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Discuss different approaches to quitting, including medication

cindi
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Afternoon meeting/ Dinner with smoking friend....

Today was a first for me. Spending a substansial amount of time with a friend/neighbor whom i used to smoke with...strange. Part of me watching her smoke was saying gross ! and the other half was kinda making me anxious/nervous and wanting to get away from watching her. She did ask how my quit was going....but I could tell that she could really care less...she is almost 70, very healthy and active so....I guess good for her. But at my age, 50, it is a good thing that i have quit. For my blood pressure, my wallet, future wrinkles, etc,etc. Ok, sorry, just thinking outloud on the keyboard and venting. Thanks.
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kim20
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I totally know the feeling. I am on day 4 smoke free and work at a place where pretty much everyone smokes. I notice every time they come in how gross I notice they smell. And all I can think is wow, that was me. It almost makes me want to call everyone I ever smoked around and apologize to them for making them put up with that. I try to make myself think of that everytime I find myself wanting one. So far so good..........
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cindi
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I know ! It smells bad, looks bad...blah.blah....just don't understand exactly why people do it...when i started of course, it was the cool thing to do if you wanted to hang out with a certain group. I think I was just a "boredom" smoker...doing it for the most part when there was nothing else to do or to reward myself (hahaha) after accomplishing something.
Good luck with your quit ! and just keep thinking how much your co workers stink.
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sylvie
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hey Cindi!
but even if its gross, there is no little voice inside you that makes you want one?
see, when my husbands lights one in his office downstairs i think it is gross....but when i go to partys and people smoke, not so gross....i am still tempted, but not to worry never again....like last week i went to dinner with a friend and she doesn't smoke, and anyway there is no more smoking in public places where i live....but i still associate, "going out" with smoking....it surprised me,i thought i was over thinking,feeling that way!
incedious thing, ain't it!
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cindi
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Sylvie......yep. Triggers are strange. Can't smoke anywhere anymore except casinos and even then a couple of times i have had people ask me to put it out or acted defensively.
I am just wondering if my time with the neighbor might have had the exact opposite effect on her ? Maybe she was thinking...geez I should quit too.....she did mention looking into this new product that is kinda a fake cigarette...nicotine but lets off water vapor instead of smoke...have you heard of that ? I read about it in the Las Vegas paper several months ago.
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nancy41
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Hi Cindi! So far I haven't really been in many 'smoking' situations since I quit. But I have walked past the 'smoking' areas at work and it smelled pretty bad. This evening while I was walking my dog a car passed by and the people inside were smoking and they blew their smoke out the window. As soon as I smelled it I thought 'how nasty'. Before this I thought if I smelled smoke it would start a trigger for me but it didn't. I am glad, but now I am hoping I don't become a fanatical reformed smoker. Everyone who smokes now knows they shouldn't, they just haven't received their wake up call. Most of the people who know I am quitting are really happy for me! That helps keep me going.
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cindi
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Hi Nancy ! Nooooo. I will NEVER say something to someone who continues to smoke...even though I don't. To each their own, period. I will move on here as a happy non smoker...they don't know what they are missing besises a smelly, expensive,nasty, major health threatening habit with no benefits whatsoever, the way i see it anyway. Night. Stay stong. Do it.
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