for smoke-free days.  You're about to enter the Triple Digit Club.  How great is that!  Smoking won't make you tolerable to be around.  You'll still aggravate the heck out of SOMEBODY in your family.  Promise.  LOL.  

Come on.  Are you in this quitting thing for better or for worse?  Actually better and for worse.  Eventually it will be for better and better and better.  But the worse will raise it ugly head for a while yet.  

Today is just a messy day.  We have them.  Smoking won't make them any less messy.  Don't buy into that easy lie excuse.  Stay true the best of you.  And you'll awaken tomorrow and be very VERY glad you did.  

This family will NOT fail you.  Stick with us.  We're here for you through thick and think and in between.  It's ok to hurt.  Just part of the process.  You won't hurt forever because you quit smoking cigarettes.  Really you won't.  Stay the course.  

       And don't forget your sense of humor!

[JonesCarpeDiem]

https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex/blog/2011/05/24/no-mans-land-days-30-to130-appr... 

[indingrl]

Great Job and CONGRATS YOU DID IT JOJO ONE BREATHE AT A TIME! Keep on keeping on thank you for blogging when I panicik in EARLY withdrawl people who were staying quit said to educate MYSELF about MY nicotine addiction to SAY OUT LOUD NOT ONE PUFF OVER ME to say I DO NOT USE NICOTINE ANYMORE then they SUGGESTED to keep on keeping on by coming back telling on how I hurt and to VENT those EMOTIONS that were twisted from remembering OLD ways of SMOKING AT PEOPLE to THINK THINK THINK NEW write a blog walking in place taking 3 deep breaths and putting cinnamon on MY applesauce eating oranges drinking lots of water thanking God I am choosing life not early death from using nicotine YOU JOJO CHOSE to love you and live one SECOND at a time and have gathered 92 days GREAT JOB please take what helps and let go of the rest I am so REJOICING JOY FILLED with you JoJo you are STAY quit no matter how PAINFUL and WE WILL STAY QUIT TOGETHER in Lord Jesus name amen thats MY belief for ME and PRAY for you too! Gentle hug and thank you for SAVING MY life to REMAIN quit with you JoJo

[MichelleDiane]

You can get over this hump Jojojojo4444xxxx.  Just think about how far you've come and how you don't want to go back to day 1.  We are all here for you and it was great you came here first.  Deep breathing and water have helped me during the really rough times.  Hang in there and write as much as you want.  One day at a time.

-Michelle

[Roller831]

jojojojo4444‌ Let us know how you are doing.  You've gotten lots of good advice and assistance and hope it helped.  The new NML weekly check in post is up.  Feel free to check in there https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/thread/17317-nml-in-betweener-weekly-check-in-1292018 as well.  NML can be a rough place, but you've got this!

[minihorses]

Hello JoJo!  I'm on day 92 without smoking!  I want to say one thing, IT'S OK TO BE AN EMOTIONAL WRECK RIGHT NOW!  I had one of those yesterday and I'm sure the next one isn't too far away.  But here's the God's honest truth, smoking would not have made me feel any better or be any more emotionally stable.  None of my family ever smoked so nobody here can really give me support.  They don't even acknowledge the fact that I have stopped unless I say something about how long it's been or about a situation that was a trigger for me that I got through and how I got through it.  That's why the Ex community is so important for me.  I highly recommend that when you need to be acknowledged for your successes or helped in times of weakness you seek shelter in whomever your higher power may be AND the Ex community.  You will have such an outpouring of love and support you will be able to get through ANYTHING that is making you feel like a cigarette (or smoke of choice) will make it better.  It won't and never has or ever will make you feel better.  That's one of the key points to keep at the forefront.  The stupid cigarette does absolutely nothing FOR us and WILL NOT help any situation get better.  See it for the lying serpent it is and keep telling yourself that in order to not get bit by this poisonous snake you need to stop dead in your tracks, turn around and walk as far away from it's venomous bite as possible.  The next time you'll watch your step closer for anything that might be coiled and at the ready to strike along your path.  You can do this because you HAVE done it for over 90 days!!!  Let's hit the triple digit club together!  I got your hand whenever you need it.  Be good to yourself today!

Julie

92 DOF and lovin' it!

[crazymama_Lori]

NML is a tricky place to be.  Read some under https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/relapse-prevention?sr=search&searchId=12b0b801-247f-46ed-a...‌.  I'm sure your family thinks you should be over this already.  I'm sure you heard I liked you better when you were smoking.  Why are you so emotional all the time...... My one daughter is a smoker and really didn't like the idea of missing her smoking buddy.  the first 6 months is like a roller coaster ride.  You have good days and you have bad days.  Those bad days though are usually sparked by some memory you associate with smoking that you weren't planning on.  My very first came when I completed a very difficult job and I not thinking reached for my cigarette pack as my pat on the back, good job, whew that's done, now let's smoke.  I was about where you are right now.  Think of things you enjoy, could be a particular scent, a song, a taste of something, a picture.  when the blues hit, pull out those and lift your mood.  Go for a walk, take a drive.  If the bad days are sparked by one of your triggers, stress, for example, get yourself a stress ball or chomp on some gum, ice chips.  Smoking is never an option because you know one leads to twenty and you'll just be back at square one again.  I know for myself, I don't ever want to go back again.  Smoking will be staring me in the face, but it's just something that I used to do.  It's not part of who I am anymore.  Hang in there.  Trust knowing that your brain and your body is gradually healing itself and you're blossoming into a whole new you

[maryfreecig]

Double up on the things that helped you at the beginning of your quit. Keep your smobriety, grow it stronger each day not weaker. Focus on recovery rather than want--yes you can, one day at a time.

[kristen-9-7-15]

I’m late! How are you doing now? 91 now 92 days (hopefully) is great! Hang in there. It gets better!

[Daniela2016]

I am late too, but it is ok to cry.  My crying started way sooner than yours, and elvan‌ taught me crying is good, it releases the tension we are feeling when a crave hits.  Also Dale calls it "watering the cheeks"

Everybody reacts differently and have different solutions.  Learning how to meditate helped me a lot, you can find a bunch of free guided meditation on youtube.  I also went to Yoga (I was not consistent, but it helped for about 5 weeks or so while I took the classes).  And the deep breathing was, and still is my saving grace.  Because believe it or not, I get moments when I want to smoke, even after nearly 2 years smober.

Hang in there, take what helps you from all the responses, leave the rest.

You made it so far, you can make it permanent!