Hi Mark, right now I can't stop crying, I think it has been 46 days I am like a roller coaster, I feel like I am going to break, I do need so help. Helen.
Hi Mark, right now I can't stop crying, I think it has been 46 days I am like a roller coaster, I feel like I am going to break, I do need so help. Helen.
Thanks for getting back with me, I am just crying, and crying, It is just pouring out of me like someone died, I don't know what to do, sorry had to blow my nose, lol. I know I won't smoke but I don't know how to deal with this so I will be on the couch and check back later to see if you can keep me going, Thanks You so much for the help, it is like someone turned the water on and I cant't stop. Helen.
Just get through it any way you can. Hang in there - tears release feel good chemicals! When you can, maybe get outside for a bit. Helps to clear your head. Look at the clouds, maybe, and try to find a poodle (tee-hee).
Get some ice for your eyes when they stop flowing ---- keeps you from swelling blindness.
Stay in touch. I will be checking in from time to time all day.
Thinking of you and sending you feel better wishes!
Nancy
This journey definitely IS a roller coaster ride. Sometimes we just have to close our eyes and hang on tight! The suggestion that Nancy made about getting outside is a good one. Change of venue can help turn our thoughts in another direction. You're DOING THIS Helen. Pat yourself on the back! Just get through today. Just get through today. Hang in!
There is more to quitting than loss and goodbye. But the addiction does take a little time to work out of the system. When it leaves, you'll be restored to knowing what it's like to not smoke, not miss it, to live normal. What you feel today will not always be. Although feeling helpless is awful in and of itself, keep surfing it to your freedom from loss/addiction.
If watching video might help....
AT this site you will find a pile of quit smoking videos, some are success stories, some are on addiction....etc.
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCA1gA4GwZ-ZD84pwMC8MJeQ
I once thought that I could live without a cigarette, but that I could not live completely free from smoking, from thinking about it, from sensing something was missing. I thought I'd have to make do with feeling crappy. I was wrong. Just by not smoking and hanging in there, I made it out of the fog. So glad for it.
Keep the faith.
At this stage, you will notice you have good and bad days. Some days you cry if you drop something or even if you bump into something. Other days you're just fine. I noticed in my case it was cyclical. One month it stuck around for 3 weeks and the next month it was only for 2. It seemed to lessened as each month passed. Hang in there. 46 days is huge, really huge
It gets easier, even though it is hard to believe sometimes. You can do this, you really can. Smoking fixes nothing. Remember that and promise yourself you will not smoke unless you KNOW that a cigarette will really make things better. Once you accept that, the rest is just back to that one day at a time business...hang in there.
I went through a period of crying that I could not explain, I really think that it is because we are actually feeling things without trying to numb ourselves with nicotine. Life is filled with good and bad, happy and sad, it is filled with ups and downs, when we quit smoking we learn to deal with those things the way people who never smoked always did. Congratulations on 46 days, the more days you stack, the easier it will get. You will realize that smoking was not a friend, it was trying to kill you. Smile because you are taking care of yourself, you have a lot to be proud of.
Ellen
Oh, dear! Crying is OK - smoking isn't. We hid from our emotions for so long when we smoked that a lot of stuff we SHOULD have dealt with was not. The roller coaster emotions (and yes, crying) is a normal part of the withdrawal process. Don't let it scare you. You will be fine. It's just another step in your recovery from addiction.
Get outside - go for a walk - take a relaxing bath - call a friend - sing out loud to "Red Rubber Ball" - get a pedi - go window shopping on Etsy (you have 46 days of cigarette buying saved - so treat yourself!)
Just don't smoke - this is a necessary step.....hang in there - it gets better soon - I promise!
Nancy