Hi everyone I have just joined "become an ex" and would appreciate any help and advise. Thanking you in advance.
Hi and welcome Juliette.
I'm not a wise one yet - only 16 days into my own quit...but rocking it!
Someone (many) will be along shortly to give you best advice and guidance - they really know their stuff.
They might all still be hiding in bed...I heard they were expecting snow overnight.
Hi Bree you are doing so well. It is awesome that you live in Pretoria, i feel that i have someone closer to me to talk to. I live in Durban and was wondering if we have any support groups in our cities where one can go and meet other people also quitting
I've never investigated places in the cities - mainly because we now have only one car.
Start with this site - you won't be sorry - they are knowledgeable, funny, compassionate, full of love (the tough kind too!) - really human - just freaking far away!
Hey Juliette! Welcome! You've made a fantastic decision to quit - and joining this community will be a big help!
You're going to get lots of advice - take it!
Here is one of my favorite blogs by by jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007. It's filled with helpful information for a new quit. I have read it so many times that I can almost quote it by heart:
What To Expect In The First Four Months
Mine is to stay connected here and blog.... blog a lot. You can do this!
Hello Juliette and welcome to Become an EX. You've come to the best site, in my opinion, for help in quitting smoking. You have 4 days until you quit. Might I suggest you sit there and read as much as you can the many blogs and discussions. Many are full of a wealth of information. Especially read the blogs of Marilyn.H.July.14.14., @jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007, Jennifer_Quit_05-01-, Youngatheart.7.4.12 and there are so many others out there.
Get yourself prepared with a "tool kit" of crunchy snacks, and things to do with you're hands and mouth, like squeeze balls, rubber bands, straws to suck or chew on (I actually used a baby binky!) A craving will last only moments to minutes depending on how you deal with it. Best thing to do is simply say out loud "I don't do that anymore" until the crave passes. As far as triggers go. RUN RUN RUN from them, mentally and physically if that is possible in your situation. Those are just a few suggestions to get you started. I wish you the very best, YOU CAN DO THIS!
Hello, Juliette67 and welcome to EX, I am glad you are here! I find this first link very helpful in navigating the site Welcome to our Community and the information is this next link is a great read by one of our Elders and full of good "stuff"! My Welcome To New Members (12+ Years Of Watching). Keep blogging! and stay close! ~Terrie~
Welcome to this site, we're all here for you and your upcoming quit, read everything you can about quitting smoking and Remaining Quit because there's a wealth of information to help strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb.
There you are! You joined our EX Family!
Welcome to our community!
Congratulations on your decision to quit smoking! I'm glad you found us BEFORE your quit date so you have time to prepare for it - but you best get started right now. I think you will be amazed, as you do the recommended readings, what you didn't already know about your addiction.
The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. Here is a link to a free PDF version of it:
You should also read the posts here and perhaps go the the pages of folks who you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com and quitsmokingonline.com for the good information contained there. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested on this site
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different.
You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
101 Things to Do Instead of Smoke
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
Welcome to taking the first huge step towards your freedom. I too smoked 1 pack/day for nearly 40 years, and just recently celebrated 1 year of freedom.
As many before me advised you to do, please do all the reading you can; it will help you set your mind in the right frame for the beautiful change you are making. And be happy and proud of yourself for the decision you made, came here and blog often, ask as many questions as you need to, don't be shy with your feelings, chances are many of us went through the exact same ones as you do, as you will.
It is what makes this place special, credible, and useful to all kind of quitters: it has the human, the peer experience being laid out for you to help! You can take what works for you, leave the rest.
Hi. I'm at day 3. I'm not bad today, yesterday was rough! it's one day at a time but definitely not as bad as I thought it would be!!!
Hi there Juliette - welcome to the site! You are in a great place for support. Be sure to read the Carr book Nancy mentioned - and stay close. You can do this!
I quit a day before you! We will do it. No Doubt! Nothing is stronger than a group of people. Together we can do anything!
Truth! There's no way I would have been successful without the support on this site. Welcome to EX!!
Hope you are still doing good? I'm day 8 so u must be day 9? Nighttime is the hardest for me for some reason... ugh
Congratulations on making the decision to quit smoking.
Welcome to EX. You have come to the right place for a new day and a rebirth.
This is all about you and what you are willing to do to be smokefree. Quitting smoking requires hard work. It can be challenging at times but you will learn that it is doable if you adhere to NOPE not one puff ever no matter what.
Start First, by educating yourself about nicotine addiction. Education is the key to a successful quit.
Read: Freedom from Nicotine My Journey Home and Nicotine Addiction 101
Here are the links http://whyquit.com/whyquit/LinksAAddiction.html and http://whyquit.com/ffn/
Also Read Allen Carr’s book, “Easy Easier Way to Quit Smoking”.
The link is here: http://media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf
Go to http://www.becomeanex.org/how-to-quit-smoking.php#thl and get started. We will support you. You are in your journey for freedom
Welcome to EX Juliette67. I would never have been able to stay off cigarettes without the support and the education I got from this site...read everything you can about smoking, about nicotine addiction and remember that quitting is not an event, it is a journey, it is one day at a time. It is not easy but it is SO DOABLE.
Stay close to the site, read and see how others have dealt with their quits.
A big hiya from SW Florida, Juliette!
I see all the regulars have commented on your post and welcomed you. Notice they've all quit for different periods of time. Most of them are referred to as our "Elders". There's a reason for that. They really know their stuff. Between them and all the tools offered on this site, you've got everything you need to quit.
The only thing they can't give give you has to come from within - desire, perseverence, and strength. You may or may not be ready to give up smoking. What you need to remember: don't be afraid to fail. Failing is temporary when you want to quit. You have to be ready. If you fail, make sure you take something away from the experience. This way, the next attempt will be a little easier because you'll be stronger for it.
Now, I'm no elder. As a matter of fact, I seldom come to the site. That doesn't mean I never think of the things people have said to me and offered as support. I am still taking Chantix, so it hasn't been that long. You see, I broke all the rules when I started my quit. I didn't pick a quit date. I allowed myself to smoke past the one week reccommended by the manufacturer. I used to smoke outside on my lanai. There's an ashtray out there with half of the last cig I ever smoked. (It serves as a reminder of the cage I built for myself). That was roughly six or seven weeks ago. But that was me. My way is not for most peoiple. I guess what I'm trying to tell you is while these people know the best way for almost everyone to give up nicotine, you might have something out of the norm you think may help your quit. Everyone's quit must be personal.
When I posted I intended to quit "My Way," I met with LOTS of opposition. That oppositition forced me to think about what I was doing and the plan I had made for myself. It also made me defend myself. I think doing that helped me find the strength to succeed. I couldn't let all these people tell me "I told you so!" In any event these people did, in fact, help me.
So while you're here, take advantage of what everyone has to offer. Listen and learn. Just don't be afraid to be yourself.
just call me Lisa
Thanks so much for all your advice. I quit on Sat 18th of March so today is my third day. I have managed quite well at home over the weekend but am battling today at work as have my little routines of going outside and smoking which i can no longer do. My collegue also smokes all the time so it is very difficuilt but will persevere. Thanks again
Hi Juliette -
You're experiencing pretty much the same things we all went through. I, too, have a close friend who is a heavy smoker, and I'm still avoiding her! We talk on the phone a lot.
Finding something else to do instead of taking that smoke break can be helpful. It's less than 10 minutes to fill, but that's 10 minutes of agony, isn't it? Don't worry. That feeling goes away eventually - especially since you're using Chantix.
I use it, too. After a couple of weeks, tobacco actually starts to taste bad if you should fall off the wagon. Then it starts to taste even worse. Hopefully you won't go down that road, but you might. That's okay as long as you get right back on the wagon and make your way.
I joined up with the EXers a year ago. Unfortunately, I failed big time. Looking back, I see I just wasn't ready. In October, I saw that I had an appointment with my pulmonologist coming up. (I have asthma). He really gave it to me last year; I didn't want to get scolded like that again. Within a month, I only smoked a couple of cigs a week. The pulmonologist was very happy with my progress.
Then I had the yard sale from Hell. I probably smoked 1/2 pack that day. I smoked another month or so after that. BOY DID I FEEL BAD!!! My chest hurt, I had trouble breathing, and I found myself needing that ol' rescue inhaler which I rarely use normally.
I went to my primary doctor for my yearly physical and told him what happened. He decided it was time for me to take Chantix, and here I am today.
I still feel like a recovering smoker and don't dare let my guard down. However, I do feel that I'll never smoke again. I reccomend looking to the future and don't look back. If I can quit, anybody can.
Thanks Lisa for all your good advice. I have stopped taking Champix today as feel it is a really strong and dangerous chemical to take and makes me feel so sick. My taste buds are up the pole and I am really grumpy and craving today.
I agree. Chantix is a really strong chemical. I've never had to follow the "take with food" instruction on any prescription I've ever taken. Imagine my surprise the first time I got nauseous from it. Then, there were a couple of times I didn't eat enough food and got a little sick.
I stuck with it though because nicotine is a strong chemical as well - maybe even stronger than
Chantix. Getting rid of cigs is THAT important. Now, even though I'm not a breakfast eater and am 30 lbs. overweight, I make sure I eat a couple pieces of toast, a small bowl of cereal, or even a doughnut or two! Fattening or not, it's still a means to the end of nicotine. First things first, right?
On the other hand, I've spoken with people who only used it for two weeks and then didn't need it anymore. I wish that was me. Alas, it's not.
I also have really good insurance and don't have to pay for my Chantix. Someone else told me they had to pay more than $200 for it. I would have had to find a different route for my quit if I had to pay that much money. Maybe that's why some people only take it for a short time.
So there's some food for thought for you!
Good morning, Juliette67 I hope you have a great day 2! ~Terrie~
Hi Thanks Terrie, day 1 and 2 went by much easily than today which is day 3. Am at work and battling away but determined not to give in:)
Well, happy day 3, Juliette67 Stay busy at work and hopefully, that will take your mind off of it. If you are not using NRT, the nicotine will soon be out of your body. I am glad that day 1 and 2 went well! There is hope for today! Stay strong and check in as often as you can! ~Terrie~
Thanks so much Terrie, I am on Champix which seems to help. Hope all goes well today and will check in with you guys if i get frantic:)
I don't think Chantix has nicotine in it! I am glad it is helping! See you later! ~Terrie~ Don't Quit on your Quit!
How are you doing, Juliette?
Battling along thanks Elvan, some days are better than others.
Juliette67 hang in there, girl, there are many of us walking this journey with you! Have you tried the pledge group? It's a pretty good quit tool. Here is the link
Spring into March 2017 with a Daily Commitment! Hope to see you there!~Terrie~
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