Hi! I'm new to this site and need help desperately. My quit date is 2/27/17 and I have no idea what to do. It all seems impossible. I'm scared and have many questions. Is there anyone who can help me please? Thanks. Mary
Welcome to our community!
Most of us felt the way you do at the beginning. A good many of us smoked for many, many years - and used smoking to hide from our emotions, to celebrate, when we were hungry, or angry, or lonely or tired. It isn't easy - but it IS doable!
The secret is to read, plan, prepare and commit to never smoking another cigarette NO MATTER WHAT.
The most important thing you can do right now is to educate yourself on what nicotine does to your body and mind. To that end, I highly recommend Allen Carr's “The Easy Way to Stop Smoking.” This is an easy and entertaining read. Here is a link to a free PDF version of it:
As well, read the sections on this site, and read the blogs, responses and pages of folks you think might be helpful. You might visit whyquit.com and quitsmokingonline.com for the good information contained there. You should also do the tracking and separation exercises suggested on this site
After you have completed the recommended reading, it will be time to make an informed choice of the quit aid, if any, you will use. If you go that route, I personally recommend the aids that don't let the addict control the dose such as the available prescription drugs or the patch. If used properly, gum, lozenges and inhalers are fine, but they need to be used only as a last resort. I have seen folks become addicted to them if they substitute them for every cigarette they used to smoke - just trading one addiction for another. I do not recommend the e-cigarette for three reasons: 1) the vapor has been compared to the polluted air in Bejing on a bad day, 2) they just provide another nicotine delivery system while continuing the hand to mouth smoking motion, and 3) the batteries can spontaneously catch on fire. . But – any method that you think will work well for you will be best for you.
The idea is to change up your routines so the smoking associations are reduced. Drink your coffee with your OTHER hand. If you always had that first smoke with your coffee, try putting your tennies on right out of bed, going for a quick walk, then taking your shower and THEN your coffee! Rearrange the furniture in the areas you used to smoke so the view is different.
You need to distract yourself through any craves. You can take a bite out of a lemon (yup - rind and all), put your head in the freezer and take a deep breath of cold air, do a few jumping jacks, go for a brisk walk or march in place, play a computer game. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around in your brain unchallenged. Sometimes you need to quit a minute or an hour at a time. You will need to be disciplined in the early days to distract yourself when a crave hits. Don't let that smoking thought rattle around your head alone. Get busy! Here is a link to a list of things to do instead of smoke if you need some fresh ideas:
The conversation in your head in response to the "I want a cigarette" thought needs to be, "Well, since I have decided not to do that anymore, what shall I do instead for the three minutes this crave will last?" Then DO it. You will need to put some effort into this in the early days, but it gets easier and easier to do.
Stay close to us here and ask questions when you have them and for support when you need it. We will be with you every step of the way!
Welcome to the site! Nancy is right - be sure to check out the book at -
I also like www.quitsmokingonline.com - first online course.
And - be sure to stick around here! Again - welcome and congrats on deciding to quit!
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Hi Mary! Glad you joined our group! Definitely read the Allen Carr Book that Nancy gave you the link to. It will change the way you think of smoking.
Welcome Mary it was SUGGESTED to me to blog blog blog and they came and helped me in the beginning as to their experience at STAYING QUIT for me TOGETHER in Jesus name amen I stayed on this site for the first 90 days reading blogs. Big hug ad keep on keeping on.
Hello and welcome, Mary! I will leave you some links below that might help you navigate the site! Both are very interesting! ~Terrie~
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Start telling yourself to wait a little while when you want to smoke. No not to the point of torture just to get you to think before you smoke and get you off autopilot before you quit.
Welcome, you've got some great advice above me, read the links and everything you can about quitting smoking and Remaining Quit because there's a wealth of information here to strengthen your resolve to kick the nicotine poison to the curb and start living a life free from cigarettes, you can do this one precious smoke free day at a time!
Hi Mary. Welcome to EX. If you go to the Home page here and click on the upper right side on MY QUIT PLAN, you'll see a wealth of information presented and things you can click on, like Re-learn Habit, Re-learn Addiction, etc. My suggestion would be to delve into that area (and also the community support area) at the same time. Between the two you will be given the tools and understanding necessary to overcome this addiction. For most of us it's the education about the addiction that enabled us to take control of it, rather than being the victim of it.
Fear is a natural experience of ALL of us who endeavored to quit. We're afraid we won't be able to live our lives as we have without a cigarette. Who will I be if I don't smoke? How will I cope or enjoy an experience as much as I did without one? Smoking became a part of our identity. Stop smoking and we're afraid we not only won't know who we are, but won't know how to live our lives without smoking.
Sit still and just read. The more you read, the more you'll understand about the nature of this addiction and how to overcome it. Yes, it's an uncomfortable process. But it won't kill you. Smoking, on the other hand, will. Isn't that why you're here, after all? Because in your heart of hearts you know that cigarettes are eventually gonna take you down. One way or another?
If you're like most of us - you've made several attempts at this. But, like many of us, this can be your last attempt. It takes education (and HOMEWORK), commitment, acceptance of your choice to quit, and a willingness to go through whatever it takes to get to the other side of it - and perseverance. If you're willing to do the work, you WILL reap the rewards. There are people all over this community who can attest to that.
This is the most empowering journey you may ever experience. Embrace it. KNOW that you CAN succeed. And we'll walk the walk with you. Because we know what Freedom feels like. And we want that for YOU! Glad you've joined us. Chin up and Have Heart!
Screwed that up. Trying to find out how to find the home page. I did print out the Allen Carr helping aid and am enjoying reading it. I am just so afraid that I won't be able to do it. I know I have to. I was just diagnosed with Barretts esophagus that my doctor thought was cancer. Thank the good Lord it is not but if I keep this up it could become that. Nervous,tense,anxious is my description of myself!!! Thanks everyone for your replies. It means a lot to me Mary
mrusso3 wrote: Screwed that up. Trying to find out how to find the home page.
Screwed that up. Trying to find out how to find the home page.
You can find the home page by clicking the EX logo in the upper left of every page.
You are lucky. Barrett's can be treated. I had the worst type (hi grade dysplasia)
I have had about 8 treatments over the past two years and it is nearly gone.
You have the Best Advice, Mary!
These folks are Wonderful!
They helped me become an EX almost 7 Years ago!
You can do this!
As much as you can open your mind to the possibility that you might like it - the Better!
I love being Smoke FREE!
And so do these people!
Are You Happier Quit?
Good morning, Mary!Just breath and have carrots, celery, or apples. These are healthy and provide the "crunch" sound that helps with the cravings and keeps our minds at ease. You MUST keep yourself busy. Do NOT sit around. Contact me anytime you need help. I will be 3 years on the 18th of March! Crazy to me even now. May you have a great week. Carol Schelling
Welcome to EX. Your quit day is coming up...good for you. Do the reading, prepare yourself by learning about nicotine addiction. Keep track of your craves and rate them 1 to 5, with 5 being the strongest and then PLAN for what you will do when you quit, instead of smoking. Brush your teeth, do jumping jacks, mop the floor, go for a walk, reward yourself with something you really want. You can do this, I had my quit kit with me all the time and I read jonescarp.aka.dale.Jan_2007 page over and over again to know what to expect the first few months. I also came here every morning and every evening and sometimes more than once in between. I blogged when I felt like I was at risk, and I found more support than I could possibly imagine from people who knew EXactly what I was going through.
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