elvan Welcome back from your vacation. I hope it was relaxing. Sorry that you have come back only to become stressed. We certainly didn't intend on that.
The site has changed a bit and there are a wide variety of opinions at this point. We're soaking up all that feedback so that we can continue to improve. The old site had to be replaced and we looked at all the options and picked the best solution based on the feedback and needs of the community.
You are absolutely right about this not being a game. Yes there are quests so that people go through the different capabilities of the website to learn how to utilize the functionality available. It's not to indicate one person is better than the next. We're all equals. The more you know about the site and how to interact, hopefully the more able you are to benefit from interactions from others to quit.
There are rules to protect the members of the community. Unfortunately some people(usually the minority) think that when they're online that they can do anything because it is anonymous. When people act out against others, that's not ok. Quitting is hard, it's evident. I've read lots of posts on it. The CAPS rule is so that people don't get into shouting matches at each other. That's not constructive. Certainly if someone wants to provide emphasis on something then that's okay. We have some great formatting options now on the site that allows you to call out certain things. That's completely OK. Scientifically speaking it would be difficult to read a whole post in CAPS. Frankly, my head would hurt and I would probably stop after the second line. It takes more brain power to read all caps than it does lowercase because we read shapes, not letters.
As with all online communities there are rules you must accept to be part of the community.The rules are to keep the rule breakers at bay and protect the people who are there day in and day out. If there weren't rules and we let everything happen it wouldn't be a place anyone would want to be. Honestly I haven't had to enforce the rules that often but if someone is being abusive to another member of the community there needs to be something to reference to say... You broke X rule and so you need to either not do that any more you won't be welcome in the community. The community is sacred. It should be a place for everyone who wants to be here.
Yes the site has changed and things have moved around a bit. Most of the information is here but some is still pending (Message Board Posts, Forum Discussions and Private Messages). The old site didn't have a lot of "structure" or navigation so it appeared very simplistic yet we took something that was all over the place and consolidated things down as much we could to provide focus. Not everyone was into blogging so we have some lower effort options like Ask a Question and Start a Discussion to get more people involved.
We have a Getting Started Guide to help let you know how to do things on the site and we (scha exproductmgr) have people here who want help. If you have a question that isn't there you can post it in the https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/community/community-help?sr=search&searchId=19d4bb99-dd8d-4dbb-be... area and we'll respond.
I'm not sure why you had trouble getting to the https://excommunity.becomeanex.org/community/community-help?sr=search&searchId=19d4bb99-dd8d-4dbb-be... section. If it was your first time visiting the site after the move you would have had to accept the Site Rules before continuing if you had logged in. Once they're accepted then you can navigate around the site as normal. If you're just a Guest you can view the site without accepting the rules but you cannot participate. Because you have posted your question here, you must have successfully accepted the rules.
Please let me know how I can be of assistance. We've answered quite a few questions already so you can find answers by searching with the magnifying glass in the upper right. If you cannot find an answer, don't hesitate to ask a question here in Community Help and we'll do our best to answer it.
Mark
EX Community Manager
EX Community Admin Team
The site definitely takes getting used to. I'm not very computer savvy, but I will help you in any way that I can. We can do this-it's just going to take some time. Definitely don't go away! We need you here! 
