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Juliette67
Member

18TH MARCH 2017, MY QUIT DAY

Hi everyone I have just joined "become an ex" and would appreciate any help and advise.  Thanking you in advance.

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Bree19
Member

Hi and welcome Juliette.  

I'm not a wise one yet - only 16 days into my own quit...but rocking it!

Someone (many) will be along shortly to give you best advice and guidance - they really know their stuff. 

They might all still be hiding in bed...I heard they were expecting snow overnight.

Bree (Pretoria)

Juliette67
Member

Hi Bree you are doing so well.  It is awesome that you live in Pretoria, i feel that i have someone closer to me to talk to.  I live in Durban and was wondering if we have any support groups in our cities where one can go and meet other people also quitting 

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Bree19
Member

Hi again.

I've never investigated places in the cities - mainly because we now have only one car.

Start with this site - you won't be sorry - they are knowledgeable, funny, compassionate, full of love (the tough kind too!) - really human - just freaking far away!

Bree

susan_m
Member

Hey Juliette!  Welcome!  You've made a fantastic decision to quit - and joining this community will be a big help!

You're going to get lots of advice - take it!  

Here is one of my favorite blogs by by JonesCarpeDiem‌. It's filled with helpful information for a new quit.   I have read it so many times that I can almost quote it by heart:

/blogs/jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007-blog/2011/06/26/what-to-expect-in-the-first-four-months?sr=search... 

Mine is to stay connected here and blog.... blog a lot.  You can do this!

Susan

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JustSharon
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Hello Juliette and welcome to Become an EX. You've come to the best site, in my opinion, for help in quitting smoking. You have 4 days until you quit. Might I suggest you sit there and read as much as you can the many blogs and discussions.  Many are full of a wealth of information. Especially read the blogs of MarilynH, @jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007, Jennifer-Quit, Youngatheart.7.4.12  and there are so many others out there.

Get yourself prepared with a "tool kit" of crunchy snacks, and things to do with you're hands and mouth, like squeeze balls, rubber bands, straws to suck or chew on (I actually used a baby binky!) A craving will last only moments to minutes depending on how you deal with it. Best thing to do is simply say out loud "I don't do that anymore" until the crave passes. As far as triggers go. RUN RUN RUN from them, mentally and physically if that is possible in your situation. Those are just a few suggestions to get you started. I wish you the very best, YOU CAN DO THIS!

TerrieQuit
Member

Hello, Juliette67 and welcome to EX, I am glad you are here! I find this first link very helpful in navigating the site Welcome to our Community‌ and the information is this next link is a great read by one of our Elders and full of good  "stuff"! https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/message/68188-my-welcome-to-new-members-10-years-of-wisdom-?sr=se...‌. Keep blogging! and stay close!  ~Terrie~

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MarilynH
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Welcome to this site, we're all here for you and your upcoming quit, read everything you can about quitting smoking and Remaining Quit because there's a wealth of information to help strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb. 

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There you are! You joined our EX Family! 

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YoungAtHeart
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Welcome to our community!

Congratulations on your decision to quit smoking!  I'm glad you found us BEFORE your quit date so you have time to prepare for it - but you best get started right now.  I think you will be amazed, as you do the recommended readings, what you didn't already know about your addiction.

The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. Here is a link to a free PDF version of it:

http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf

 You should also read the posts here and perhaps go the the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com and quitsmokingonline.com for the good information contained there. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested on this site

After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort.  I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another.  I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.

The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced.  Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different.

You need to distract yourself through any craves.  You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game.  Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time.  You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits.    Get busy!  Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:

/blogs/Youngatheart.7.4.12-blog/2013/02/25/100-things-to-do-instead-of-smoke?sr=search&searchId=51d2...

The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?"  Then DO it.  You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.

Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!

Nancy