I am trying my hardest to stop smoking but I am getting frustrated with myself. This is hard but I need to stop before my health gets any worse.
I am new here too! I am 4 days smoke free. It has been great with the support of this group. Get into it here, feel the support and love, and feel your strength grow. And read and study all you can on here. And listen to the old timers. I wouldn't be nicotine free now without them!
Read as much as you can about quitting. The more you learn about nicotine addiction the more confidence you will have.Decide on a method will you be using an NRT or Chantix or doing it Smart Turkey? Continue come here and blog and use any other resources. You have set a date and that's good. Have confidence because you can quit lots of examples of successful quits here and you can be successful too!
Why do you get frustrated with yourself? This Addiction can be very challenging but even more so if you don't have the education and support - but now you do!
Go to quitsmokingonline.com and Read!
Download The Easy Way by Allen Carr and Read!
Go to whyquit.com and Read!
Go to Best of EX and Read!
Then read some more!
We can show you the way! Make a decision, pour on your determination, and take it one minute at a time - not in a white knuckle struggling sort of way - but embracing Smoke FREE Living!
I can't add anything to what Thomas has said, If you prepare for your quit by reading all you can about this addiction to nicotine, actually making a PLAN, what will you do INSTEAD of smoking when you feel a trigger? There are a multitude of things you can do and you can be successful. I am not going to tell you it is easy but I suspect you already know that. Start now, tracking your cigarettes, whenever you light up, ask yourself WHY? Write it down, write down how strong the crave was and when you know what your triggers are and which ones are the strongest, you can begin to build your quit kit. It should have in it a list of things you plan to do instead of smoking. When you do smoke, think about what it is doing for you, I think that, like the rest of us, you probably think it makes your life easier but the fact is that when you learn about it, you find out that it makes depression worse, it does nothing for pain whether it is physical or psychological, it does not relieve stress, it feeds it. Once you realize how it is actually making things WORSE for you, you will have a foundation. The keys to a successful quit are education and support and they are both available right here.
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Welcome to our community!
The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I also highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read.
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go the the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com, quitsmokingonline.com and quitwell.com for the good information contained there. @https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/groups/best-of-ex has lots of blogs written by members of this site with their experiences and guidance. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested in My Quit Plan http://www.becomeanex.org/my-quit-plan.php
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different. Buy your gas at a different station. Take a different route to work. Take a quick walk at break time where the smokers AREN'T.
You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
I can't add anything because everything is beautifully said above me, read everything you can about quitting smoking and Remaining Quit because there's a wealth of information to strengthen your resolve, believe in yourself and know that you can and will be successful one precious smoke free day at a time or if need be one minute or even one second but as long as you take that first step and kick the nicotine poison to the curb and live by N.O.P.E - Not One Puff Ever then you can and will be successful - it's a choice to smoke or not choose NOT!
Babygirl1979- you can do this but it's not without its challenges. Read all you can, get your quit kit ready and remember-we've all walked in your shoes and it does get easier. Your dealing with a nasty addiction that wants control-be stronger than your addiction-it's doable and you can do it!
Good luck to you and congrats on your decision to quit!
What To Expect In The First Four Months
"I am trying my hardest to stop smoking but I am getting frustrated with myself."
Why are you getting frustrated with yourself? Because you keep trying and then going back to smoking? Then you simply haven't figured out the key for yourself. The key for most of us has to do with educating ourselves about the addiction and our particular relationship with it. OUR particular triggers. OUR particular weaknesses to it. Some of us smoke when we're emotionally upset - angry, sad... whatever. Some of us smoke because it's a "reward" for a job well done. Some of us smoke because we're bored.
Actually all of us smoke simply because we've become addicted to the drug and then the behavior that is associated with that drug has kept us in slavery.
When you educate yourself as we all suggest on this site, you educate yourself in the physiological nature of addiction on your brain, but you also educate yourself in the behavioral aspect of it. That combination of educational awareness is death to the addiction. The third part of the quit triptych is your commitment. The latter is really all that matters for longevity,
When you find your commitment, you find your sticking place for a forever quit.
"This is hard but I need to stop before my health gets any worse." You know what you need to do. Accept whatever's necessary to stop - before your health gets any worse."
Please do all of the reading suggested....don't think it's unnecessary.......it's key.
Whyquit.com is a great place to go when you feel cravings and read the short articles and stories.
Coming to this site and interacting with everyone is also a huge help in quitting.
Quitting is hard.....no way around that. But it is not impossible! We all did it and we are no different from you!
Welcome to EX----we are all here for each other.
I'm assuming you've tried before and started again. The fact is that most people who have quit didn't do it on the first time. You learn something new every time you try. I only on day 1 right now, though this is probably the 10th (give or take) time I've tried.
I must agree though that learning all you can about this addiction is key to a successful quit. I've learned so much listening to what others have said. And reading all I can about it.
Since you mentioned your health - talk to your doctor, they can be a source of help as well.
Good Luck - everybody here is pulling for you. And that alone can make a world of difference!
You start one day at a time. One step at a time. Sometimes a moment at a time. You are in the right place for support. Read the suggest material. Education is the key to a successful quit. Go to www.whyquit.com. Read Freedom from nicotine my journey home. Also Nicotine 101. They are very informative about nicotine addiction.
Take your time reading all you can about quitting! Knowledge is power! Then you have to set your mind straight, and think about quitting smoking as an awesome step you are taking towards your healthier self. Understanding the addiction, knowing what to expect, understanding the power of your mind over your actions will put you in a winning position.
Be here, educate yourself, motivate yourself and it is going to happen, like Jackie says, one day at the time!
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